Ladies what's your thoughts on a FWB

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This may sound stupid - but what is a FWB?

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Friends-with-Benefits.... ie. it's a nicer way of saying Fuckbuddy. lol

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Friends-with-Benefits.... ie. it's a nicer way of saying Fuckbuddy. lol

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To answer the OP - FWB is a tough one if there is a legit strong friendship there already and you're just hooking up recreationally. If you get along as friends and you enjoy having sex with the person, what precludes going for the full relationship, right? I think feelings always get in the way in those situations and one person ends up liking the other person more than they let on at first which ends up becoming a messy situation where someone ends up hurt and the friendship ends up at risk as well.

If the friendship is more casual and acquaintance-based, then this can work if there's certain expectations set up ahead of time, or reasons why neither of you would work in a real relationship or long-term situation (ie. age difference, you live in different cities, career/work focus, the intellectual/emotional side is lacking but the physical attraction and sex is great)... as long as both people 'get the big picture', a FWB can be a lot of fun. Because you're primarily meeting because of a sexual connection, the sex is often hotter and more uninhibited - you're less likely to worry about freaking the person out or being judged, so people often unleash their more raw uncensored desires, dirty talk and fantasies.

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To answer the OP - FWB is a tough one if there is a legit strong friendship there already and you're just hooking up recreationally. If you get along as friends and you enjoy having sex with the person, what precludes going for the full relationship, right? I think feelings always get in the way in those situations and one person ends up liking the other person more than they let on at first which ends up becoming a messy situation where someone ends up hurt and the friendship ends up at risk as well.

If the friendship is more casual and acquaintance-based, then this can work if there's certain expectations set up ahead of time, or reasons why neither of you would work in a real relationship or long-term situation (ie. age difference, you live in different cities, career/work focus, the intellectual/emotional side is lacking but the physical attraction and sex is great)... as long as both people 'get the big picture', a FWB can be a lot of fun. Because you're primarily meeting because of a sexual connection, the sex is often hotter and more uninhibited - you're less likely to worry about freaking the person out or being judged, so people often unleash their more raw uncensored desires, dirty talk and fantasies.

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Friends-with-Benefits.... ie. it's a nicer way of saying Fuckbuddy. lol

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still laughing as i didnt know what a fwb was either...

so here are my thoughts...& again..just my thoughts(please dont go all postal on me.. what u do in your own life is your own business)...

very few people will say to their fwb..i just want sex..there is zero chance of me ever dating you...period...u are just an orgasm to me...

basically your fwb is a fill in till you find a person you can connect to with your heart as well as your body..which is ok

but very few people can do that...you have feelings for people you have sex with on a regular basis....& if you love to have sex with them most likely they will fall in love with you

so how about keeping that buddy as a buddy

lovers come & go...friends are for life...

This is a tough one. Human nature can be a real bitch, and I don't think you can ever win against her.

I think the only time that FWB can really truly work is when the friendship is very temporary - like someone you meet on a vacation trip you never expect to see again. I've had a few guys in my life like that - twice when on trips with my parents, and a few trips with friends in college. You meet someone, you click, you spend a little time getting to know them, then you "scratch each others' itches" ... for a week or 10 days or a few weeks - whatever. But you know it has a time limit...

The worst attempts at FWB are when you promote a guy from the "friend zone" to the FWB zone -- the promotion happened because you like the guy, and FWB is almost, by definition, 100% casual no-strings sex. That doesn't happen with friends, because friends develop feelings, and feeling develop into affection and love, while the FWB is just lust (which is GREAT, don't get me wrong). I promoted a friend from high school (great friend, no sex, just one of those "you can talk about anything" type of guys) from the friend zone into the FWB zone in college (on a trip to visit home). It was great from a while, but then the feelings started growing, and he was getting jealous that I enjoyed the sex but didn't want him to be a real boyfriend. Wrecked a very nice friendship for a while. We've recovered a bit, but it is still awkward sometimes.

Friends are friends, lovers are lovers, fuck buddies are fuck buddies - and those statuses really can't change easily. (and by that, I mean that I think that moving a guy from a true, really good friend status to FWB status is actually a downgrade . Good friends are hard to come by, and sometimes hard to keep because we all travel around and relocate so much these days. Finding a guy who's a good fuck is simple, and they're all over the place. The guy you move into the FWB zone might have wanted you for a long time, and you probably thought something like "its only a blowjob or handjob", or maybe "just one quick fuck won't be a problem". Well, for friends, it changes everything. And not usually for the better.

I don't think I could live without them, They make for the perfect booty call.

They are the real people in your need.