If you are having sex with a guy and he makes you cum but he doesn't. Does that bother you? Just curious
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Holden
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I used to go out with a man who was so into his partner's pleasure that he literally couldn't reach orgasm without her pleasure first. It did mean that he was extremely good with his hands and his mouth though, which was rather a delight.
He taught me that reaching orgasm is not the be all and end all of sex. Sometimes just allowing pleasurable sensations to happen can be the aim, and in that case orgasms are a nice outcome, but they are by no means essential.
I always felt guilty if I had a lovely time and came repeatedly and he didn't, but it was his choice for things to happen in this way and my offer of mutual satisfaction was always there.
He taught me that reaching orgasm is not the be all and end all of sex. Sometimes just allowing pleasurable sensations to happen can be the aim, and in that case orgasms are a nice outcome, but they are by no means essential.
I always felt guilty if I had a lovely time and came repeatedly and he didn't, but it was his choice for things to happen in this way and my offer of mutual satisfaction was always there.
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Doesn't bother me as such but....I want my partner to cum, doesn't matter where or when but I want him to have the same pleasure that he's given me. If it kept happening I do think it would come to bother me.
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can't say that's ever happened to me. some guys have been stubborn, but i've always brought him to orgasm.
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Thank you all for your replies. I guess that I should have given some more information. That would be this.... If your lovers has brought you to orgasm would you be upset if he didn't cum at some point during your love making session? I recently met a lady that really rocked my world. I don't like to cum first and so I was using all the tricks that I knew about to not cum from the best blow job that I have EVER received. I stopped her, rolled her over and made her cum twice. At this point I was done. I just didn't have any more gas in the tank. She really wanted me to cum, but it just wasn't happening at that point. I think I got in my own head a little. I guess I have to remember that I am a whole lot closer to 50 then I am to 18. LOL Thanks again for everyone's input.
Holden
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Hey Holden, I dont think its about being bothered, but its about wanting the guy to have mutual pleasure too, especially if he's made her cum! Hope that helps. 
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Is that really possible? I know men who have Erection problems, but not being able to Ejaculate is not in my memory Bank.
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Never had it happen with me either, but yeah, it would bother me. OK, sorry... it DID happen once, with a guy in a couple we were swapping with. He was so nervous, he couldn't even get it up. I couldn't even suck him hard, so I felt bad for him, cuz I know how guys feel when that happens to them. He spent nearly an hour going down on me to make it up to me.
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depends on WHY he doesn't cum, i guess. maybe it's cause i tell him not to.
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This happens quite frequently to me. I'm not one of those women that have trouble coming. My hubby is one of those guys that can keep it up forever but doesn't always cum. He insists it doesn't matter but I know it does. Plus he can't ever get off if he gets head.
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I've had that problem for a period of time. When we were making love, I got a good hard erection and I could keep on going endlessly. As long as stimulation was there, my erection stayed. I did not come however, no matter what we tried. At first, both me and my partner enjoyed that I suddenly seemed to have the stamina of a pornstar, but after a while it became frustrating. My partner began to feel inadequate, because she could not make me cum and after a couple of weeks, I became frustrated too, because one of the rewards for good sex, an orgasm, was withheld from me. It turned out to be a side effect of the Seroxat (an SSRI) I was prescribed and shortly after I stopped using it, things returned to normal.
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it would bother me, but not in the sense of being irritated. i'd want to know that he enjoyed himself as well.
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Is that really possible? I know men who have Erection problems, but not being able to Ejaculate is not in my memory Bank.
Age, medication, health issues - and just having sex again too soon. All sorts of reasons. Guys sometimes won't tell their partner if they don't get off, in my experience. And other guys can't cope with it and have a nervous breakdown when it happens.