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Would you let your wife or gf have sex with another man if she demands or asks?
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Depends on the man and the reason. I'd prefer her to be with someone I can trust to some degree and knowing exactly why she's doing it would help shape my response. Depending on the answers, I might want a quid pro quo (she gets her man but I get to take a lover as well) or an opportunity to expand this into an MMF or MFM threesom.
colin123
Yes of course, i have written some true stories about our adventures if you are interested.
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I don't respond well to demands but a request is different. Why deny some you love the possibility of living out a sexual fantasy? If the situation is right I wouldn't have a problem with her enjoying herself.
Clumeleon
I'd dump her ass.
Her Royal Spriteness
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I'd dump her ass.
what about the rest of her?
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Clumeleon
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what about the rest of her?
That was so funny I nearly peed myself...
Her Royal Spriteness
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That was so funny I nearly peed myself...
funny, i never took you for being into watersports. live and learn.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Clumeleon
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funny, i never took you for being into watersports. live and learn.
Did I just become more interesting to you, dear perverted Sprite?
Her Royal Spriteness
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Did I just become more interesting to you, dear perverted Sprite?
not unless you're going in for that sex change operation soon. ;)
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
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Same answer when you asked the opposite "In Ask the Gals"
Fair is Fair.
Fair is Fair.
Well, the word "demand" doesn't work for me either, but "ask" does. And within certain boundaries, my answer would be yes.
I have had that conversation with my wife in the past. She was surprised I would be ok with it. She never took me up on the offer though and I never pushed it. She didn't seem to feel comfortable with the idea. She did ask me once why I would be ok with it and asked me wouldn't I be jealous?
So to answer your question as to why, I will try to explain by what I told her many years ago when we had such a conversation.
1) I can separate sex from love
2) I am not the jealous type, which she already knows, since guys flirting with her and dancing with her - never bothered me
3) I really like seeing women let loose and enjoy sex. The more wild they get, the more it makes me feel they enjoy it. Seeing women really enjoy sex - is a huge turn-on for me. I like porn just as much as any guy I guess (we are visual creatures), but most porn does look fake. You can tell a lot of their enjoyment is an act. So seeing your partner really get into sex, would be a lot more real and way more of a turn-on than the fake stuff you see in videos.
4) I am open to experiencing a lot of different things sexually and I certainly couldn't be upset with her for wanting the same.
With all that in mind, I have some boundaries/limits, because although I would not be jealous of the sex, I would not want love to form that could end up causing problems in our relationship. There are precautions/rules that I would probably insist be taken to avoid those types of issues - my boundaries.
- I would want to watch or participate (mfm - meaning both me an the other guy giving her attention - I am not bi). Not sure if I would ever let it happen with me not there. I am guessing not. But since none of this has ever happened and probably never will, I can't be sure
- Communication would be key to make sure we always knew how the other felt.
- If I felt or she felt any deeper feelings were starting to take root, then there would be no more encounters with that person. She would have to assure me that she would speak up, if she started to feel that way. Again good communication.
- Each encounter and person would have to be approved by both of us. Because it is something we are doing for each other. Not something to be hidden and done without both of us wanting it each time.
- It wouldn't be something we do all the time, but something we do from time to time to keep the new erotic experiences flowing
- Either one of us could say we are done with this type of experience at any time and for any reason or no reason and it just stops - no questions asked.
If all those things were agreed to, I would not only agree to try it, but I would want to have her try it. Not going to happen though, since that is just my fantasy, not hers.
I don't know if anyone has noticed, but several men have said yes to this question, but I see mostly no to the same question asked in the "ask the girls" section. What does that indicate - do you think? Men can separate sex from love better than women? Or are there more men who don't get jealous compared to women? Or does my wife's explanation fit best - all men are just pervs - lol.
I always answer, you wouldn't want it any other way. Of course we are pervs, that is why guys always chase girls. And you seem to enjoy it or you wouldn't have let yourself get caught.
I have had that conversation with my wife in the past. She was surprised I would be ok with it. She never took me up on the offer though and I never pushed it. She didn't seem to feel comfortable with the idea. She did ask me once why I would be ok with it and asked me wouldn't I be jealous?
