I love it when my girls come (Which mostly they do!!!!) but SOMETIMES that doesn't happen.....
And we cuddle and hug afterwards and she tells me it doesn't matter but.....
Does It?????
xx SF
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Ladies...... Does it ruin the experience if you DON'T come?
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if it doesn't happen often with the same girl its all right. sometimes seeing our lover enjoy himself is enough but you need to make sure its rare.
For me it depends if he's tried or not, if he's just done a wham-bam-thank you-ma'am then I won't be too impressed.
But if he's explored further and experimented a little... then I won't knock him for it, past experience suggests that I'm not the easiest customer in that department anyway so I don't hold it against them.
Usually I'll point them in the right direction or stop to suggest what works for me, but what can I say? I get lazy sometimes and can't be bothered with this teaching business!
But if he's explored further and experimented a little... then I won't knock him for it, past experience suggests that I'm not the easiest customer in that department anyway so I don't hold it against them.
Usually I'll point them in the right direction or stop to suggest what works for me, but what can I say? I get lazy sometimes and can't be bothered with this teaching business!
I've never come during so its not a big deal at all for me. Yea it does all depend of how much effort he's put it in as well, if he's completely selfish i'm more likely to be pissed off that i didnt at least get close. But hey, i think for me its more of a self conscious issue so thats not really something that guy can do for me.
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Fiction: Most lush male members have a 12 - 16 inch cock (except for magical_felix who has a whopping 16.5 incher) - most, if not all lush female members will always come and at the same time as the male 
Fact: Women take on average 20 minutes of stimulation and arousal to have an orgasm and only 20 percent of women are able to orgasm with intercourse alone - most women need some sort of direct clitoral stimulation - hint, hint.
Studies show that about 10 - 15 percent of women have never experienced an orgasm, and 50 percent of women have had trouble getting aroused at some point.
Studies have also shown that more than seventy percent of women in the world are not getting their orgasm and may be faking it when they say they are.
So back to the question lol. No it doesn't. Sex is still fantastic with or without.
Now back to hiding under my
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Fact: Women take on average 20 minutes of stimulation and arousal to have an orgasm and only 20 percent of women are able to orgasm with intercourse alone - most women need some sort of direct clitoral stimulation - hint, hint.
Studies show that about 10 - 15 percent of women have never experienced an orgasm, and 50 percent of women have had trouble getting aroused at some point.
Studies have also shown that more than seventy percent of women in the world are not getting their orgasm and may be faking it when they say they are.
So back to the question lol. No it doesn't. Sex is still fantastic with or without.
Now back to hiding under my
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Fiction: Most lush male members have a 12 - 16 inch cock (except for magical_felix who has a whopping 16.5 incher) - most, if not all lush female members will always come and at the same time as the male
Fact: Women take on average 20 minutes of stimulation and arousal to have an orgasm and only 20 percent of women are able to orgasm with intercourse alone - most women need some sort of direct clitoral stimulation - hint, hint.
Studies show that about 10 - 15 percent of women have never experienced an orgasm, and 50 percent of women have had trouble getting aroused at some point.
Studies have also shown that more than seventy percent of women in the world are not getting their orgasm and may be faking it when they say they are.
So back to the question lol. No it doesn't. Sex is still fantastic with or without.
Now back to hiding under my
Ok, I am a male Lusher and I am a mere 8 1/2 long and thick, darn I feel short changed. As for your facts and conclusion, spot on.
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Unless I am exceptionally tired, too drunk/high, or I'm not really into the guy or the sex... I kinda need and want that orgasm. 
As a 'one-off' occurrence or an occasional "I just didn't get there" despite a guy's best efforts situation, I really wouldn't worry though.
If it keeps happening with the same partner, a conversation is definitely warranted. Maybe she's in that percentage that can't come, or maybe she needs a different kind of stimulation that she's too shy to verbally suggest or direct, or she might just be too uncomfortable with a new partner to really just 'let go' enough to have an orgasm. If it's a new partner, it might take time for her to get into her sexual groove and open up.
As a 'one-off' occurrence or an occasional "I just didn't get there" despite a guy's best efforts situation, I really wouldn't worry though.
If it keeps happening with the same partner, a conversation is definitely warranted. Maybe she's in that percentage that can't come, or maybe she needs a different kind of stimulation that she's too shy to verbally suggest or direct, or she might just be too uncomfortable with a new partner to really just 'let go' enough to have an orgasm. If it's a new partner, it might take time for her to get into her sexual groove and open up.
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In a word, yes, no, and maybe.
Sometimes NOT cumming is part of the 'game'. As a sub, there are times when i'm told i'm not allowed to cum. My girl drives me to the edge, and leaves me hanging there for however long she chooses. It's frustrating, it's cruel, and it drives me into a sexual frenzy. i both hate it and love it.
