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Online Red Flags (Danger Signals, it’s time to hit ignore! )
onedom:
A “Red Flag” is any indication that you should steer clear of a particular person, either Dom/me or sub. These can pop up at any time, though most often in the beginning of a potential relationship. They can be obvious or they can be subtle.
Some common examples might be…
1. Inappropriate questions or comments during the initial conversations, such as do you want to play? or what are you wearing? or what do you look like? or asking for your phone number immediately, etc. Such questions have nothing at all to do with D/s, but rather indicate the person is looking for cyber or phone sex.
2. Moving too quickly: if the prospective Dom/me or sub seems to be in a hurry to begin a relationship, or to advance it faster than seems reasonable or comfortable for you. Like if they want to meet you within the first 10 minutes online. Trust is the cornerstone and cannot be rushed. Clearly, there is no arbitrary time frame, but most long-lasting relationships take several weeks if not months to build before actual contact.
3. Inappropriate attitude: “bow down and worship me” those who act as if every submissive must obey every so-called Dom, and begin giving or obeying orders from the word go. Or those who have the idea that each and every Tom, Dick, and Harry must be addressed as Sir, whether they know them or not. Many subs in the chat rooms do this, but respect is worth little if it is so lightly given. Both of these attitudes and practices show a poor understanding of the true dynamics of Dominance and submission.
4. Safety violations: reluctance to have a safeword or other safety precautions in place, either during the first meeting or later. Run.
5. Lack of communication: if your potential partner is reluctant to discuss something with you, pay attention. Likewise, and equally serious, if you are told directly or indirectly, that you may not discuss something with others, or may not talk to someone else, or may not go to a particular area, be careful. Trying to “gag” someone is a sign that something is wrong.
6. A persistent bad reputation: or unwillingness to give references. This can be tricky if the person you are talking to is new online, but it is still a red flag. Or perhaps a yellow one.
7. Trashing ex-partners. When someone is constantly talking about their ex publicly in the chat rooms and on bb’s, i.e., trying to ruin their rep, try to keep in mind that you might be their “ex” someday and be subjected to such treatment if things do not go the way they want. This is something that both Dom/mes and subs are frequently guilty of. Warning others of potential danger from an ex-partner is obviously a different case.
8. Frequent inconsistencies. If someone often makes contradictory statements from one day to the next, like Mon. tells you s/he has no children, then on Fri., mentions his/her son’s birthday or something. If a person often seems to have a lot of trouble remembering what they have said to you from one day to the next, it could be that they are telling a lot of people a lot of different things. Just in general, I would encourage anyone to really try to get to know someone before making a final judgment on their character. However, caution and common sense should always rule. If you have doubts, do not give out personal information. You can still talk to this person, but be careful and please, trust that GUT INSTINCT.
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onedom:
A “Red Flag” is any indication that you should steer clear of a particular person, either Dom/me or sub. These can pop up at any time, though most often in the beginning of a potential relationship. They can be obvious or they can be subtle.
Some common examples might be…
1. Inappropriate questions or comments during the initial conversations, such as do you want to play? or what are you wearing? or what do you look like? or asking for your phone number immediately, etc. Such questions have nothing at all to do with D/s, but rather indicate the person is looking for cyber or phone sex.
2. Moving too quickly: if the prospective Dom/me or sub seems to be in a hurry to begin a relationship, or to advance it faster than seems reasonable or comfortable for you. Like if they want to meet you within the first 10 minutes online. Trust is the cornerstone and cannot be rushed. Clearly, there is no arbitrary time frame, but most long-lasting relationships take several weeks if not months to build before actual contact.
3. Inappropriate attitude: “bow down and worship me” those who act as if every submissive must obey every so-called Dom, and begin giving or obeying orders from the word go. Or those who have the idea that each and every Tom, Dick, and Harry must be addressed as Sir, whether they know them or not. Many subs in the chat rooms do this, but respect is worth little if it is so lightly given. Both of these attitudes and practices show a poor understanding of the true dynamics of Dominance and submission.
4. Safety violations: reluctance to have a safeword or other safety precautions in place, either during the first meeting or later. Run.
5. Lack of communication: if your potential partner is reluctant to discuss something with you, pay attention. Likewise, and equally serious, if you are told directly or indirectly, that you may not discuss something with others, or may not talk to someone else, or may not go to a particular area, be careful. Trying to “gag” someone is a sign that something is wrong.
6. A persistent bad reputation: or unwillingness to give references. This can be tricky if the person you are talking to is new online, but it is still a red flag. Or perhaps a yellow one.
7. Trashing ex-partners. When someone is constantly talking about their ex publicly in the chat rooms and on bb’s, i.e., trying to ruin their rep, try to keep in mind that you might be their “ex” someday and be subjected to such treatment if things do not go the way they want. This is something that both Dom/mes and subs are frequently guilty of. Warning others of potential danger from an ex-partner is obviously a different case.
