The Poll on Lesbian Exploration has brought me to finally ask this unapproachable question. At least to me.
With the exception of Strap-on's I have done just about everything two females can do together. Due to the infrequency of these affairs I am certainly not a Lesbian and I am not sure I can define myself as Bi-Sexual either.
All of you have met that girl at Starbucks or in a class or even in a bar. You had an immediate connection, but how does one convey the concept that there is much more we could do in addition to laugh, chat, and enjoy each others company.
I never have a problem with approaching a man, but somehow women are different. Can you help?
I love men and have no intension of replacing any of my male friends. But it would be wonderful to have the joy of the softness of a female in my arms more frequently.
I was just discussing this with Jim here on Lush earlier tonight. He said that I could have any guy I wanted, and I replied, 'Maybe so, but I can't have any girl I want.' I've probably been 'shot down' by as many women as the average man has. It's just not as easy for girls to meet other girls as it is to find guys. I wish I knew how to help you, but I have the same problem.
I really don't treat it any differently that I do when pursuing a man.....subtle flirting, showing interest, being close. Just as we might kiss a lot of frogs to find that Prince, you might have to kiss a lot of dogs, to find that Princess. Sex between two women is becoming more and more prevalent every day. We all give off a vibe when we are unavailable and need to be aware of the vibe we give off, when we are available. Having any guy that you want, might be a true statement, but chances are, just because you can have them, doesn't mean that you want them. I think the same goes for women.....look for someone that you might really be interested in and let them know it subtly at first and if they show interest, continue until the two of you either connect or don't. If you don't, keep looking....chances are you didn't have sex with the first guy that you came across, once you learned about sex. It's all about attitude.....
My two cents, as little as that might be worth.....
Sorry, I know this is for the gals but since my name was brought up already.
My conversation with Beffer earlier was not to imply that she could walk up to any woman on the street and have her in bed the same night. It was more to imply that if she met someone of the same orientation, she could easily have them after a bit. She has all the right tools to make it happen.
Women chasing after women is no different than a guy chasing after one. When a woman wants someone, they have to find one that agrees with what they want. In other words, they have to be into it as much as you are. If you have the right tools, I.E. charm, looks, charisma, clothes, and so on. All the things needed to attract them.
I don't know what you look like ChandlerAja2, but I am guessing it is beautiful just like Beffer or Sprite or most of the women on here. If you find the right woman after talking to them and charming them, you will probably have them as well. Same sex relationships or hookups are becoming more common and easier as time goes on. I am sure you will do fine if you really want to find someone.
For the record. I am a man that has had all the tools needed when the time came for them and even I have been shot down by women and guys. When I was younger, I was told on many occasions that I could charm the pants off of anyone easily. Well, not true. Some just weren't into me. It happens. I didn't give up though. I found many beautiful women and guys to have fun with and enjoyed my life until I got too old to anymore. Now I just fantasize about them. ;) Beffer, Sprite.
Basically, enjoy yourself and others will follow if it is meant to be.
