As for myself I first start with females since I am a male and that is more erotic for me. If a nice avatar or gallery of pics -especially most likely of the person herself-then that is a plus. Actually it is more of a turn on for me to just see a few sexy poses in the gallery and then exchange by email if want to see more.
I like to know her age because my first choice is for mature married or divorced women since I m 57 years old. I like women who "Havebeen around the block." I only look "hit" on younger women if they their profile looks bubbly or interesting. I realize that many females avoid older and married men just as we older guys should not outright dismiss nymphs.
I also like to know location.
Profiles with long narrations I usually skip thinking they may too self-centered. As special turn off is any negative statement such as "Don't be nasty." I never chat again with anyone again who is carrying on another chat or leaves with no explanation. The following is adequate: "I think I would like to move on. Thank you. Bye!"
I avoid names such as "Harrysgirl." She can chat with her Harry.
I wish Lush had a way to identify names as to their sex plus to let us know when someone has blocked others while they are chatting. Hate to waste time.
Also, having written a story gives a little extra interest in the person. The naughtier the better.
Finally, I find some here are not aware of the note section above the profile which will help them remember what you last talked about with the person. Just copy your chat and paste it in.
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How do you decide whose profile you wish to chat with and whose to avoid?
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First, they must have something in their avatar, a couple of pics, with at least a litte of interesting blurb about themselves. I also like to know male or female, age and where they're from.
If somebody has absolutely nothing on their profile, i'm less likely to add them or chat. It seems like they've made no effort at all to express themself, and i like to know who im talking to, not just a blank face.
Im also a bit more wary if the person may be someone i know i.e. my age from the same place as me, in case i know them.
Lastly, if they're interesting i'll add them. If they have just one picture of their cock and thats it, thats a no. If they open the conversation with 'What stories do you like', 'Want to cyber' etc, thats a no as well.
If somebody has absolutely nothing on their profile, i'm less likely to add them or chat. It seems like they've made no effort at all to express themself, and i like to know who im talking to, not just a blank face.
Im also a bit more wary if the person may be someone i know i.e. my age from the same place as me, in case i know them.
Lastly, if they're interesting i'll add them. If they have just one picture of their cock and thats it, thats a no. If they open the conversation with 'What stories do you like', 'Want to cyber' etc, thats a no as well.
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I usually let people find me.
But occasionally, there are men or women that I run across in the forums whom I find interesting. Or authors who write about topics that really engage me. And then I'll send a friend request.
But occasionally, there are men or women that I run across in the forums whom I find interesting. Or authors who write about topics that really engage me. And then I'll send a friend request.
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Same here, I usually let people find me or I find them through a story.
I also want to add that the biggest "turn-off" for me in chat is when a guy presses me to look at his dick shots and asks, "what would you do with my cock?"
I'd rather do calculus.
I also want to add that the biggest "turn-off" for me in chat is when a guy presses me to look at his dick shots and asks, "what would you do with my cock?"
I'd rather do calculus.
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So a friendly, "Please show me your boobies." is grounds for no chat?
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I usually let people find me.
But occasionally, there are men or women that I run across in the forums whom I find interesting. Or authors who write about topics that really engage me. And then I'll send a friend request.
Same as Penny. I usually let other people find/add me, if they want to.
I prefer that someone interacts with me before adding me, but then again, the kind of interaction may also determine whether I accept them as a friend or not.
I will accept/add people that I recognize (in a positive way) from the forums, or someone who sends me a nice PM, or has an intelligently written profile. I avoid obvious "pic-collector" profiles, people whose only interest on Lush is to add friends and not read/write/vote on stories, and people that have galleries filled with dick pics, or cheesey porn. I also avoid people who are looking for cyber (or more).
The rare times I do send a friend request is usually when I appreciate the author's writing or feel like they might be on the same wave-length as me (personality-wise).
I have a few rules when it comes to not, only talking to people, but adding them as well. I have it written at the very top of my page, don't add me, unless we know each other or have talked previously, weather be in the forums, or in the chat room. *In active in both, so you can usually see me there* If you are going to send my a friend request, after ignoring that, than I really don't have much respect, because you don't respect my wishes.
Another thing is, you must have an avatar. If you don't, I am going to take it, you are new to the site, and either, you don't know your way around, or are only here for one thing. While this place is a Sex stories place. The best friends in my life, are the ones I have met on here, which I never thought was possible. So if you really want to talk to me that bad, put up an avatar. I am not saying it as to be you, because I don't use my picture as an avatar, but it has to be something, anything.
