When you meet a new partner and things start to move up a gear sexually, at what point is best to approach your new partner with sexual health questions such as STI checks or past infections? Would any ladies be offended if a new bf requested that you both have an STI test before you had sex together?
Surely it's better to be safe them sorry but it seems a little odd asking "hey yeah, I'm up for moving things to the next level but are you on birth control? Have you had any infections in the past and have you been tested recently?"
Would you feel comfortable with this line of questioning or would you think it offensive?
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New girlfriend and the awkward question of past sexual health.
Constant Gardener
Right as she's got you unzippered and has managed to free your raging cockasaurus for the never-ending deepthroat blowjob, it might be considerate if you were to whisper, "Pay no attention to those warts, I have them all over my body."
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Active Ink Slinger
Seems to this girl that I would want this conversation early on like when things are getting hot.
But if she is a first date kind of girl, you may have a problem.
If she is offended by the question, then maybe this is not the right girl. Either she has a long history or she is too dumb to comprehend.
But if she is a first date kind of girl, you may have a problem.
If she is offended by the question, then maybe this is not the right girl. Either she has a long history or she is too dumb to comprehend.
Clever Gem
I'm pretty sure that if you throw the term "Raging Cockasaurus" into this "past sexual health" conversation...All awkwardness will go out the window, and you know what, she may just appreciate the concern, and of course the humour.
(I'm totally stealing "Raging Cockasaurus" WMM)
(I'm totally stealing "Raging Cockasaurus" WMM)
Active Ink Slinger
before u have sex..period
it is a matter of life and death....
i would LOVE a guy who brought it up...as i was always the one to do it....
& ps do NOT fall for the i give blood all the time ...line...that is a fallacy..DEMAND YOUR TEST
i applaud you mr bangtidy...u are smart sexy & a good guy!
here's to a long & lovely sexual life
it is a matter of life and death....
i would LOVE a guy who brought it up...as i was always the one to do it....
& ps do NOT fall for the i give blood all the time ...line...that is a fallacy..DEMAND YOUR TEST
i applaud you mr bangtidy...u are smart sexy & a good guy!
here's to a long & lovely sexual life
Active Ink Slinger
If a guy or girl asked me about my sexual health history I would not be offended at all unless they asked me in a very crude way. I would actually have more respect for the person and think we have a chance for good relationship as I would do the same thing. If I ask and the person is offended, I will apologize for offending them saying that was not my intention them but not for asking the question. My life is worth more than a sexual encounter.
Orgasm Aficionado
Since women stand to lose much more from irresponsible sexual behavior than men, I would be delighted that a man was taking responsibility and thinking about such matters. Talking about sexual health is difficult, especially as it'll most likely happen near the beginning of a realtionship - but hey that's what being an adult is all about.
I agree with everything, nothing wrong with asking at all, you have a right to know if she's clean or not and if she uses any birth control.
And like Nikki said, i would respect a guy more if he came to me first and asked about it, rather than when he's about to cum and thinking 'oh god, where do i do it?' (I was on the pill or i wouldnt have allowed anything)
And like Nikki said, i would respect a guy more if he came to me first and asked about it, rather than when he's about to cum and thinking 'oh god, where do i do it?' (I was on the pill or i wouldnt have allowed anything)
Active Ink Slinger
The chat should be early in the relationship. I personally asked early in my relationships. These days you can't be too careful. If they are offended to bad. I mean it could cost you your life, and no one is worth that. Remember condems only reduce your chances and are not a full proof. I know I talked to my boyfriend in a relax atmosphere. We were in the bench swing relaxed. No pressures. No horriness or hormones to influence your decisions. Stand firm and get the tests or say no. If your partner doesn't care enough to get tested then do they really care about you? There no excuse for not getting tested. This is just my opinion.
I don't think any woman should be offended. if she is uncomfortable or shy about talking about, you have to question her maturity. Its important to be able to have these conversations... especially with a sexual partner... If you aren't exclusive with each.other, it makes the conversation easier... But I definitely agree, you should have the conversation before you whip out your ” raging cockasaurus”... She may not be able to control herself...
Active Ink Slinger
An intelligent open woman would not be offended. In fact she would and should welcome the conversation. I am usually the one to initiate it and typically after the first kiss (I can tell by that kiss if I want things to go further). If my date gets offended then I am cautious about persuing anything more. And if my date tries to blow the topic off either with humor, deflection, or changing the subject then I KNOW I am not going to persue more.
This day in age it is imparitive to be open and frank about STI's, and just as importantly to educate yourself and others...the amount of misinformation out there is mind boggling.
Discussio about sexual history beyond health isn't really necessary, at least for me.
This day in age it is imparitive to be open and frank about STI's, and just as importantly to educate yourself and others...the amount of misinformation out there is mind boggling.
Discussio about sexual history beyond health isn't really necessary, at least for me.
Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer. ~Swami X