Quote by Georgia_27_8
That includes both male and female, BTW, as it's not just the blokes that do it, though it's just them which are getting a bashing right now - the few 'uber-lesbians' with 'girly clitty dicks' and vaginas that look like someone has stamped on a kebab have escaped the slander - for now.
Thanks for that... I will now change what I intended to have for dinner tonight.
Quote by Busty_Minx
Respectfully we shouldn't have to say stop, if we haven't outright provided consent or asked for said picture from the outset then an image like that shouldn't be sent.
I block them immediately after I respond to them telling them how pathetic they are. So they can't do it to me again for me to then report according to your advice above. But they then move on to the next person and repeat the cycle.
I am going to offer my personal view and then duck out. Given the nature of the site, and that it is for adults, I do not envisage the owner amending the site rules to state 'no images of genitalia to be sent to any member without prior permission'.
Quote by Georgia_27_8
Various mods from across the site, Senior Mods & Admin are all in agreement within this thread, making this thread a reference point for the sites stance on unsolicited images of genitals.
With all due respect, I really don't think that claim is true. I have posted yes but I haven't expressed a view on whether I think it is unreasonable or not. Furthermore the vast majority of the collective moderation team (moderators/senior moderators/admin) on the site haven't posted in this thread.
Quote by simplyjohn
I do not envisage the owner amending the site rules to state 'no images of genitalia to be sent to any member without prior permission'.
Wait. What?
Am I to understand this is acceptable behavior?
If so, fair enough. Lush site; Lush rules. I won't say another word.
The topic has come up in my group numerous times and the advice from the mods in the group was to "Block and report" them.
If it's NOT against the rules sending unsolicited pics, why are we advised to report? That's a waste of resources.
And to be clear, I don't think sending a single picture should be against the rules. Some women probably DO like it.
The issue is when the woman makes it clear it's unwanted attention and guy sez "nobody can do anything about it."
At this point it's harassment.
Quote by WannabeWordsmith
As a man, I don't get it. If I approached a woman in a bar, I wouldn't greet her by flashing my knob. So why is it different here or online? Baffles me.
If a woman really wanted to see my junk, I figure she'd ask.
I couldn't agree more. I've got a few of those pics in a private album. If a woman is interested and asks to see them I grant access. If a woman just wants to see some other things in my private albums I let her know there are dick pics there. She can then let me know if she still wants access or she can just skim over them. I can't imagine disrespecting a woman by sending her something like that withourt consent or knowledge.
Sorry I thought I posted this after the Gal's one. I understand this is the Guy's section, but I'll give my 2 cents as promised yesterday, as a female who has unwillingly experienced receiving unsolicited prick pics.
Whether it's through the Chat PM, Lush email, or album invite (showcasing "their" unprepossessing genitalia), in my perspective, unbidden venereal things can be appalling. Be it the prick pics, nasty GIFs/pics, or lascivious messages, it's disrespectful. No one in their right mind texts random people with their noodle and ask things such as "Do I like it? How do I rate it? Would I like to suck and ride it? Would I like him to do (that) to me?" NOPE.
The only attention it ever received was a disturbing moment of total disgust before it was deleted. I tell the perp that it's offensive and he has unacceptable behaviour followed by reporting and blocking.
They're nonchalant with assertions especially when no one else sees it. If they push their small dick energy, I address them in the open room, especially when I can't reply in PM because I ran out of juice. But even when I can reply to the PM, the open room is a more effective venue. I learned from experience that they'll repeat it unless they're called out in public. Some perps stop probably because of embarrassment that other women and men will know about their sick tricks. Their rubbish line saying I caused that (boner) is hysterical. Those images have been sent to other women with the same line, as confirmed by a bunch.
A few resorted to aggression, calling me rude and cruel words for not getting their desired response, as if they were to be revered for letting me see their unsought fugly penis. They should be ashamed of their repugnant transgression. I give credit where it is due.
Oh, and it's not only men. Some "women" also similarly send unsolicited sexual stuff. If anything, that's cringey.