Another is, if you can not respect that I am in Love with Bikebum1975, and sassycheergirl, and that if we do anything, they will both know RIGHT AWAY, than don't even bother. I am in a relationship with Bikebum1975, and he is the best boyfriend ever. If you can't respect that, go away. I am all up for flirting, and all that crap, but as far as cybering, well I have my list of people I want to cyber with, and its going to take someone amazing to make that list.
One last thing, if you have a Picture of your cock, or your pussy as your avatar, I aint talking to you, 1st of all, its against site rules, but it is also gross, that is not the 1st thing I want to know about you. I rather get to know you anyways,
Another thing is, you must have an avatar. If you don't, I am going to take it, you are new to the site, and either, you don't know your way around, or are only here for one thing. While this place is a Sex stories place. The best friends in my life, are the ones I have met on here, which I never thought was possible. So if you really want to talk to me that bad, put up an avatar. I am not saying it as to be you, because I don't use my picture as an avatar, but it has to be something, anything.
Another is, if you can not respect that I am in Love with Bikebum1975, and sassycheergirl, and that if we do anything, they will both know RIGHT AWAY, than don't even bother. I am in a relationship with Bikebum1975, and he is the best boyfriend ever. If you can't respect that, go away. I am all up for flirting, and all that crap, but as far as cybering, well I have my list of people I want to cyber with, and its going to take someone amazing to make that list.
One last thing, if you have a Picture of your cock, or your pussy as your avatar, I aint talking to you, 1st of all, its against site rules, but it is also gross, that is not the 1st thing I want to know about you. I rather get to know you anyways,
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I love that Lush (compared to other sites) allow us to be real, and by real I man let us tell more about us then just the av. It's a turn off if the member hasn't taken the time to fill out most the the information. I like to know a little about the person whom I'm having a little interaction with, since they have the advantage of knowing a little about me (and no not sexual interactions...geesh people..here's a really tall ladder to help you climb out of the gutter). People like Gav and Nicola has worked hard in thinking of how to make this site more unique, let's show them we appreciate it and just take 10 mins away from the sexy talk and fill the darn thing out. *GRINS* *WAVES* Thanks in advance for going right to your page and filling it out.
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My rule is simple. If I have never interacted with you in some way shape or form ... I don't want to know when you are online.
I do look at profiles, I actually have to admit, I enjoy reading people's profiles. Gives great insight into popular music!!! And a lot of times, when I have "friended" someone, it is because I enjoy what they have to say. So it makes for easy story searching.
There is lots more I can say on the topic... but it is one of those that blow up so I shall bite my tongue!!! Wait. Anyone want to bite it for me????
I do look at profiles, I actually have to admit, I enjoy reading people's profiles. Gives great insight into popular music!!! And a lot of times, when I have "friended" someone, it is because I enjoy what they have to say. So it makes for easy story searching.
There is lots more I can say on the topic... but it is one of those that blow up so I shall bite my tongue!!! Wait. Anyone want to bite it for me????
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I'll chat with just about anybody. Usually, the chat matches the profile. If the profile is full of life, and information, and photos, then the chat is usually interesting as well. If the profile is blank, just empty space, then the chat is probably going to be purty empty as well.
Even if the profile is well filled out, it still doesn't mean the chat is going to be memorable. But I figure the only way to really meet someone online is to chat with them, and find out what they're like.
Even if the profile is well filled out, it still doesn't mean the chat is going to be memorable. But I figure the only way to really meet someone online is to chat with them, and find out what they're like.
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I usually receive the friend requests and approve people with similar interests, fellow authors, dirty kinky boys, hot buff hunks and my fav bi & gay men! If your profile looks bank you usually won't be added as a friend. Also please people choose an avatar those red silhouettes drive me nuts considered deleting all friends with those things but haven't yet ugh!
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Me it's easy if I talk to you in the chatroom and like ya chances are I'll add if asked other way to get me to add someone is comment on my stories and be a regular in the forums. I hate blank profiles myself sure I don't have a ton about me on mine but put something on yours I like to know a little about who I am adding as a friend.
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So, Jim...if I ask to see a photo of your boobies, is that like a non-chat starter?
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I made the mistake when I first joined of not screening who became a friend. I have deleted more then thirty people by now and blocked several as well. As a result, I prefer to get to know people BEFORE I add them, but will add someone if I like their profile when they ask to be a friend or send me a thought provoking PM. If the new friend never chats with me or we don’t see each other in the chat rooms or forums I will "purge" through my friend list and delete them.