Sometimes, all i want to do is to give pleasure to my partner, to make him/her cum. Yes, me having an orgasm would be nice, but it's secondary; giving them an orgasm is the goal, and it's satisfactory in itself and afterwards, i'm more then happy to just snuggle, etc.
Sometimes i am greedy. I want to cum. If my partner can't make me cum, i will, literally, take matters into my own hand. I'm not shy about masturbating in front of a partner (i know some are) and it's not meant as an insult, in fact, letting them watch is a turn on all by itself. Sometimes, partners have chosen to have their feeling hurt by this sort of a 'i can't make her cum, so she's forced to do it herself'. They shouldn't. It just happens at times.
That said, i'm very orgasmic, normally. orgasms come fairly easily, but everyone has their off days, and sometimes, it takes a little extra work. Not everyone is willing to put in the extra effort, and dammit, i deserve it, so i'm going to do it myself.
there are those rare times when i'm just not into my partner. I realize quickly that oops! should have slipped out the back door. i go thru the motions, fake the orgasm (usually timed with theirs) and pack up my things and move on as fast as i can. "yeah, sorry, didn't know it was so late - supposed to be meeting my mom at Denny's for Dinner. See ya!"
Sometimes NOT cumming is part of the 'game'. As a sub, there are times when i'm told i'm not allowed to cum. My girl drives me to the edge, and leaves me hanging there for however long she chooses. It's frustrating, it's cruel, and it drives me into a sexual frenzy. i both hate it and love it.
Sometimes, all i want to do is to give pleasure to my partner, to make him/her cum. Yes, me having an orgasm would be nice, but it's secondary; giving them an orgasm is the goal, and it's satisfactory in itself and afterwards, i'm more then happy to just snuggle, etc.
Sometimes i am greedy. I want to cum. If my partner can't make me cum, i will, literally, take matters into my own hand. I'm not shy about masturbating in front of a partner (i know some are) and it's not meant as an insult, in fact, letting them watch is a turn on all by itself. Sometimes, partners have chosen to have their feeling hurt by this sort of a 'i can't make her cum, so she's forced to do it herself'. They shouldn't. It just happens at times.
That said, i'm very orgasmic, normally. orgasms come fairly easily, but everyone has their off days, and sometimes, it takes a little extra work. Not everyone is willing to put in the extra effort, and dammit, i deserve it, so i'm going to do it myself.
there are those rare times when i'm just not into my partner. I realize quickly that oops! should have slipped out the back door. i go thru the motions, fake the orgasm (usually timed with theirs) and pack up my things and move on as fast as i can. "yeah, sorry, didn't know it was so late - supposed to be meeting my mom at Denny's for Dinner. See ya!"
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... she tells me it doesn't matter but ... Does It?????
Yes.
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Maybe you ladies can give me some insight.
Unlike the other women I've been with, my current wife seems somewhat indifferent to orgasms. Most women I've been with wanted me to finish the job (orally or with fingers--which I was happy to do) if they outlasted me. My wife, though, once I've come, whether she's already come or not, just wants to cuddle at that point, she actually discourages me from any further stimulation. I've tried to ask her about this, but she just turns the question around into 'didn't you enjoy it?', which I certainly did..
Unlike the other women I've been with, my current wife seems somewhat indifferent to orgasms. Most women I've been with wanted me to finish the job (orally or with fingers--which I was happy to do) if they outlasted me. My wife, though, once I've come, whether she's already come or not, just wants to cuddle at that point, she actually discourages me from any further stimulation. I've tried to ask her about this, but she just turns the question around into 'didn't you enjoy it?', which I certainly did..
Quote by MorganHawkeQuote by stephanie
... she tells me it doesn't matter but ... Does It?????
Yes.
After what seems like a hundred "don't really worry too much about it" replies I get this.....
And from her.......
Now I'm SERIOUSLY worried!!!!!
(And it really hardly ever happens!!!)
(She'll probably correct my grammar now..... I LOVE her but she's a bitch!) LOL!
(I pray that she knows I'm joking????!!!!????)
xx SF
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For me I do enjoy cumming, but I can masterbate just as well. When I have sex sometimes I am so focused on the other person and making them cum and hopeing that they enjoy it, that often times I get more pleasure from giving them pleasure. I would be more dissatisfied if they didn't cum then if I didn't cum. I just love watching people's orgasms...it is really exciting.
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I love to cum, as Im sure everyone else does too. I am very orgasmic and usually do not have any problems cumming during sex. Sometimes I may have to help out a little when with a man, but usually the guy doesnt mind. But for me, the greatest pleasure is making my partner cum. As long as they cum, I am happy.