It's unfathomable why some people do it. A few articles mentioned cyberflashers do it for either power play, pleasure, or praise. They crave control and feel empowered that they can do it without serious repercussion especially to the victims who appear vulnerable and helpless. They like knowing that certain people saw their picture or act and take pleasure from it, even if it offends the involuntary party. Furthermore, they enjoy the slim chances of praise (or in some instances, humiliation for some submissives) when someone likes what they sent. Unfortunately, in this digital age, places that have passed cyberflashing into law are limited and quite poorly implemented.
Being an exhibitionist is not an excuse to cyberflash anyone. Worse, some even send another guy's stolen dong photo. Smarmy, unctuous comments (if given) in one's allusion for credit are false praise, making them pitiful, horrible and flowing with small dick energy.
I appreciate that there are people proactively standing up, who do not condone this malicious act.
Here are my unsolicited recommendations. Some may have been covered above. No idea if anything is feasible but I hope it helps keep the Lush community with a balance of spice, naughty and nice. I'll leave the schedule of penalties to the admins.
1 Update the T&C's/AUPs/Chat Rules to specifically state cyberflashing as an offence and other timely amendments, if any. I don't have the data but it seems only a few read the fine print. Later on, they'll use the lame excuse that they are unaware, despite agreeing to the terms and later using the service.
2. Include nonconsensual sexual messages, not only unsolicited intimate images (still/GiF) or ambush album invites in the site's cyberflashing guidelines.
3. Is it possible to integrate an agreement popup showing the applicable terms like how Privacy Consent popups do? It will only ask users once. If the user doesn't manually select to agree with the required line items, he can't use the service like sending messages, uploading/sending media, entering the Chatrooms, etc. whichever is applicable.
4. Integrate the open source "Pivate Detector" like how Bumble does, or develop something similar. This will blur potentially explicit images. The user will have the option to open, ignore, or report it.
5. Does the block to a user apply to the username only or the full account regardless of the number of name changes? If it's the former, it'll be nice to apply the block to the full account.
6. Have a forum-based read-only pinned post of the perpetrators similar to the sex offender's list based on reports. If the report is valid (not a trap), the admin/mods will add the offender's name to the list. Users will have the opportunity to avoid them with optional early blocking before the offenders can grab the chance to sneak unsolicited messages/album invites to unsuspecting members. Also, users will have a more conscious effort to carefully send stuff. Who wants to be on the cyberflashers list anyways?
Alternatively, add an optional line item in the Privacy settings to automatically allow a user to block/filter any listed perpetrators.
7. Encourage actual victims to report, and/or speak up for Lush public awareness. It's not about snitching. It's keeping the site safe and fun.
9. Support victims. No victim-blaming but also no playing as the victim if you asked for it.
10. This is from the The Cyber Helpline. If you or someone you know has experienced cyberflashing or any form of online harassment, seek free, confidential support here.
https://www.inhope.org/EN/articles/private-detector-how-bumble-tackles-cyberflashing
Quote by Georgia_27_8
No. This would create a whole thread of nastiness where people will be getting bashed, based on potentially one mistake. It would also be considered harassment in the other direction.
Use the reporting feature, block them and let us deal with it with the procedures which work, and have been in place since before I became a Moderator.
Dammm it! And I came __ this close to creating a forum for the naming and shaming! 
Nahh… just joking but not because harassers should not be let to get if scotfree!
As Busty said, this asshole taunted & harassed me in public chat, proudly telling the room he was sending my lushmail things. Oh, while he had a harassment report out on me because I’d stood up to him.
Busty sent a report in, I wonder what happened to it? 🤔
Frankly, I’m over it and can laugh about it because as ladies on lush know, dick pics are part of Lush game.
However, now I know & the ladies should know, if harassment continues, there WILL be consequences for the perpetrator(s).
Assholes beware!
xVx
GODDESS 💋💋💋💋💋💋
Every second of every day. 💕💝
Sadly, it IS part of the Lush game. But the whole basis of this thread is that it SHOULDN'T BE!!! ( Rant over 
)
Quote by simplyjohn
With all due respect, I really don't think that claim is true. I have posted yes but I haven't expressed a view on whether I think it is unreasonable or not. Furthermore the vast majority of the collective moderation team (moderators/senior moderators/admin) on the site haven't posted in this thread.
You stated earlier in this thread for recipients to tell the offenders to stop and also to report as/when it happens again. That is expressing a view to it being unreasonable. No?