I will not add someone who opens a chat window with a cheesy cyber come-on. For example, “Feel like taking care of my morning wood?” Yes, someone actually used that line. I could create a list of, “Worst Opening Lines Used to Cyber.” Makes me feel like I am in some sleezy bar! Rudeness, clingy, whiny, lies and demanding personalities will get someone deleted and blocked.
I don't need to see lots of photos, but I do like to see someone take time to be creative with their AV Pic and have some basic info on their profile. It si not necessary to be a friend though, but it does tell me something about their personality. I don't need tons of info on their profile either. I get some people are private, but they should be willing to open up when chatting.
So basically, if someone treats me with respect, they have their foot in the door. I enjoy making new friends and don’t judge their sexual preference. I have made some really awesome friends on here in a very short time. I know a few will always be a part of my life now. And that makes this site even more special to me!
I will not add someone who opens a chat window with a cheesy cyber come-on. For example, “Feel like taking care of my morning wood?” Yes, someone actually used that line. I could create a list of, “Worst Opening Lines Used to Cyber.” Makes me feel like I am in some sleezy bar! Rudeness, clingy, whiny, lies and demanding personalities will get someone deleted and blocked.
I don't need to see lots of photos, but I do like to see someone take time to be creative with their AV Pic and have some basic info on their profile. It si not necessary to be a friend though, but it does tell me something about their personality. I don't need tons of info on their profile either. I get some people are private, but they should be willing to open up when chatting.
So basically, if someone treats me with respect, they have their foot in the door. I enjoy making new friends and don’t judge their sexual preference. I have made some really awesome friends on here in a very short time. I know a few will always be a part of my life now. And that makes this site even more special to me!
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Haven't ever used chat... I really should stop rejecting all the friends requests I get 
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I have made contact with less than 10 people on here. I'm new, but here's basically how I choose who to talk to in general on the Internet:
-I generally only talk to women, This isn't exclusively about sex. I just find that women have more interesting things to say than guys. I have no interest in talking about sports and drinking beer and stupid shit like that. lol
-Pictures are generally not a selling point for me. Many profiles have pictures that were swiped off the Internet and posted deceptively as the person. If the model in the picture isn't the same person in all of your pics, I can safely assume that none of those pics is of you. If someone is being deceptive, I will not contact them, nor will I talk to them if they contact me. Otherwise pics are unimportant in the decision making process.
-Unlike the OP, I prefer to read about a person before talking to them. Sometimes there are things that pleasantly surprise me, sometimes there are things that turn me off. The more information there is, the more I have to help me decide if it''s worth the trouble. It's good to know beforehand rather than later. I realize my hypocrisy, I just haven't had time to fill out my profile fully yet.
-The way that I've chosen who to contact on Lush is very simple. It has to do with the forums. If someone has made me laugh, said something thought-provoking, clever, sincere, charming, kind, playful, etc. I am likely to check out her profile. If I continue to like what I read, I will contact her. What it boils down to for me is if I like who she really is as a person, not just the stuff on the surface, I will contact her. I have only contacted those who I've met through the forums here.
-I generally only talk to women, This isn't exclusively about sex. I just find that women have more interesting things to say than guys. I have no interest in talking about sports and drinking beer and stupid shit like that. lol
-Pictures are generally not a selling point for me. Many profiles have pictures that were swiped off the Internet and posted deceptively as the person. If the model in the picture isn't the same person in all of your pics, I can safely assume that none of those pics is of you. If someone is being deceptive, I will not contact them, nor will I talk to them if they contact me. Otherwise pics are unimportant in the decision making process.
-Unlike the OP, I prefer to read about a person before talking to them. Sometimes there are things that pleasantly surprise me, sometimes there are things that turn me off. The more information there is, the more I have to help me decide if it''s worth the trouble. It's good to know beforehand rather than later. I realize my hypocrisy, I just haven't had time to fill out my profile fully yet.
-The way that I've chosen who to contact on Lush is very simple. It has to do with the forums. If someone has made me laugh, said something thought-provoking, clever, sincere, charming, kind, playful, etc. I am likely to check out her profile. If I continue to like what I read, I will contact her. What it boils down to for me is if I like who she really is as a person, not just the stuff on the surface, I will contact her. I have only contacted those who I've met through the forums here.
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