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What are your opinions on open relationships? Swinging?
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I think it all depends on the couple in question.
Like if I was married to someone, I would want to be with them and only them for the rest of my life.
But if a married couple invited me to be in a threesome, I'd probably be up for it.
And at the end of the day, if they are happy with each other having sex with other people, good on them.
Like if I was married to someone, I would want to be with them and only them for the rest of my life.
But if a married couple invited me to be in a threesome, I'd probably be up for it.
And at the end of the day, if they are happy with each other having sex with other people, good on them.
Personally I'm kind of of the opinion that if you're going to have an open relationship... why even bother? Having said that, I had a (older, considerably more mature and worldly than my lowly self) friend who was in an open relationship with his lass and he said it worked because they knew that although they were off with other people sometimes, they loved each other far more than the people they were simply sleeping with, so they felt secure in their relationship. He had sexual relations with one girl in particular who ended up having feelings too strong for him, wanting him to leave his girlfriend etc etc...and kudos to him, he stopped saying the girl because she was too emotionally attached.
Had another friend who enjoyed swinger parties with his missus, he said that it offered different views on sex....different people could suggest stuff, show stuff...and through seeing another man pleasure his wife he could work out things that did 'it' for her that perhaps he wouldn't even have thought of otherwise.
I personally am not interested or open to the idea of having an open relationship with anyone myself - thought I accept that they work for some people. Swinging? Ask me in a couple of decades. Giggle. I'm still more than happy enjoying one man at a time - and hopefully those men think the same!
Had another friend who enjoyed swinger parties with his missus, he said that it offered different views on sex....different people could suggest stuff, show stuff...and through seeing another man pleasure his wife he could work out things that did 'it' for her that perhaps he wouldn't even have thought of otherwise.
I personally am not interested or open to the idea of having an open relationship with anyone myself - thought I accept that they work for some people. Swinging? Ask me in a couple of decades. Giggle. I'm still more than happy enjoying one man at a time - and hopefully those men think the same!
my first wife and i got into swinging for a few years. when i married kyla, i told her about my previous life style and she wanted to try it. first couple of times were with another couple. we went to a party one night and there were maybe 25 couples there. kyla had 10 guys fuck her one after the other while she sucked off maybe a doz. she must have had a gallon of cum in her pussy and when the last guy pulled out, several of the gals lined up to clean it up. we've been married for 35yrs and are very committed to each other and i still share her.
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It definitely depends on the couple. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I am currently in an open relationship, sort of. We only have threesomes and getting "strange" on our own is not encouraged; however, if it were to happen we would work through it and not breakup just because of some other dick or puss. Threesomes are openly favorable and we are always on the look out for takers! Also on this subject, me and my man are not allowed to form emotional/sexual relations with other people...so no long-term affairs or anything of the sort.
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My man wont be into this he talked the talk but I called his bluff. For his 30th I asked a mate if he could organise twins to be his birthday present when I told him what I had organised he was not impressed. I said "you can have them all to yourself & I'll watch" he wasn't into it needless to say I was dissappointed. I however said to him that if I find someone that only wants to have sex with no strings attached I would consider it ... I'd tell him first of course lol
We have been married and in an open marriage for more than 20 years. We swing some, Robb has friends, I have friends too.
I could not imagine having only sex with one man. Especially since I need the ladies just as much.
This may be a strange way to live for some, but we would not consider any other lifestyle.
I could not imagine having only sex with one man. Especially since I need the ladies just as much.
This may be a strange way to live for some, but we would not consider any other lifestyle.
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My GF and I have an "open" relationship but we have rules too. Everything must be out in the open, no secrets. And we use the experiences as fuel for our own sex life. We just love telling each other all the hot details. Now it is not something we do often but we feel at this point in our lives we can handle it. We both understand the difference between sex and love! But we have a very special relationship so this is not right for everyone. I do not think I could do this with a man but I also have trust issues when it comes to men.
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Relationship wrecker. Simple.
Everything happens for a reason. Live for the moment and have no regrets.
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With tremendous respect anonymous1526, I think you're mostly wrong on the first point and definitely wrong on the second.
Different people have different views on love and sex. When a couple agree on the boundaries of their relationship and stay within those boundaries then there shouldn't be a problem. The whole basis of a relationship is trust: trust that your partner will not deceive you. In a relationship where there is openness, sharing and honesty there should be no room for deceit. The operative words in those sentences are, of course, 'shouldn't' and 'should'.
I started on the swinging scene as a newly-divorced man about twenty years ago. As a single man I met other couples, accompanied female friends to parties and, about 15 years ago, married one of those friends and we're still very happily married. We still go to swinging parties and we hold our own parties about four times a year. We have many, many wonderful friends that we meet with socially as well as sexually at parties: I've tutored some of their children in Maths, one friend fixes my car and I fix his computer, another has passed some business my way, we stay with others at their luxury seaside flat even though we don't 'play' there. I think the community of like-minded friendship that we have is more important than the sex.
Of all the couples we know there are as many different agreements between them: some will only play with their own partners but like to be with/watched by others while they do it, some play only with others at parties (presumably because they spend the rest of the time with their SO), some come to parties with the lady bringing a 'toy boy' younger man and some couples each have a mistress/lover and openly talk about them.