Granted, the collective Mod & Admin team hasn't said anything on this thread in particular. Which is fine, then don't have to if they don't want to. Regardless of individual opinion, there is a large enough portion of customers, not just on this thread, which believe it is unacceptable, unwelcome and state that they don't feel entirely 'safe'.
I seem to write a story every 1.5 years on average.
You might as well check them out: https://www.lushstories.com/profile/Georgia_27_8/stories
XGX
Quote by Georgia_27_8
You stated earlier in this thread for recipients to tell the offenders to stop and also to report as/when it happens again. That is expressing a view to it being unreasonable. No?
To clarify. If a member, for whatever reason, wishes not to receive such images from a member then they should ask them to stop. It is not (currently) against the site rules to do so. What is not right, and our rules cover this scenario, is that the same member does it again because that amounts to harassment (which is against the site rules). So No, I did not express a view either way.
Quote by Busty_Minx
Do you send unsolicited dick pics?
Are they well received?
Why do you do it?
If you don't send them do you call out other men who do?
No, I don't. As others have pointed out, it's simply weird at best, and offensive at worst. A few guys have done it to me...even if it is a sex site, it's not where you start. They need to build it into the rules, and potentially build a wall of shame, where users (modd) regularly ignore or censor the people behaving badly. And they should be suspended for breaking the rules.
Speaking of unwanted dick pics what about unwanted solicitation... just had a guy random mail me asking my name and then instantly ask me off site .. I feel pretty safe on lush and im fairly smart even given my age but i worry about predators....
Here's the messages
Hi I'm Jim.
52 minutes ago
Hey sad
What's your name.
Lady smile
It's a pleasure to meet you Laby. Can we chat on
No lol but that's
No thanks
Ok
10 minutes
Quote by Ladyfern
Speaking of unwanted dick pics what about unwanted solicitation... just had a guy random mail me asking my name and then instantly ask me off site .. I feel pretty safe on lush and im fairly smart even given my age but i worry about predators....
Same procedure as above. Report and we can deal with those.
in this case, its likely a scammer that unfortunately slipped through the net.
I seem to write a story every 1.5 years on average.
You might as well check them out: https://www.lushstories.com/profile/Georgia_27_8/stories
XGX
It was delt with swiftly so I do appreciate the lush team and admins very much!!
Quote by simplyjohn
I am going to offer my personal view and then duck out. Given the nature of the site, and that it is for adults, I do not envisage the owner amending the site rules to state 'no images of genitalia to be sent to any member without prior permission'.
I am going to quote (copy & paste) from the sites Acceptable Use Policy....
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Your account shall be terminated immediately and we may report you to the relevant authority if your behaviour on our website consists of any of the following:
Anything illegal and contrary to the laws of England, Wales and Ireland, including (but not limited to!) the promotion, suggestion or allusion to , or any non consensual acts, hard drugs or any other kind of illegal activity.
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Is it against the Law of England to send 'unsolicited' dick pics, to cyberflash other members?
I'm sorry but the word "unsolicited" to me means that I have not given my consent nor given permission. It is a non consensual act. - I believe that constitutes the section of the Acceptable Use Policy that states "Your account shall be terminated immediately and we may report you to the relevant authority"
I think the members who do such a horrendous thing should be "Reported to the Relevant Authority", not just to Lush's Moderation Team. Then the account terminated.
For those in Australia, I think this might be of interest. A link to Cyber-Flashing Laws, Offences and Penalties in Australia
Published 18 January 2025.
Specifically these three sections...
1.
The digital age has brought with it a range of benefits but also unique means for people to violate the privacy and consent of others. ‘Cyber-flashing’ is a form a digital sexual harassment that involves sending unsolicited nude or sexual images to another person without their consent.
2.
What is Cyber-flashing?
Cyber-flashing can encompass the sending of a variety of unsolicited nude or sexual images, although the most common form is the sending of ‘dick pics’ to women online without their consent.
3.
Federal Offence of Using a Carriage Service to Menace, Harass or Cause Offence
Cyber-flashing may also be encompassed by section 474.17 of the Federal Criminal Code Act 1995 (Cth), which outlines the offence of using a carriage service (such as the internet) to ‘menace, harass or cause offence’. This offence carries a maximum penalty of 3 years imprisonment.
