Now I look at it as she said I do not "need" it, instead of not "wanting" it.
Ladies, what's your viewpoint. Am I playing the word game and being to specific?
This is why it is so important that everyone involved go into the threesome with very clear expectations of what wil happen - and what won't happen. If you and your wife pick the correct woman for a FMF threesome, your wife should not get jealous because there is no chance of a relationship forming with the other woman. And - if your are all energetic enough, your wife will certainly have lots of time with you. Perhaps she's not thrilled about being so close to or intimate with another woman. Same with the MFM threesome. If you're OK watching her getting fucked by or sucking off another guy - as long as its a guy you're both chosen, it should be OK. In both cases - if jealousy is going to be a problem, then a threesome is not right for you.
In my case, I have been in both, and loved them both. I guess I would say I prefer the FMF, only because the fun and excitement has gone on long past the end of the session. Usually the girl has been a friend, and sometimes the girl-girl talk includes intimate feelings and thoughts about the interactions with the guy (who is usually one of our boyfriends) during the session - but there is never any chance that she is going to steal him from me if he's my bf, and I won''t steal him from her. We'll both just get to both enjoy the physicality the guy brings. I have a few close girlfriends that I've had casual one-on-one relationships with, and its fun to bring a guy into that situation.
All that being said, I also absolutely love being the F in and MFM threesome! Talk about being busy and never being bored!!!! Wow. I love having two cocks to play with - and as with the FMF, one of the guys is almost always my bf, and the guy, typically, is a friend of mine, not his. I want to be in control and knowing what to expect, and if I know both guys, they are more likely to concentrate intently on me, and I love that.