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My wife wants to go on an all girls trip to a resort, should I be ok with it?

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my wife's friend just finalized a divorce and she wants my wife to go to some all inclusive place in mexico or some place like that. what do you girls think i should say? what would be happening or have you girls done on one of these trips. please let me know.
honeydipped
The Bee's Knees
i don't understand why you would have a problem with it, unless you don't trust her. trips like this are what helps women (and men) bond. if it IS indeed to help her friend move on from an important event in her life, i'm sure your wife, and her other friends, are focused on making the new divorcee feel better. take heart in knowing that your wife wants to see her friend happy and help ease this transition.

Say. Her. Name.
Sirene_Jaune
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With a user name of "looking4fun123" how should I take you seriously double standards there.

In answer to your question your wife is a grown arse woman and she can do what the fuck she pleases without your permission. Only an insecure person would post a question like this.

I have been on girl trips and I am still with my husband for ten years. I call him every evening to say what I am doing. I hope your wife has heaps of fun with her divorced friend. smile
reggie123
Advanced Wordsmith
My wife can do and does as she pleases. She still asks me if I mind when she's planning an outting after 17yrs. Never once have I objected. I trust her more than anybody in the world. She knows how to have fun and be safe and I have never felt the need to worry or babysit her in any way. Sounds like you may have trust issues. As Jaune said she calls and says goodnite if at all possible. Woulnt trade her for love nor money
patokl
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You speak of "some all inclusive place in Mexico". Do you know where? If she's unwilling to tell you, I'd worry. It also makes a difference if it's Club Med or Hedonism II. I'm sure you can see why. Beyond that? I think you know her and her friends better than any of us, so judge based on what you know, not on what we think.
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avrgblkgrl
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Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Don't feel threatened by or worry about your wife wanting to spend time with the girls, specifically regarding the situation. If you trust her there shouldn't be any question about what she will do. You know your wife. Men go out for drinks, watch the game together, spend all day golfing (sometimes travel for it) and go hunting. Your wife doesn't suspect you of anything that would disrespect her or your relationship. I'm a bit weary of men that do not have same sex friends or women that have none as well. When she gets back, most likely she will appreciate your relationship better.
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Dani
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Is there a reason you wouldn't be okay with it? Has she ever given you reason to doubt her before? If she's going on a vacation to comfort a friend, I'm sure getting vacation sex is far from the goal.

And if your wife going on vacation with her female friends is something that makes you insecure, you've got bigger problems than what she'd possibly do on vacation.

Side note: If you want women to tell you about how we go on vacation and get freaky with strangers, all you gotta do is ask.

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HotWife4U
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Quote by avrgblkgrl
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Don't feel threatened by or worry about your wife wanting to spend time with the girls, specifically regarding the situation. If you trust her there shouldn't be any question about what she will do. You know your wife. Men go out for drinks, watch the game together, spend all day golfing (sometimes travel for it) and go hunting. Your wife doesn't suspect you of anything that would disrespect her or your relationship. I'm a bit weary of men that do not have same sex friends or women that have none as well. When she gets back, most likely she will appreciate your relationship better.


I agree whole heartedly. I've been on a few cougar trips myself. Lol. To tell the truth hanging out with a bunch of divorced chicks comparing who's hubby was the biggest ass hole, is not entertaining. Neither is hearing who's hubby is next to make partner or get the big bonus. I'd rather just hang with my boys. Guys are pretty basic.
Nikki703
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It could be she wants to go out partying with her friends and bang as many new guys as she can. Or maybe she wants to explore her Bi side and they are planning an all girl orgy. OR maybe she just wants to support her friend who is having a rough time dealing with her divorce.

The real question is do you trust your wife? Has she given you reason to not trust her? Like someone already mentioned what type of resort is she going to? Is she being secretive about it?