The offence applies if a “reasonable person” would regard the conduct as “menacing, harassing or offensive” and would likely include the unsolicited sending of nude or sexual images.
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In all honesty, I think 'Lush Stories' has a legal obligation to report such behaviour to the relevant authorities.
So, I have a question.
I get a 'dic pic' from somebody. I respond by posting a message on their Profile:
"Congratulations!
You are now a member of POOP:
Pathetic Organs On Parade
Here's a selection of your fellow dinky danglers"
and follow up with a maybe a hundred more posts of cock shots.
Do I get banned, if he complains? Or is good for the goose good for the gander?
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So, I have a question.
I get a 'dic pic' from somebody. I respond by posting a message on their Profile:
"Congratulations!
You are now a member of POOP:
Pathetic Organs On Parade
Here's a selection of your fellow dinky danglers"and follow up with a maybe a hundred more posts of cock shots.
Do I get banned, if he complains? Or is good for the goose good for the gander?
I think this is fair. I love the idea.
~~
In all honesty, I think 'Lush Stories' has a legal obligation to report such behaviour to the relevant authorities.
Sorry, but I don't think that's realistic. First, who would they report, and to whom? Good luck finding anyone with a VPN, proxy server or using onion routing, and I'm fairly sure lush uses third party payment processing, so who do they turn in?
I seriously doubt if the Australian (or any government) has either the will or legal authority to prosecute someone in another country for sending a dick pic to someone else on a porn site.
There are over 200 countries, each with different laws, rules and morals. Lush cannot know them all. Homosexuality is illegal in some of them, so is Lush supposed to ferret out gays and report them to Iran and Syrian governments?
I understand the frustration and sentiment, but in the big picture, it's not that serious.
It's annoying. It's aggravating when nothing is done. The guys are jerks.
But... The solution is simple. Just block them and move on.
Management has made it clear it's not against the terms of service on Lush. I'm still shocked and confused by this, as we have been told time and time again to report them.
Why? If it's not against the rules, what, exactly, are we reporting?
Me, I haven't gotten any, but if I did and they didn't go away, I think I could make them cry. I love a heated exchange. I have thick skin and can get nasty. Bring it!
Quote by AngelWorthy
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Is it against the Law of England to send 'unsolicited' dick pics, to cyberflash other members?
I just checked, and yes, it IS illegal. Sort of.
Cyberflashing (from 2023)
As of January 2023, cyberflashing, the act of sending unsolicited sexual images via digital means (e.g. AirDrop, messaging apps, etc.) was explicitly criminalised under the Online Safety Act.
It is now a criminal offence to send a sexual image without consent with the "intention to cause distress, alarm, or humiliation, or for sexual gratification."
The problem is the wording. Intent is hard to prove, and I see problems as it is member to member on a porn site. Context matters. Being a member of a porn site would indicate willingness to explore sexual imagery, and a dick pic shouldn't be shocking to a porn consumer.
Sending them to your G-mail account would be different, but still nothing to arrest someone for across multiple jurisdictions.
There are 3 other laws predating cyber flashing that might apply, but the wording is the problem.
And, how do you find who to report, and to whom?
Let's assume someone sending dick pics used their real identity setting up their account and Lush knows who they are... Lush is based in Wales, so, if someone in Mexico sends a picture to someone in Australia, who is going to arrest the person?
Mexican citizens aren't subject to laws in the UK or Australia
The mods say unsolicited dick pics aren’t against the rules, even though harassment is, that’s a loophole by design; whether intentional or due to laziness.
They’re essentially saying, “We won’t define consent in messaging,” which enables repeat offenders.
Lush could very easily add a simple rule: “No unsolicited nude images in private messages without prior consent.” But if they won’t, they’re choosing not to protect users, namely women.
When someone sends explicit images repeatedly to unwilling users, especially with that taunting attitude of “you can’t do anything,” it crosses into targeted harassment.
That’s enforceable under the current rules, but only if the moderators are willing to act.
I understand only so many volunteer mods, and so many hours in the day. My frustration is this behavior drives women away.
If the site won’t draw a line and makes victims feel like they’re overreacting, It creates a hostile environment that drives away good users (especially women and older members).