So to answer your question as to why, I will try to explain by what I told her many years ago when we had such a conversation.
1) I can separate sex from love
2) I am not the jealous type, which she already knows, since guys flirting with her and dancing with her - never bothered me
3) I really like seeing women let loose and enjoy sex. The more wild they get, the more it makes me feel they enjoy it. Seeing women really enjoy sex - is a huge turn-on for me. I like porn just as much as any guy I guess (we are visual creatures), but most porn does look fake. You can tell a lot of their enjoyment is an act. So seeing your partner really get into sex, would be a lot more real and way more of a turn-on than the fake stuff you see in videos.
4) I am open to experiencing a lot of different things sexually and I certainly couldn't be upset with her for wanting the same.
With all that in mind, I have some boundaries/limits, because although I would not be jealous of the sex, I would not want love to form that could end up causing problems in our relationship. There are precautions/rules that I would probably insist be taken to avoid those types of issues - my boundaries.
- I would want to watch or participate (mfm - meaning both me an the other guy giving her attention - I am not bi). Not sure if I would ever let it happen with me not there. I am guessing not. But since none of this has ever happened and probably never will, I can't be sure
- Communication would be key to make sure we always knew how the other felt.
- If I felt or she felt any deeper feelings were starting to take root, then there would be no more encounters with that person. She would have to assure me that she would speak up, if she started to feel that way. Again good communication.
- Each encounter and person would have to be approved by both of us. Because it is something we are doing for each other. Not something to be hidden and done without both of us wanting it each time.
- It wouldn't be something we do all the time, but something we do from time to time to keep the new erotic experiences flowing
- Either one of us could say we are done with this type of experience at any time and for any reason or no reason and it just stops - no questions asked.
If all those things were agreed to, I would not only agree to try it, but I would want to have her try it. Not going to happen though, since that is just my fantasy, not hers.
I don't know if anyone has noticed, but several men have said yes to this question, but I see mostly no to the same question asked in the "ask the girls" section. What does that indicate - do you think? Men can separate sex from love better than women? Or are there more men who don't get jealous compared to women? Or does my wife's explanation fit best - all men are just pervs - lol.
I always answer, you wouldn't want it any other way. Of course we are pervs, that is why guys always chase girls. And you seem to enjoy it or you wouldn't have let yourself get caught.
Rookie Scribe
YES...... I would have no problem at all.....
As long as she is happy...... that is ok
As long as she is happy...... that is ok
Yes , If she really wants to. I actually suggested it a few times , and she responded that that would be great. Thus far I assume that she had done it already as on one occasion, while fondling her I found her pussy to be very wet filled with semen and it wasn't mine as the taste was somewhat different. I have advised her to take some precautions though and get the other guy to use a condom.
Advanced Wordsmith
Yes, for a gf and maybe for marriage.
I have had past gfs, cheated on me and i was fine with it and my current gf cheated on me couple of months ago. She told me but I was fine with it and explained that she should have the right to explore. It also gives me the opportunity to hook up with fwbs occasionally without feeling guilty(gf not aware of fwbs).
If I had a wife, I think if I was involved I would be okay with it. I was involved with a swinger couple long time ago for about 2 years where the husband had to travel a lot for work. I was there first (as it was my first experiece with a couple) but during when he was gone, I was free to stay with the wife. It was good and they had a healthy marriage. After about 6 month, they started to get other people involved and host parties and when he was gone she would host with 2 to 4 people. towards the end of my involvement, it got too crazy so I left there little club.
I would be open to it in marriage but with some ground rule. I don't like the idea of vd.
I have had past gfs, cheated on me and i was fine with it and my current gf cheated on me couple of months ago. She told me but I was fine with it and explained that she should have the right to explore. It also gives me the opportunity to hook up with fwbs occasionally without feeling guilty(gf not aware of fwbs).
If I had a wife, I think if I was involved I would be okay with it. I was involved with a swinger couple long time ago for about 2 years where the husband had to travel a lot for work. I was there first (as it was my first experiece with a couple) but during when he was gone, I was free to stay with the wife. It was good and they had a healthy marriage. After about 6 month, they started to get other people involved and host parties and when he was gone she would host with 2 to 4 people. towards the end of my involvement, it got too crazy so I left there little club.
