Ok ladies,
Stop talking about blowjob and swallowing..
What do you feel when you art eaten and licked?
Flat tongue? Fast flicking? Tongue fuck?
Do you like additional finger somewhere?
Stare and help su to improve our technichs!
What works depends on the situation - there are no rules. Sometimes it's nice to have someone who can't wait to get stuck in; sometimes it's nice to have someone tease and then please. Some of my friends don't like oral sex at all - they're too wrapped up in 'how do I taste / smell' to relax and enjoy anything that's done 'down there'. Experiment and listen - listening and reading your partner is very important.
For me it depends. Sometimes by hubby does it differently and all are great (usually). It also depends on is it the start of a session, middle or getting to the end? It is sort of like a nice dinner. If you dine at the same restaurant every day and always have the same meal, no matter how good it is, you tend to get bored with it. Change it up is my motto. Now to let you know I have not been with any men other than my husband since we married over 40 years ago.
However, I do occasionally get together with different women and they all like to do it differently. Have not been with another woman now for many months.
If a man honestly wants to do a better job of pleasing a woman, the first step is to actually listen to what she wants and what she needs. That is easier said than done for most men. Arousal is far more complex for women than it is for men, plus there are many variables from one woman to the next. If every man made the effort to look past the end of their own dick and empathize with the woman they were with, the sex toy business would be in trouble. Letting go of all the machismo bullshit and allowing ourselves to be soft and vulnerable is not easy, but the payoff in the end is well worth it. But, as someone else said, mix things up and stay out of ruts. Convince her that there is nothing more important to you than maximizing her orgasms. Come to terms with the fact that she is capable of multiple orgasms, while few men are. Help her enjoy two before you ejaculate. Slam, bam, thank you mam just will not cut it. Most important of all is to learn to master as many foreplay techniques as you can, and always give her as many kisses, lick and sucks as she wants. Practice, practice, practice. Find more ways to make her smile. Ask her questions and listen to her answers. Snuggle.