It empowers creeps who view the platform as a hunting ground, not a community.
The site's long-term health suffers, but they may not care unless there’s pressure (loss of users, bad press, etc.).
If you or someone you know is targeted:
Block first, every time. Don’t argue, don’t engage, unless, like me, you enjoy fucking with asshats.
Document the behavior (time, user, quote and pictures) in case it escalates. Screenshots are easy and can help.
Encourage others to report and speak up together, mass reports are harder to ignore.
Start a conversation offsite (Reddit, forums, blogs) about safety and moderation standards on Lush — sunlight creates pressure.
Quote by Ladyfern
Speaking of unwanted dick pics what about unwanted solicitation... just had a guy random mail me asking my name and then instantly ask me off site .. I feel pretty safe on lush and im fairly smart even given my age but i worry about predators....
Here's the messages
Hi I'm Jim.
52 minutes ago
Hey sad
What's your name.
Lady smile
It's a pleasure to meet you Laby. Can we chat on
No lol but that's
No thanks
Ok
10 minutes
This is probably a scammer, or possibly just an unpaid member with limited messages.
It's funny, but I bought my membership to get messages. A story mod was teaching me grammar, so I bought a membership for unlimited messages.
Quote by Vampire_vixen
That’s enforceable under the current rules, but only if the moderators are willing to act.
"Only if the moderators are willing to act"?? Sorry, that is bullshit. Harassment is taken very seriously. There is no "if", it's "when" the report is picked up, it will be dealt with according to the members moderation history.
However, the percentage of members that let things slide without wanting the site to step in is higher than we would all like. Sometimes it's good, because they deal with it themselves.
Comments making out like we don't really care will only drive that number up. let's not do that. We do care, and we do deal with harassment appropriately.
I seem to write a story every 1.5 years on average.
You might as well check them out: https://www.lushstories.com/profile/Georgia_27_8/stories
XGX
Quote by simplyjohn
I am going to offer my personal view and then duck out. Given the nature of the site, and that it is for adults, I do not envisage the owner amending the site rules to state 'no images of genitalia to be sent to any member without prior permission'.
I find that surprising, it would suggest Lush isn't aware cyber-flashing is a crime or, worse, believes it's too difficult to deal with. How do we get an official Lush view on that?
The website rules already make it clear action will be taken against anything illegal, so where's the harm in mentioning flashing in that context? Many users probably aren't aware it is illegal (and consider it a moral debate about appropriate behaviour on an adult/sex site). It would surely be in everyone's interest to clarify that, including Lush's interest.
A sentence in the rules which said "Cyber-flashing is a crime and prohibited on this website" would simply be a factual statement.
The possible upsides are numerous. What downside could there be from adding those words?
Quote by Dan121
I find that surprising, it would suggest Lush isn't aware cyber-flashing is a crime or, worse, believes it's too difficult to deal with. How do we get an official Lush view on that?
I suspect it's more of a priority of where to allocate resources.
One site mod has made it abundantly clear they don't really care, or think the girls are overreacting. I mean, this IS a porn site, so we should accept boorish behavior I guess.
They COULD use cyber flashing law as a reason, but choose not to. By reading between the lines, I'm thinking it's either so widespread and happens every 5 minutes, that it's just to time consuming to deal with.
The cops can't and shouldn't be involved in this. As far as a crime goes, this is akin to jaywalking on a deserted street.
The cyber flashing laws intent is to protect someone in real life where the people know each other and they have jurisdiction. They would immediately arrest the creepy guy in your building send nudes out, as well as your pissed off ex who is fucking with you, and the cyber bullies at school.
The intent wasn't to stop international dick pics from being sent anonymously between users on a porn site platform.
It's another one of the arbitrary rules enforcement practices and procedures that isn't just on Lush. It's common on all platforms, big and small. What is offensive to one person in power, means nothing to another.
In my experience, Lush is worse than many places, but less than others, and this is kinda the cherry on top.
I've been subjected to the arbitrary factor several times myself and seen it happen to others numerous times; some perfectly justified in my mind, others just silly nonsense, and others for no legitimate reason except the mod didn't like it or was enforcing extremely petty grey area rules.
