Assuming he did not tell you and you found out;
Just wondering what your opinion was, of your husband or steady boyfriend got a handjob from the massage lady, ??
Is it different if he's getting them regularly as opposed to a one off on a drunken night with the guys?
Would it make a difference if he was the one that admitted it?
You mean like he pays for one? Heck yes it would upset me. If she needed the money he should have just given it to her, not paid so the house got a cut! He's got tons of friends that would have given him the job for free, not like he needs to pay.
I can't imagine him not telling me, because we have always openly shared our sexual dalliances with others. That's what an open relationship is all about. No lies and no jealousy. We even share our intentions before anything sexual happens with others. But if the deceit was deliberate, it would take a lot of explaining since there would be no inherent reason to do so.
Thanks for your replies
I wonder if everyone would feel the same if the guys bought your man a lap dance at a pub/club?
Would it matter to you if he climaxed or not, or is a lap dance, a lap dance in your opinion?
Lap dance isn't much different. I've bought him a couple and I've been treated to a few. Was all good fun.
It's much better if both are on the table getting that deep sensual massage by total strangers..OMG..love it
A lap dance at a strip club? Seriously, that's nothing. Now if a guy cums in his pants from a lap dance, then either his wife/fiance/girlfriend doesn't give him any or what she does give is very lame.
Women generally behave much more aggresively and horny getting lap dances from male dancers than vice versa. But women strippers usually give extra-sensual lap dances to other women. That's why husbands love watching their wives get lap dances at strip clubs.
Now handjobs at a massage parlor? I have no idea as l've never been in a happy ending massage parlor.
If you’re in a relationship with me then I expect that I’m the only woman getting in your pants. That is a huge deal breaker for me
If they didn't say anything it would be different in the sense, I would be more offended since they felt they had to hide the indiscretion from me. When in relationship with a man, I realise they have needs that might not be satisfied by one woman alone so I would be okay if they wanted to get a handjob or blow job from another woman, but once it turns to intercourse is where I'd say for me that's what would be cheating.