I would be open to it in marriage but with some ground rule. I don't like the idea of vd.
colin123
Yes, and she has on many occasions, check out my true stories
Advanced Wordsmith
Depends on the circumstances, but I would say as a rule it would be a blanket no, especially if it was a demand. But we could talk about it.
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I'd dump her ass.
But I know she has a great ass!
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Well, the word "demand" doesn't work for me either, but "ask" does. And within certain boundaries, my answer would be yes.
I have had that conversation with my wife in the past. She was surprised I would be ok with it. She never took me up on the offer though and I never pushed it. She didn't seem to feel comfortable with the idea. She did ask me once why I would be ok with it and asked me wouldn't I be jealous?
So to answer your question as to why, I will try to explain by what I told her many years ago when we had such a conversation.
1) I can separate sex from love
2) I am not the jealous type, which she already knows, since guys flirting with her and dancing with her - never bothered me
3) I really like seeing women let loose and enjoy sex. The more wild they get, the more it makes me feel they enjoy it. Seeing women really enjoy sex - is a huge turn-on for me. I like porn just as much as any guy I guess (we are visual creatures), but most porn does look fake. You can tell a lot of their enjoyment is an act. So seeing your partner really get into sex, would be a lot more real and way more of a turn-on than the fake stuff you see in videos.
4) I am open to experiencing a lot of different things sexually and I certainly couldn't be upset with her for wanting the same.
With all that in mind, I have some boundaries/limits, because although I would not be jealous of the sex, I would not want love to form that could end up causing problems in our relationship. There are precautions/rules that I would probably insist be taken to avoid those types of issues - my boundaries.
- I would want to watch or participate (mfm - meaning both me an the other guy giving her attention - I am not bi). Not sure if I would ever let it happen with me not there. I am guessing not. But since none of this has ever happened and probably never will, I can't be sure
- Communication would be key to make sure we always knew how the other felt.
- If I felt or she felt any deeper feelings were starting to take root, then there would be no more encounters with that person. She would have to assure me that she would speak up, if she started to feel that way. Again good communication.
- Each encounter and person would have to be approved by both of us. Because it is something we are doing for each other. Not something to be hidden and done without both of us wanting it each time.
- It wouldn't be something we do all the time, but something we do from time to time to keep the new erotic experiences flowing
- Either one of us could say we are done with this type of experience at any time and for any reason or no reason and it just stops - no questions asked.
If all those things were agreed to, I would not only agree to try it, but I would want to have her try it. Not going to happen though, since that is just my fantasy, not hers.
I don't know if anyone has noticed, but several men have said yes to this question, but I see mostly no to the same question asked in the "ask the girls" section. What does that indicate - do you think? Men can separate sex from love better than women? Or are there more men who don't get jealous compared to women? Or does my wife's explanation fit best - all men are just pervs - lol.
I always answer, you wouldn't want it any other way. Of course we are pervs, that is why guys always chase girls. And you seem to enjoy it or you wouldn't have let yourself get caught.
I would agree with just about everything you have said. Of course Robb never had to encourage me in the slightest.
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Why not? I'd enjoy watching and taking part. The same goes for my wife when and if I have sex with another woman or man.
Active Ink Slinger
"if she demands or asks" says she is looking for permission to do something she already has decided to do in nearly all cases.
What can an human being do if their spouse decides to step out? Not a damned thing. Been there and let it drive me mad to protect my kids from her.
What can an human being do if their spouse decides to step out? Not a damned thing. Been there and let it drive me mad to protect my kids from her.
