I posted a similar question for the guys, I would also like the females perspective. How do most women feel about open relationships, in which you and your partner both have sex with others recreationally, but in the end go home to each other? Would you be jealous knowing that your partner was out having sex with someone else, even if you knew they would always come back to you? Could you have sex with someone other than your partner without becoming emotionally involved and just do it for fun? What are your opinions about open relationships?
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In the past I've engaged in open relationships and it was fulfilling for me. However, I've found that someone always gets hurt. I offered for my ex to go and find someone else to take pressure off me, he didn't like that suggestion. Of course, it was easy when I wasn't very emotionally invested in the first place.
My boyfriend and I have discussed having an open relationship and have decided that for now, it's not what's best for us. The very idea of him being intimate with someone else just hurts me. I know he feels the same way. The concept is entertaining but the practice is too emotionally draining at this point.
My boyfriend and I have discussed having an open relationship and have decided that for now, it's not what's best for us. The very idea of him being intimate with someone else just hurts me. I know he feels the same way. The concept is entertaining but the practice is too emotionally draining at this point.
I'm kind of of the opinion 'why bother to enter a relationship at all then?'
But I had a friend, a fair bit older than I, who'd been in an open relationship with his girl for a fair few years... he explained to me how he felt it made their connection stronger because they were confident in their own love to know that even sleeping (etc) with other people wouldn't sway it.
So I see the flip side of the coin, but it isn't something I would do for myself, I would prefer not to be in a relationship at all.
But I had a friend, a fair bit older than I, who'd been in an open relationship with his girl for a fair few years... he explained to me how he felt it made their connection stronger because they were confident in their own love to know that even sleeping (etc) with other people wouldn't sway it.
So I see the flip side of the coin, but it isn't something I would do for myself, I would prefer not to be in a relationship at all.
At 20 I had no plan to be anyone's wife or mother. But this guy came along and would not accept no about anything even the first date. My one condition was I could have sex with whomever I wanted, Whenever I wanted. I could disappear for a few days if I wished.
Well no man would accept this. But he did and we have been happy for more than 20 years. We have our friends and he has his friends and of course I have more friends than we care to count.
Works for us, but I am not sure how you would make the change part way done the road of matrimony
Well no man would accept this. But he did and we have been happy for more than 20 years. We have our friends and he has his friends and of course I have more friends than we care to count.
Works for us, but I am not sure how you would make the change part way done the road of matrimony
I think it'd work, if you entered the relationship openly.
I think WHR43's relationship probably works because of this reason.
I think if one person wants it, and the other wants to please them, then
comes the problems down the road.
Personally, if we were both ok with it and it started out open, I'd be so down for it.
I have to know how far to go with the attachment thing, ya know?
I think WHR43's relationship probably works because of this reason.
I think if one person wants it, and the other wants to please them, then
comes the problems down the road.
Personally, if we were both ok with it and it started out open, I'd be so down for it.
I have to know how far to go with the attachment thing, ya know?
It wasn't until the past year that I even considered an open relationship, but then again it wasn't until this past year that my sex drive has been so insatiable either. This one play partner I had was in an open relationship, and it worked so well for them. When I first met him, I thought there was no way she would be cool with this, she was just insecure and didn't want to loose her husband. But I met her quite a few times, and she was so happy. You could tell they trusted each other completely. Just as he had his play partners she had hers. It was amazing how open they were to each other. I had even found out that she had picked me out for him to play with.
I am very up in the air if this could really work for me. My most recent relationship, I went into it letting him know I wanted an open relationship. He was all for it. I had all ready developed a circle of play partners, and he did not have any. I felt bad as I would go out and get fucked by someone else while he was home watching TV and getting stoned. We tried to find play partners for him and I even tried to involve him in my rendez vous as he was bi, but declined. He and I had amazing sex, but then within only 2 months of the relationship, he no longer wanted to have sex with me. He said he went through phases like that, but deep down I was pretty sure it was because I was with other people. I asked him if it was the open relationship, and he said it wasn't, I believed him at first but then he would go days without contacting me. We did eventually break up but still remain good friends, and he claims to this day it had nothing to do with the idea I was fucking other people.
I realize that next time I enter a relationship, there has to be communication, and trust, and love for something like this to work. He and I talked about it, but he was never serious about it, and would laugh and make jokes about how I was getting more than he was. It was so frustrating sometimes.
I am very up in the air if this could really work for me. My most recent relationship, I went into it letting him know I wanted an open relationship. He was all for it. I had all ready developed a circle of play partners, and he did not have any. I felt bad as I would go out and get fucked by someone else while he was home watching TV and getting stoned. We tried to find play partners for him and I even tried to involve him in my rendez vous as he was bi, but declined. He and I had amazing sex, but then within only 2 months of the relationship, he no longer wanted to have sex with me. He said he went through phases like that, but deep down I was pretty sure it was because I was with other people. I asked him if it was the open relationship, and he said it wasn't, I believed him at first but then he would go days without contacting me. We did eventually break up but still remain good friends, and he claims to this day it had nothing to do with the idea I was fucking other people.
I realize that next time I enter a relationship, there has to be communication, and trust, and love for something like this to work. He and I talked about it, but he was never serious about it, and would laugh and make jokes about how I was getting more than he was. It was so frustrating sometimes.
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I'm kind of of the opinion 'why bother to enter a relationship at all then?'
But I had a friend, a fair bit older than I, who'd been in an open relationship with his girl for a fair few years... he explained to me how he felt it made their connection stronger because they were confident in their own love to know that even sleeping (etc) with other people wouldn't sway it.
So I see the flip side of the coin, but it isn't something I would do for myself, I would prefer not to be in a relationship at all.
When I was younger and married, I felt the same way as Bambi. If you want to be with others that is fine, but then dont get married. But after going through a marriage that was mostly bad, I said I never wanted to be in a relationship again. At first I didnt want anyone. The eventually I decided I would just date both men and women and enjoy my life. I eventually enetered a relationship with a long time friend and it was the last thing either of us planned. I was just having fun and for her it was her bi-curiosity coming out. I have always loved women but never expected to have a committed relationship with one as an adult. We continued to play together and with others but eventually we knew there was something special between us. We decided that we did want a relationship but also wanted to be free sexually too. We didnt want to be "married" or even live together. So we continued our sexual openess but we set some ground rules. We could be with others either together or alone but there would be no secrets. We would always tell each other about our "adventures". This brought us even closer together. Telling each other about our experiences was like foreplay for us.
We have been together for about 2 1/2yrs and I have never been happier. As time has passed, we find we much rather share when we do play with others. Most people can not understand this relationship but it works for us. We trust each other totally. We are individuals yet we are one!!
Guess its very unconventional but it works!!!