But as someone already said, not cumming sometimes is part of the game. When I was younger, this would happen (or not happen) often and I would be upset but as I got older, I began to realize that it was OK and enjoy the wonderful feelings I was having even without that final climax. And that is when I learned to be more relaxed during sex and then orgasms came faster and more frequently.
Its like if you watch a movie mystery for 2 hours. You enjoy all the twists and turns as they hunt for the killer, decypher the clues, determine who and bring him to justice. And then during the murder trial, just as the jury foreman is reading the verdict, the movie ends. Disappointing,yes, but you really enjoyed the last 2 hours!!!
Dont always worry about the final destination, enjoy the journey!!!
But as someone already said, not cumming sometimes is part of the game. When I was younger, this would happen (or not happen) often and I would be upset but as I got older, I began to realize that it was OK and enjoy the wonderful feelings I was having even without that final climax. And that is when I learned to be more relaxed during sex and then orgasms came faster and more frequently.
Its like if you watch a movie mystery for 2 hours. You enjoy all the twists and turns as they hunt for the killer, decypher the clues, determine who and bring him to justice. And then during the murder trial, just as the jury foreman is reading the verdict, the movie ends. Disappointing,yes, but you really enjoyed the last 2 hours!!!
Dont always worry about the final destination, enjoy the journey!!!
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Exactly. I usually cum, but not always. I don't sweat it either way, I love sex.
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WHAT? Fuck. Never would have guessed that. ;)
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I love sex.
WHAT? Fuck. Never would have guessed that. ;)
really? wow... you're a little dense than - i figured that out like weeks ago!
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"I hate it when things don't go my way. It makes me so...horny." - Sarah Michelle Gellar (Kathryn, Cruel Intentions)
"Sex is just alone time with someone else there." - Taint on The Lex And Terry Show, 11/11/09
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I don't have to cum everytime, but would like to most of the time. If I really am determined to have an orgasm I will tell the guy to keep going, lick me until I do or ask if he wants to watch me get myself off.
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there are those rare times when i'm just not into my partner. I realize quickly that oops! should have slipped out the back door. i go thru the motions, fake the orgasm (usually timed with theirs) and pack up my things and move on as fast as i can. "yeah, sorry, didn't know it was so late - supposed to be meeting my mom at Denny's for Dinner. See ya!"
HAHA, I have definately used the OMG i forgot i have to work excuse!
now returning to the thread: the relationship Im in right now has me currently sexually frustrated. (been in it for 2yrs) we have had some really great sex, but recently it has gotten more and more one sided. so if you had asked me a few months ago I would have said, nope, its one of those things sometimes I cum, sometimes I cum multiple times and it just evens out. Now, I am getting frustrated by a lack of effort on his part. This is starting to affect our relationship as a whole...
I think the simple solution is for more woman to say what they want or need. If the guy is into you he will try to deliver that. Or you can explore together if something doesn't work for you.
Sometimes I just want to get him off and I'm happy to please him. But if I'm in THAT mood where I have to get mine - I'm more aggressive about it - or at least I communicate it. Like I will ask for things - usually oral or nipple stimulation something to get my engine going. If I don't say something he is gleefully ignorant, while I'm secretly pissed. That's not a good situation and it can be fixed Ladies!
In a nutshell - Yes sometimes it's okay if I dont' come. But I also need to communicate when it is important to me.
Stephanie - maybe you can start it - just let her know if she needs something your wililng and that her cumming IS important to you also. (Evidently it is because you are seeking an answer!). You're awesome for this btw!
Sometimes I just want to get him off and I'm happy to please him. But if I'm in THAT mood where I have to get mine - I'm more aggressive about it - or at least I communicate it. Like I will ask for things - usually oral or nipple stimulation something to get my engine going. If I don't say something he is gleefully ignorant, while I'm secretly pissed. That's not a good situation and it can be fixed Ladies!
In a nutshell - Yes sometimes it's okay if I dont' come. But I also need to communicate when it is important to me.
Stephanie - maybe you can start it - just let her know if she needs something your wililng and that her cumming IS important to you also. (Evidently it is because you are seeking an answer!). You're awesome for this btw!
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unfortunately --- sometimes it has to do with the girl and sometimes it doesn't. you never know. I've been with guys who were great but just Took. Too. Long. Don't be obsessed with me and if I feel like you're really enjoying me, I'll likely cum. But it is mostly intellectual with body stimulation.
Guys and their egos usually want to be "really good", so they go down for every and don't cum for ever, proving how good they are, even tho I'm bored to tears.
Guys and their egos usually want to be "really good", so they go down for every and don't cum for ever, proving how good they are, even tho I'm bored to tears.