I recently had a story rejected for content. No sex in a parental spanking story was the stated reason. It was a group mod consensus, not a power play by one person. I knew I've read lots of non-sexual spanking stories here, so I immediately randomly read some new ones, and the second one I read had no sex. 🤷🤔
The story mod, my friend, admitted she never reads spanking stories, as well as the fact if I added a single line alluding to masturbation afterwards would fix it, but I'm not going to that. They don't want my story? I'll not push. In this instance, I think it was bcuz it was the punishment of a teen story, and not an erotic spanking.
The mod, in my opinion, looked upon it as abuse, even though the girl consented. I understand and I'm not arguing, but any spanko will tell you this is a very common theme in the spanking genre. I ONLY mention this to illustrate the point, not change their mind.
I'm finished on this subject.
My final advice is the same.
Block
Report
Document
Quote by Georgia_27_8
"Only if the moderators are willing to act"?? Sorry, that is bullshit. Harassment is taken very seriously. There is no "if", it's "when" the report is picked up, it will be dealt with according to the members moderation history.
I'm calling bullshit on this. Another mod has made it clear as glass it's NOT AGAINST the rules for someone to send unsolicited graphic pics, and that's not going to change anytime soon, and that's bcuz mods have more important things to do. I'm paraphrasing, but it's the gist of parts of several messages from the same site mod, simplyjohn.
If it's not against the rules, why do we report it?
By definition, you shouldn't get in trouble for NOT breaking the rules, and the attitude of the serial dick pic senders is "I did it, I'ma gonna do it some more, and you can't stop me."
Please illuminate me if I'm missing something.
I read his comments numerous times, shocked.
Quote by Vampire_vixen
the attitude of the serial dick pic senders is "I did it, I'ma gonna do it some more, and you can't stop me."
Please illuminate me if I'm missing something.
That is harassment, which should be reported, as clearly stated numerous times. Harassment is not tolerated, and we will action reports of harassment
Do you feel illuminated yet?
I seem to write a story every 1.5 years on average.
You might as well check them out: https://www.lushstories.com/profile/Georgia_27_8/stories
XGX
Quote by Vampire_vixen
I'm calling bullshit on this. Another mod has made it clear as glass it's NOT AGAINST the rules for someone to send unsolicited graphic pics, and that's not going to change anytime soon, and that's bcuz mods have more important things to do. I'm paraphrasing, but it's the gist of parts of several messages from the same site mod, simplyjohn.
If it's not against the rules, why do we report it?
By definition, you shouldn't get in trouble for NOT breaking the rules, and the attitude of the serial dick pic senders is "I did it, I'ma gonna do it some more, and you can't stop me."
Please illuminate me if I'm missing something.
I read his comments numerous times, shocked.
I want to thank you for brightening up my day with a good hearty laugh. I am on holiday, coarse fishing, and I intend to share this thread with the next mirror carp I catch and see if they can identify, in this thread, where I said 'and that's not going to change anytime soon' and 'mods have more important things to do'. If it can then it gets a key to my biscuit tin here on Lush. Why do you lock it I hear you ask... because... sorry bcuz, people keep leaving things in it I don't like. Thanks again.
Quote by Vampire_vixen
I'm calling bullshit on this. Another mod has made it clear as glass it's NOT AGAINST the rules for someone to send unsolicited graphic pics, and that's not going to change anytime soon, and that's bcuz mods have more important things to do. I'm paraphrasing, but it's the gist of parts of several messages from the same site mod, simplyjohn.
If it's not against the rules, why do we report it?
By definition, you shouldn't get in trouble for NOT breaking the rules, and the attitude of the serial dick pic senders is "I did it, I'ma gonna do it some more, and you can't stop me."
Please illuminate me if I'm missing something.
I read his comments numerous times, shocked.
I'm sorry but if you think for a second mods have more important things to do or just don't care then to put it simply you are plain wrong, at the end of the day we are here for the same reason as everyone else fun in a safe judgment free space we don't want the harrassment or any other bullshit spoiling the fun and enjoyment either which is why every report is taken seriously and acted on no matter how trivial why we spend countless hours here trying to keep the site free of crap like this , I know it can be annoying and frustrating but we are unpaid volunteers with lives and jobs ,we do what we can when something is spotted or reported it is acted on .