8. Frequent inconsistencies. If someone often makes contradictory statements from one day to the next, like Mon. tells you s/he has no children, then on Fri., mentions his/her son’s birthday or something. If a person often seems to have a lot of trouble remembering what they have said to you from one day to the next, it could be that they are telling a lot of people a lot of different things. Just in general, I would encourage anyone to really try to get to know someone before making a final judgment on their character. However, caution and common sense should always rule. If you have doubts, do not give out personal information. You can still talk to this person, but be careful and please, trust that GUT INSTINCT.
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Professional Mistress (28, USA, fit) seeking submissive male for forced-bi play. Ages 18-40 only and must be in decent physical shape.
Military men, muscular men, and experienced slaves are a plus.
To Apply:
Message me with your stats (Age, Location, Height, Weight, cock size, and a brief description of experience) and some pictures (must have at least one shirtless picture as bare minimum).
Military men, muscular men, and experienced slaves are a plus.
To Apply:
Message me with your stats (Age, Location, Height, Weight, cock size, and a brief description of experience) and some pictures (must have at least one shirtless picture as bare minimum).
Rookie Scribe
Hello all, I'm a submissive male from India. I often cross dress. I'm 24,and looking for a dominant woman to take control of me, and use me like a slut.
Please contact if I'm anything like you are looking for.
Please contact if I'm anything like you are looking for.
Rookie Scribe
Hey everyone, looking for a mistress. I am fairly inexperienced in the BDSM world but im willing to be molded and trained by the right mistress. If you are interested please send me pm.
Her Royal Spriteness
Looking for lost dog... oh, wait, wrong section, sorry! 
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
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Hello, my name is Stephy, im 21, I am a submissive looking for a master or preferably a mistress, I am new to this, and I have a few limits, if anyone is ready to help me explore this send me a message.
The expert mistress is sleeping above me (Sprite).... you may wake her up to fulfill your desires.... at your own risk :P
Her Royal Spriteness
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The expert mistress is sleeping above me (Sprite).... you may wake her up to fulfill your desires.... at your own risk :P
*blinks* what you been smoking, girl?
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
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Looking for lost dog... oh, wait, wrong section, sorry!
Rachel...
"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
The Engineer
Hello a sub here from India. I am currently looking for a Dom either a master/mistress who so ever is willing to take me . I am willing to share pics and even willing to get together on other messaging apps to get to know each other better. I am a particular fan of bushy partners too....you know just saying. Please please message me if you are interested.
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My name is John I am 34 I am seeking a online Mistress I do have limits I am not the sissy type I work hard and would like to give up control The one thing I am sure about in the BDSM lifestyle Is that control is given not taken And only through talking to a Mistress can we find if we are compatible message me and thanks for reading this
The Engineer
Yesterday I decided to turn over a new leaf....hence this post. I am bow seriously looking for a Dom who would be interested in a relationship. I am not saying a serious one at the start but maybe with time. I am willing to prove my worthiness. Hope there is Someone out there who is kind passionate and generous to take in a lonely pet.
The Engineer
Thank you for giving me a chance to provide an introduction about myself.
I am a 21 year old boy from India. I know Indians have been projected as sex despos. And it might be true. So how am I different. .well I must say rather than doing I believe in serving.
I am a Sikh boy. Sikhism is my religion. It teaches us to keep our hair long, keep a beard... I have body hair too. Which honestly I can't remove...but if you accept me with it .I promise I will be a great sub.
I recently graduates engineering. So I will be joining a job 9-5 in coming October. But till then...I am staying with my parents... So there is you can understand some restrictions are present. But I will try to work around then.
As to what I am willing to do till I join a job, I can spank myself as you desire, put restrictions on my in ways you can imagine...in secret wear women lingerie for you...in all..I can be a sissy in definition. Also I don't mind licking my juices...and for my Dom I am willing to take things inside me too.
Lastly what I want is a Dom who not only is a Dom but also a care taker. Who is passionate about controlling somebody...which I reciprocate with utmost loyalty. Also proofs of tasks completed...as req can be sent on messaging apps like or or emails .
Lastly I would be honest. I am a virgin. In hostel I have had experience of anal insertions and licking my cum. I know any Dom would reject me outrightly..with so many restrictions. But give me one chance and you won't be dissapointed.
Sorry for such a long message..but you have the right to know everything. Hopefully I would hear from you soon.
Thanking you,
Simar
I am a 21 year old boy from India. I know Indians have been projected as sex despos. And it might be true. So how am I different. .well I must say rather than doing I believe in serving.
I am a Sikh boy. Sikhism is my religion. It teaches us to keep our hair long, keep a beard... I have body hair too. Which honestly I can't remove...but if you accept me with it .I promise I will be a great sub.
I recently graduates engineering. So I will be joining a job 9-5 in coming October. But till then...I am staying with my parents... So there is you can understand some restrictions are present. But I will try to work around then.
As to what I am willing to do till I join a job, I can spank myself as you desire, put restrictions on my in ways you can imagine...in secret wear women lingerie for you...in all..I can be a sissy in definition. Also I don't mind licking my juices...and for my Dom I am willing to take things inside me too.