Not knowing anything about your relationship with her makes it hard to really know how you should feel or if you should be worried. ONLY YOU know that!
Guest
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Ok, guy perspective - divorced guy. You might try something like " Honey, I think that's a great idea - who can help her more than you?" And don't ask many questions.
If she thinks you need to know x, y or z she'll tell you. To a significant degree it's none of your business.
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Did you ask ur wife if she minds that you come on lush and interact with other women? As I am sure you can see from experience, she doesn't even have to leave ur home to have sexual interactions with someone else if that's what she wanted. In my opinion, it would be kinda hypocritical to question her motives.
CheetNWifeSlut
Advanced Wordsmith
Sounds like you maybe concerned she will do what you did on your last Golfing Trip with the guys. If you hired someone like me to entertain where is the harm in a little after dinner fun.

Yes, she may do just like you did on that trip and who is to say that is bad. In fact I think it is rather healthy.

You may find your relationship improved when she returns.
sprite
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Obviously, the whole idea behind the trip is one crazy ass lesbian gangbang orgy from which she'll never come back. if you're okay with her becoming a carpet munching man-hating lesbo, go right ahead and tell her to enjoy herself, otherwise, man-up and do what any other self respecting male would do - show her who wears the pants in the family and make her wait on you hand and foot while you watch sports with your buddies. don't let her make you her bitch, dude.

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Mysteria27
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I have been married for 16 years and my husband and I always traveled together. I would not want him going anywhere out of the country with this friends and vice versa.

I will be the other side of the coin and think it's really not necessary.

I could see for an overnight trip perhaps at a hotel with girlfriends but for any longer then one night. No Way!

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julie_bristol
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Of course, what's the issue here? She's not your possession. Don't you trust her?
Just my thoughts....
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Dancewithme
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Quote by avrgblkgrl
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Don't feel threatened by or worry about your wife wanting to spend time with the girls, specifically regarding the situation. If you trust her there shouldn't be any question about what she will do. You know your wife. Men go out for drinks, watch the game together, spend all day golfing (sometimes travel for it) and go hunting. Your wife doesn't suspect you of anything that would disrespect her or your relationship. I'm a bit weary of men that do not have same sex friends or women that have none as well. When she gets back, most likely she will appreciate your relationship better.


I agree. Yet, if she does come back rejecting or disrespecting your relationship in anyway, then I hate to say this: it probably wasn't solid and trustworthy to begin with. It will be clear and you can act on either.

I think THAT is a win-win.

Where you are right now is the losing position not really knowing and seeking the support of others.

Remember too that "manning up" is gender-less ultimately. It simply says you should look at the truth, and not try to hide it, play with it, etc, BUT TO LOOK IT STRAIGHT IN THE EYE AND TAKE IT HEAD ON! WOMEN DO THAT ALL THE TIME! THAT IS WHAT IS COURAGEOUS.

I say, be gutsy, and let her go on the trip.
Dancewithme
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Quote by sprite
Obviously, the whole idea behind the trip is one crazy ass lesbian gangbang orgy from which she'll never come back. if you're okay with her becoming a carpet munching man-hating lesbo, go right ahead and tell her to enjoy herself, otherwise, man-up and do what any other self respecting make would do - show her who wears the pants in the family and make her wait on you hand and foot while you watch sports with your buddies. don't let her make you her bitch, dude.




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ChuckEPoo
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my wife's friend just finalized a divorce and she wants my wife to go to some all inclusive place in mexico or some place like that. what do you girls think i should say? what would be happening or have you girls done on one of these trips. please let me know.


Hmmm. I think a divorced woman might have a tendency to repair her wounded heart and ego, by fucking as many young guys as possible. You'll have to be the one to determine if your wife is content to hold her friends nickers while she does.
ChuckEPoo
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Quote by sprite
Obviously, the whole idea behind the trip is one crazy ass lesbian gangbang orgy from which she'll never come back. if you're okay with her becoming a carpet munching man-hating lesbo, go right ahead and tell her to enjoy herself, otherwise, man-up and do what any other self respecting make would do - show her who wears the pants in the family and make her wait on you hand and foot while you watch sports with your buddies. don't let her make you her bitch, dude.



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