Advanced Wordsmith
Yes I would
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I am happy to say that I already have. The first time, I watched two men fuck her. I didn't know that was going to happen but it was immensely exciting. Immediately after that, the guy who initiated it the first time became a regular fuck buddy. After my wife saw that I really enjoyed her being with other men, she got fucked fairly often while on business trips. She was traveling a ton for her company and would get hit on by a good number of european men. They would wine and dine her and she was happy to get fucked by them in her hotel rooms. She even fucked a Spanish musician on the flight over to Europe once. I loved hearing about her trysts and would eat her pussy while she told me the details of her getting fucked by them. I liked her to get fucked while out clubbing too and come home to me used. There's something extremely hot about her saying "I've been a naughty girl tonight" and throwing her leg over my head and pressing her pussy down to my tongue and lips. Sorry for the long diatribe. My short answer is "YES". lol
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Well, the word "demand" doesn't work for me either, but "ask" does. And within certain boundaries, my answer would be yes.
I have had that conversation with my wife in the past. She was surprised I would be ok with it. She never took me up on the offer though and I never pushed it. She didn't seem to feel comfortable with the idea. She did ask me once why I would be ok with it and asked me wouldn't I be jealous?
So to answer your question as to why, I will try to explain by what I told her many years ago when we had such a conversation.
1) I can separate sex from love
2) I am not the jealous type, which she already knows, since guys flirting with her and dancing with her - never bothered me
3) I really like seeing women let loose and enjoy sex. The more wild they get, the more it makes me feel they enjoy it. Seeing women really enjoy sex - is a huge turn-on for me. I like porn just as much as any guy I guess (we are visual creatures), but most porn does look fake. You can tell a lot of their enjoyment is an act. So seeing your partner really get into sex, would be a lot more real and way more of a turn-on than the fake stuff you see in videos.
4) I am open to experiencing a lot of different things sexually and I certainly couldn't be upset with her for wanting the same.
With all that in mind, I have some boundaries/limits, because although I would not be jealous of the sex, I would not want love to form that could end up causing problems in our relationship. There are precautions/rules that I would probably insist be taken to avoid those types of issues - my boundaries.
- It wouldn't be something we do all the time, but something we do from time to time to keep the new erotic experiences flowing
I would say yes, as I agree with those points. I wouldn't want it to become a regular thing, or a regular person doing it. Probably best when on a vacation or something where the "risk" of a repeat would be low.
But as I would like to bring in another girl, it seems only fair to let her do the same. We would have to set some boundaries for it though.
I don't think it would happen, as we have only talked about it as a fantasy, never in a "operational" way.
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I'm only speaking for myself, but I am a VERY alpha, very dominant male and the women who are attracted to me either LOVE that part of me or hate themselves for being attracted to it. Other women can't stand it (they find me domineering) or are too shy and uncomfortable to express how they feel.
I say all of that to say this; FOR ME, if my woman were to ask to have sex with another man, I would be repulsed. It runs contrary to everything I understand about my place with a woman and strips me of the pride I take in complimenting a specific type of woman. My place for a woman is not her window to great sex with other men, it's great and deeper sex with me. Human sexuality is an enigma in and of itself, so any added complexity can, for people like me, really shake the foundational underpinnings of trust and love. It's not insecurity, it's uncertainty; I wouldn't know who I was to her if my woman wanted someone else.
That being said, I've been the bull for some very happily married couples. The man is perfectly happy (though always in some state between self-hate and socialized embarrassment) but lightyears different than me. He's not insecure, but his security lies in a very different place than does mine. And that's ok. He shares his wife, I fuck his wife, we both walk away satisfied.
But for me, my woman is mine. Period.
I say all of that to say this; FOR ME, if my woman were to ask to have sex with another man, I would be repulsed. It runs contrary to everything I understand about my place with a woman and strips me of the pride I take in complimenting a specific type of woman. My place for a woman is not her window to great sex with other men, it's great and deeper sex with me. Human sexuality is an enigma in and of itself, so any added complexity can, for people like me, really shake the foundational underpinnings of trust and love. It's not insecurity, it's uncertainty; I wouldn't know who I was to her if my woman wanted someone else.
That being said, I've been the bull for some very happily married couples. The man is perfectly happy (though always in some state between self-hate and socialized embarrassment) but lightyears different than me. He's not insecure, but his security lies in a very different place than does mine. And that's ok. He shares his wife, I fuck his wife, we both walk away satisfied.
But for me, my woman is mine. Period.