Lastly what I want is a Dom who not only is a Dom but also a care taker. Who is passionate about controlling somebody...which I reciprocate with utmost loyalty. Also proofs of tasks completed...as req can be sent on messaging apps like or or emails .
Lastly I would be honest. I am a virgin. In hostel I have had experience of anal insertions and licking my cum. I know any Dom would reject me outrightly..with so many restrictions. But give me one chance and you won't be dissapointed.
Sorry for such a long message..but you have the right to know everything. Hopefully I would hear from you soon.
Thanking you,
Simar
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Submissive male looking for a mistress.
I'm willing, obedient, enjoy kinky sessions. I'm very descriptive with good vocabulary, I enjoy being spontaneous and will always satisfy.
Add me as a friend or message me and we will get to know each other.
Apart from being a nymphomaniac with a fetish for a strapon fuck and submission I love to talk about anything
I'm willing, obedient, enjoy kinky sessions. I'm very descriptive with good vocabulary, I enjoy being spontaneous and will always satisfy.
Add me as a friend or message me and we will get to know each other.
Apart from being a nymphomaniac with a fetish for a strapon fuck and submission I love to talk about anything
Rookie Scribe
Hello All!
Vic here. As you can tell from my username I am a sub. And yes I am looking for an online master. Please message me with question!!
Xx
Vic here. As you can tell from my username I am a sub. And yes I am looking for an online master. Please message me with question!!
Xx
Rookie Scribe
Hi...new to this site. My name's Hannah 
I'm looking for a master. Hope to make some new friends soon.
I'm looking for a master. Hope to make some new friends soon. 
The Engineer
Back on this particular forum topic after some time. Got a lot of things to say...but I am.just gonna say this, try me once....if you don't like me.no harm done. But that's for when it happens.......
I have no inhibitions sending pics and stuff....please read my bio and send me a message asking anything. Ooh yeah I am looking for a Dom irrespective of the gender or anything.
Cheers,
Simar
I have no inhibitions sending pics and stuff....please read my bio and send me a message asking anything. Ooh yeah I am looking for a Dom irrespective of the gender or anything.
Cheers,
Simar
Dominance / Submission is rather uncertain or 'shifting' for me. I think I am a switch, if I understand the term correctly ( able to be Dom or sub, perhaps both at the same time?)
In real life I have mostly been what I call 'mutual' - that is, someone who tries to enjoy sex with others on an even, fair keel. However, twice in my life I visited Pro Dommes and loved both experiences. I know the thought of being a Dom, for women or men also greatly appeals to me.
As either a Dom or a sub, the idea of humiliation very much does not appeal to me. I want to try to be careful about the language - I do not want to actually feel humiliated ( or 'inflict' that on others). But certainly in the course of being a sub I would expect to do, to be required to do, things that in the regular walk of life would be deemed humiliating. I certainly did such things, and loved doing such things, during my Pro Domme visits. For me what one does is often less important than how one feels. I do not want to feel bad about what I do or am ordered to do as a sub. Similarly, I would not want a sub to feel that way.
I always say I am not into pain or real rough stuff. But I think the real truth is I don't want, or am very scared of too much pain. I have been spanked and paddled and enjoyed it. I have worn nipple clamps. I have had a hand at my throat. I have been slapped. I have been restrained and had a dildo used on me. All of these things I have enjoyed but none of them were administered too harshly. Perhaps I should say some pain is fine, I am very willing to have you push what I think my limits are but please allow me to have and use a safe word if it gets too much.
Dominating others is very enjoyable. But submitting to others is thrilling and fascinating. The much more interesting role.
If any of this diatribe interests anyone feel free to contact me.
In real life I have mostly been what I call 'mutual' - that is, someone who tries to enjoy sex with others on an even, fair keel. However, twice in my life I visited Pro Dommes and loved both experiences. I know the thought of being a Dom, for women or men also greatly appeals to me.
As either a Dom or a sub, the idea of humiliation very much does not appeal to me. I want to try to be careful about the language - I do not want to actually feel humiliated ( or 'inflict' that on others). But certainly in the course of being a sub I would expect to do, to be required to do, things that in the regular walk of life would be deemed humiliating. I certainly did such things, and loved doing such things, during my Pro Domme visits. For me what one does is often less important than how one feels. I do not want to feel bad about what I do or am ordered to do as a sub. Similarly, I would not want a sub to feel that way.
I always say I am not into pain or real rough stuff. But I think the real truth is I don't want, or am very scared of too much pain. I have been spanked and paddled and enjoyed it. I have worn nipple clamps. I have had a hand at my throat. I have been slapped. I have been restrained and had a dildo used on me. All of these things I have enjoyed but none of them were administered too harshly. Perhaps I should say some pain is fine, I am very willing to have you push what I think my limits are but please allow me to have and use a safe word if it gets too much.
Dominating others is very enjoyable. But submitting to others is thrilling and fascinating. The much more interesting role.
If any of this diatribe interests anyone feel free to contact me.