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angelaslater
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More recently I seem to be fantasizing about two men or a man and woman with me. The man or one of them would be my fiancé. I've never done this or really considered it until about 2 years ago. Sharing my fiancé has always been a No No but I can't get it out of my head.
Is there anybody out there in the same boat?
sweetsissy36
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my hubby and i starting sharing last year mfm 3 some and i for one love it
anonymouslylush
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I share the fantasy, but am not certain how I would feel actually watching him with another woman.. In my mind, I absolutely love the idea, but I don't know if I would get jealous. I am nit big on sharing.
"I'd much rather be a woman than a man. Women can cry, they can wear cute clothes, and they are the first to be rescued off of sinking ships."
— Gilda Radner
Dancing_Doll
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It's a huge fantasy and I think it's fairly common among women (or at least among some of my friends).

The reality of it can be different though. You have to be in a good place in your relationship and set the ground rules which you both agree on. I'd also highly recommend that if you do it, try hooking something up while on vacation or in another city. That way you never see the third party again so it negates a lot of the "what happens after this" factor and helps avoid some of the natural jealousy that might arise.

You would also need to talk after-the-fact about ground rules - eg. was this just a one-time deal or something you're open to. I have witnessed a friend's relationship fall apart because he was constantly looking for other opportunities for them and she was feeling like she had let him dip his hand into the cookie jar and had created a monster.

As long as you're both on the same page though, it can be a very hot experience.... Not recommended for everyone, but more couple-dependent on whether it's a good move. I think some can handle it and some are best to leave it to fantasy.
Nikki703
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Quote by Dancing_Doll

As long as you're both on the same page though, it can be a very hot experience.... Not recommended for everyone, but more couple-dependent on whether it's a good move. I think some can handle it and some are best to leave it to fantasy.



I have had a number of threesomes but I have never had one with a guy I was in a relationship with. That just always seemed awkward to me and I have dated men who suggested doing it but I just wasnt into it. You really need to be 100% secure in your relationship and I know of couples who thought they were and didnt expect any issues but after they did the threesome things changed.

Of people I know who have had threesomes while in a relationship, it seems that when it was FFM it worked better than when it was MFM. The women seemed less insecure about her guy with the girl than the man did about his girl with the guy.

Like DD said, it can be a really hot experience but it isnt for everyone. Some things best left as fantasies!
BelleduJour
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I think threesome fantasies be it mfm or fmf are pretty common with women. I am certainly guilty of having them often BUT I really don't think I could do it with someone I'm in a relationship with. If I wanted to fulfill this fantasy, I would be more inclined to do it with two new people - I just think it would be way less complicated if emotions and attachments were kept out of it.
Nafisa
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At one of point everyone needs a change or atleast variety. So, it's fun, try it you won't be disappointed.
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shmi
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I’ve had a threesome with a man and a woman, and with two other women. Honestly, I enjoyed the latter more.

ErinDcup34
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Its great fun but can be a minefield of heartache if you're not careful. If you're in a strong couple relationship, thats a good start - and the third person must be carefully chosen and agreed to by both of you. Ground rules must be set - in my cases in threesomes we agreed that the only time the third person would be with either of us was when we were all together in the threesome. No going around behind someones back for a little extra "love". I had one FMF where the F (a mutual good friend) was an awesome 3rd partner, but she decided that the 3some gave her license to hit on my guy separately. Not good. In an MFM I was in, the other M was my boyfriend's cousin, who I didn't know that well. He was absolutely a great partner in the 3some, but one afternoon, he came and hit on me separately. I admit I was tempted, but stuck to our rules.

The big dangers are cheating and jealousy. Be careful, but have fun. Some of the most memorable 3somes I've had and have heard about happen spontaneously, sometimes between people who just meet like "ships in the night" - truly temporary fuck buddies.