Orally Inclined

12 Jun 2010

I've talked with many women who claim that they will never have sex with a guy that they just met, but they have no problem performing oral sex. I've always found this a bit odd since I consider oral sex just as intimate (if not more) as vaginal sex.

So you'll 69 me and take my cum down your throat but missionary position is off limits?? d'oh!

I've also known girls that have sex with relatively few people, but yet have no problem sucking off pretty much every guy they hook up with. What is it about that magical orifice, that somehow alters your emotional well-being when a penis is inserted inside it? Is it really that different than using a tongue or fingers?

Or is resorting to oral simply a "get out of jail free card" so that you can satiate your urges, while still keeping your "number" low?

Are you more likely to engage in oral than vaginal when with a guy for the first time?

Do you consider oral sex lower in the kinkiness spectrum of sexual activities? Or is vaginal sex simply something reserved for someone with more of an emotional investment?

12 Jun 2010

I agree, the whole concept of what "technically" constitutes adding a number to your sex-partner list can be a bit of a mindfuck for women. Many don't count having sex with someone unless there was penile penetration... This allows one to act like a slut, while still retaining an image of moral virtue in her own mind's eye.

I know some girls like this as well... and yeah, it doesn't make a lot of sense (except to Lewinsky/Clinton enthusiasts).

In the early stages of my sex life, I did this with a few guys. Mainly they were guys that I wasn't sure I wanted to sleep with and so oral somehow seemed like a functional compromise of hooking up with someone but not having to acknowledge it to myself formally.

My number of "oral only" partners is extremely low, however. For me, once I get naked, I'm pretty much committed to the entire sexual menu... it doesn't happen in stages. I don't see the point of limiting the pleasure, and I don't really subscribe to the psychological hang-up of it anymore. Besides, I don't typically have the kind of self-control required to re-negotiate along the way once the clothes come off...

13 Jun 2010

I've had a few onenight stands back in the day, but I have to be in a serious relationship before I'll suck a guy off.

13 Jun 2010

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I've had a few onenight stands back in the day, but I have to be in a serious relationship before I'll suck a guy off.

I agree....I cannot put some guy in my mouth unless i really like/love him... or if he does one helluva job on me.. well then I'd enjoy giving it back.

13 Jun 2010

I've given plenty of throwaway, unemotional sex in both oral and vaginal- and anal actually lol. I've never thought about it this way. My thing is always that I don't kiss unless I really like a guy, but I see your point that oral is more personal than vaginal sex. It feels like more of a favor than vaginal sex, since at least with real fucking, we're both getting something equal out of it. If it's simply a sportfuck, or a one night stand, I"m far more likely to have vaginal sex than oral sex, but often both happens.
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13 Jun 2010

double post- damn iphone!

14 Jun 2010

I think giving a guy oral sex is less intimate than penetrative sex. Before I was married I had a few times given oral to guys on first date but never had full sex unless in a relationship. Since we started swinging we have often swapped partners for oral sex then back to each other for full sex, although recently we crossed the boundary and now have swapped for full sex.

I think giving a blow job or hand job is one step down from intercourse. I agree with Lady X that is often done as a favour or a gift, unless he goes down on me before, at the same time or after smile

I love giving a guy oral, and especially when he cums and you know you have done a good job :) That is such a nice feeling to know you have satisfied the man you are pleasuring.

So yes I'm definitely more likely to give a guy oral than full sex particularly on a first meeting.

Sarah
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30 Apr 2025

The freedom and mindset of "casual sex" has, I think, totally changed the way a lot of people consider sexual relations, and I am one. Although they are intimate encounters, I don't really consider blowjobs or handjobs as emotional sex - it is "fun" or "convenient" sex. If I'm out with a guy for the first time - or even many times after the first - I'm far more likely to give him a handjob or blowjob. I love giving blowjobs - I feel that they ae very enjoyable gifts from me to a friend. They don't normally generate a commitment and usually don't imply anything more than "I like you. Lets have some fun and enjoy each other". I also think that if a guy offers "to return the favor" he's having fun, and I usually accept the offer, but not always - I think (for me) that is getting personal. But I love being eaten out!

Vaginal sex is either "getting your rocks off fucking", or a very sensual and sensuous intimate experience - I rarely have vaginal sex on the first date - but of course I have. And I will usually progress to vaginal sex with a guy after I get to know him and can call him a real friend. At the "real friend" stage, there is an emotional component - and that is a wonderful feeling for me.

2 May 2025

I don't date guys I haven't had some kind of relationship with any more. I have to make sure he's not just out to score with a robot.

So a first date to me is more intimate than most. By the time I do accept a date with a guy I know he wants me and not my robot parts.

A while a go I'd suck off a guy to keep him out of my pussy, because "I am on my period" didn't always work .

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3 May 2025

Thank you ladies! Learn new things even when your older! I never had a clue there was much difference in thoughts with girls having oral or penetration sex. I always though that if my date blew me she was always in a state of mind she liked me very much. I always figured the dates I had if they never done oral they never liked me much. I see oral from a woman as being really emotionally connected. I asked my wife for the first time in all the years we been together....she said she loves blow jobs and sees it as non sex if she does it. Blew my mind!

15 Nov 2025

Just to add to answer above. I "went out" just the other night with a guy I've known for a while from the lab, and another couple who are both good friends of mine. After a few drinks and dances at the club, this exact topic came up. When Jack (friend from the lab) asked me if I wanted to get together, I was OK with it and after all, he was a friend, somewhat of a nice fit with me conversationally and physically drop-dead-gorgeous. Yes - I had often wondered what he would look like naked, so, also yes - some sort of action with him that night was definitely on the table in my mind. My girlfriend brought up the topic of body count. All she would say was that she was "north of twenty". Jack said he was at seventeen and that he didn't go out that often, so it was sometimes months between sex. I have always been reluctant to give a body count, but I did say that my "number of guys sucked off" to "guys who'd gotten their cock into my vagina" was high. I was asked to elaborate, and said pretty much what I said in my other answer: I consider blowjobs and handjobs to be fun and to be gifts to friends, not necessarily meaning an emotional commitment. I've dated a lot of guys since high school, and have had fun with many of them, and had vaginal sex with several of them. As I've gotten older, I think lately I'm more inclined to include vaginal sex with most guys if I really like them, have somethings in common with hem, and trust them: I've lowered the bar a lot.

As for Jack: he did not disappoint me in his naked appearance, and he got very lucky. We are now closer friends, and we will be doing things together often.

15 Nov 2025

Sometimes you want different things, it may not even have that much to do with who you are with. Another time it may have everything to do with who it is.