I would never attempt to see anyone other than at parties and, because I completely trust my wife, I know that she wouldn't either. At a party she knows what I'm doing and I know what she's doing so there's no deceit.
True, we have seen some relationships break down but no more than in a non-swinging context. One chap used to sometimes bring his wife to a party, sometimes bring his 18 year-old girlfriend and sometimes both; it all went wrong when the 18 year-old got pregnant! One couple were regulars at our parties but their marriage ended purely because she wanted children and he didn't - nothing to do with swinging. The worst case we've had in all twenty years was when it became clear that, of a couple new to our group (who hadn't themselves been together long), the man was being pushy when she wasn't interested in swinging. He was separately taken aside and told to back off and then they were politely asked to leave our party because she wasn't happy.
If there's any selection bias in what I'm saying I suppose its because we lose track of some of our party guests and we don't know whether it's because they died, moved away, split up or because they simply moved on to other groups or parties (perhaps nearer home or catering to interests or an age group more appropriate for them). All I can say is that the vast majority of couples we know are well-balanced and appear to have happy and stable relationships.
So, 'Relationship wrecker': sometimes (but no more often than for non-swingers) and 'Simple': absolutely not (there's nothing simple that can be assumed about relationships).
Different people have different views on love and sex. When a couple agree on the boundaries of their relationship and stay within those boundaries then there shouldn't be a problem. The whole basis of a relationship is trust: trust that your partner will not deceive you. In a relationship where there is openness, sharing and honesty there should be no room for deceit. The operative words in those sentences are, of course, 'shouldn't' and 'should'.
I started on the swinging scene as a newly-divorced man about twenty years ago. As a single man I met other couples, accompanied female friends to parties and, about 15 years ago, married one of those friends and we're still very happily married. We still go to swinging parties and we hold our own parties about four times a year. We have many, many wonderful friends that we meet with socially as well as sexually at parties: I've tutored some of their children in Maths, one friend fixes my car and I fix his computer, another has passed some business my way, we stay with others at their luxury seaside flat even though we don't 'play' there. I think the community of like-minded friendship that we have is more important than the sex.
Of all the couples we know there are as many different agreements between them: some will only play with their own partners but like to be with/watched by others while they do it, some play only with others at parties (presumably because they spend the rest of the time with their SO), some come to parties with the lady bringing a 'toy boy' younger man and some couples each have a mistress/lover and openly talk about them.
I would never attempt to see anyone other than at parties and, because I completely trust my wife, I know that she wouldn't either. At a party she knows what I'm doing and I know what she's doing so there's no deceit.
True, we have seen some relationships break down but no more than in a non-swinging context. One chap used to sometimes bring his wife to a party, sometimes bring his 18 year-old girlfriend and sometimes both; it all went wrong when the 18 year-old got pregnant! One couple were regulars at our parties but their marriage ended purely because she wanted children and he didn't - nothing to do with swinging. The worst case we've had in all twenty years was when it became clear that, of a couple new to our group (who hadn't themselves been together long), the man was being pushy when she wasn't interested in swinging. He was separately taken aside and told to back off and then they were politely asked to leave our party because she wasn't happy.
If there's any selection bias in what I'm saying I suppose its because we lose track of some of our party guests and we don't know whether it's because they died, moved away, split up or because they simply moved on to other groups or parties (perhaps nearer home or catering to interests or an age group more appropriate for them). All I can say is that the vast majority of couples we know are well-balanced and appear to have happy and stable relationships.
So, 'Relationship wrecker': sometimes (but no more often than for non-swingers) and 'Simple': absolutely not (there's nothing simple that can be assumed about relationships).
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For some people it works.
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http://www.lushstories.com/stories/straight-sex/passionate-danger-part-ii.aspx
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If there is a relationship...there has to be a 100% sense of belonging.. and a 100% sense of being belonged to.Thats how a human heart works.. no exceptions to the rule.
a couple " in love"..can never share each other... period. The sharing/ swinging is allowed by one o another, only when the person who is allowing..is wanting the same for himself or herself.
"OPEN" relationship = is a sort of mutual agreement of sharing the physical esp the monitory attributes of life when two people are "forced" to stick to each other because of things like kids.. mortgages... finances... etc..
I would NEVER SHARE my guy.... and..he would never even think of sharing me in the widest of his thoughts...
a couple " in love"..can never share each other... period. The sharing/ swinging is allowed by one o another, only when the person who is allowing..is wanting the same for himself or herself.
"OPEN" relationship = is a sort of mutual agreement of sharing the physical esp the monitory attributes of life when two people are "forced" to stick to each other because of things like kids.. mortgages... finances... etc..
I would NEVER SHARE my guy.... and..he would never even think of sharing me in the widest of his thoughts...
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My husband and I totally disagree on this and because of that it has never happened. I would like to be with a woman, but he isn't happy with the idea of only watching and I can't stand the idea of seeing him with another woman. It's a little odd I guess, but what I want isn't something he can't give. If he wanted a man I would be alright with that, but I can't handle the idea of him doing what he does with me with another woman. Maybe one day one of us will bend.