Hello,
I have a girlfriend, I live with her and we are in a long term relationship. I have visited chat rooms since before we started going out and have continued to do so during our relationship. My girlfriend knows I used to visit them before we met, but does not know I visit them still. It isn't the case that she has asked me and I've lied to her face saying I do not visit them, it's simply a case of it hasn't come up and I haven't mentioned it.
When I go into chat rooms; I remain anonymous, I keep it to the point (sexual orientated role plays or discussions), I do not stray from that chat room e.g. I do not give my mobile number, I stick to an alias you might say - as in I am not myself, and I don't go there with the intention to make friends or bring it into real life. She knows I masturbate to porn though, and I consider this [chat room nonsense] an extension to porn. My girlfriend is vanilla so I use chat to explore and discuss the ...finer things in life. LOL
Outside the Internet I am shy and cowardly so I don't have female friends (just work colleagues) vs her whereby she's confident and easy to talk to so she speaks with a few.
My question is this, if you discovered your boyfriend doing the above - what would your reaction be? Would you want to know?
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Short Arse Brit
I probably wouldn't like it.
Porn is different, it's also impersonal and there is no interaction.
You may be using an alias but you are still interacting with another person for sexual release, that person is not your girlfriend and your girlfriend is unaware of it. Given what you have said I also think you already know she wouldn't like it.
Porn is different, it's also impersonal and there is no interaction.
You may be using an alias but you are still interacting with another person for sexual release, that person is not your girlfriend and your girlfriend is unaware of it. Given what you have said I also think you already know she wouldn't like it.
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I wouldn't 'discover it' because we talk openly and honestly about everything. It can be pretty brutal at times but at least we know where we stand with each other.
As Keira already said, porn is different. You consume porn like any other commodity. You refer to it as 'chat room nonsense' but it's obvious that you're aware there is a difference that your girlfriend won't appreciate - she may react in the same way as if you announced that you were having sex with one of your work colleagues, because to her, having sex with someone in a chat room is just an extension to reality.
As Keira already said, porn is different. You consume porn like any other commodity. You refer to it as 'chat room nonsense' but it's obvious that you're aware there is a difference that your girlfriend won't appreciate - she may react in the same way as if you announced that you were having sex with one of your work colleagues, because to her, having sex with someone in a chat room is just an extension to reality.
Honestly, it wouldn't bother me. But that's just my personal opinion on the matter.
You could be flirting with someone miles and miles away, someone you will probably never even see. I understand the worry if a relationship outside of sexual gratification develops but that's not what we are talking about. I'm a pretty open person when it comes to sexual desire and I am fine with allowing my significant other to play around if he so wishes only because I am confident in the strong bond that we have as a couple.
It's weird to most people but for me, it's not something I worry about.
Most women wouldn't like it at all, of course.
You could be flirting with someone miles and miles away, someone you will probably never even see. I understand the worry if a relationship outside of sexual gratification develops but that's not what we are talking about. I'm a pretty open person when it comes to sexual desire and I am fine with allowing my significant other to play around if he so wishes only because I am confident in the strong bond that we have as a couple.
It's weird to most people but for me, it's not something I worry about.
Most women wouldn't like it at all, of course.
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To answer your question: my Man does visit the chat rooms here and I know about it. Same as you, he (and I) was doing so before we were together and there have been no hidden agenda's.
Go ahead and meet this head on...
Invite her into your world so she doesnt feel left out. Let her see with her own eyes...anytime she wants.
Go ahead and meet this head on...
Invite her into your world so she doesnt feel left out. Let her see with her own eyes...anytime she wants.
Coco Pop
I tell him everything and would expect the same back.
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Milik and I have no secrets from one another. If he were to go into a chat room and I didn't know it, I have no fear. It comes to trust. I trust Milik with my life, why not in a chat Room? I know him well enough if some female came onto him, he would quickly let her know to back off. Now if I found out he was presenting to be some one else, and playing around with another female. He would no longer be in my bed! That simple.
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Internet Philosopher
If you don't tell her and know she wouldn't approve, then it's cheating. Simple as that. A relationship is built on trust and I gather this is something you do behind her back. Maybe, if she knew, she would be okay with it. My guess is, if she finds out, she will likely be more angry about the deception than about the actual play.
Make no mistake though though, there is a huge difference between playing to porn and playing with another person.
Make no mistake though though, there is a huge difference between playing to porn and playing with another person.
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