Yeah, that about sums it up. However, every woman is different, and though it's hard to go wrong with these basics, some women have asked for a firmer, harder tongue technique once we get into it. I've had some women respond to light, teasing touches and licks, others wanted slow lingering caresses with more tongue pressure, one girl didn't like her clit played with too much another wanted most of the attention focused there. Some girls like their perineum stroked, one or two haven't liked it. Same goes with fingers, butt play, labia...it's all about discovery and listening, gauging what to do by sensing the responses. It's difficult sometimes, as it's very intimate, and some women have hang-ups about it, or have difficulties saying or showing what they like. That said, I've learned a lot and definitely enjoy it.
I have to disagree with the firm tongue against the clit. I have used a firm tongue, with rapid motion either side to side or up and down, or both. Variety and unexpected stimulation are key. While stimulating the vagina as I lightly strum the clit with my erect tongue, it rarely failed.
How do I know...I listened to her body.
In what mood we are for, how much we like diversity, do we want foreplay.. every woman is different, yes, however I think that unknown writer in original post, was trying to say that whatever you do, do it that woman will know for sure that you are enjoying eating her out and not just 'working hard' to make her cum. Does it make sense?
Yep have done what you posted SHE and the latter as mentioned by some of the other men here. It not only depends on the woman but the day as well. Sometimes a little more pressure one day works better than the next, fingers great but one day could be a no no.
Men make sure to LISTEN to your partner, not only their moans but what their body is doing...Breathing, look for toes curling, hands grasping at the bedsheets. Or the alternative, her lying there stiff as a board moaning ohhhh ahhhh- time to change it up if she isn't giving you some feedback!
For me, it's the non-verbal cues that let me know how I am doing!
For me, great oral is when your man makes you feel like you are giving not receiving. Of course, the same goes the other way too. x
I'm with Eviotis...you listen to a woman's body to know when you have it right....but enthusiasm for the task at hand and a good responding woman makes all the difference.
I have ex's where you could clamp your mouth on their clit and suck and they loved it...
I have ex's where you could hardly touch them on the clit but loved my tongue on their pussy...
I have ex's where anything you did down there was useless...(they were the hardest to cope with...lol)
I used to be a pervert. In here, I'm normal!
Watch this space...She is really - cumming soon!
"EEEEEEEEEEHHHHWWWEEEHHHHHHH!"
You guys must be all, like, Jewish or Protestant or stuff.....
(We're about to find out whether Americans really do irony.....)
xx SF
I like a Firm tongue on my clit! A slow tongue, a fast tongue....tongue! I used to like only tongue with no finger in my holes. But I'm more open to that now.,..
You poor guys, again trying to figure out what women want. But think of it like any other like/dislike. Some like their steak well-done, some want it rare - just give them what they want.
I think the simpliest advice I can give is to be thoughtful. Communicate in word and deed that you do want to please her, that your pleasure is increased when she is pleased.
My ex like it soft or hard depending on her mood. But a girl friend went down on her and than she had all kinds of tips and tricks to share with me. I would start slowly licking along her slit then start sucking on her cilt, progess into grinding my toung into her pussy. I love licking pussy more than i like getting head
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