flogging?

26 Aug 2018

My girlfriend who we have known each other for while, and I trust her, brought up that she wants to use a flogger on me. I have never done anything like that and we talked and she said she had done it before and like it. I have two questions. 1) Does the Dom, get orgasm, pleasure out of this or is it more foreplay? Two, express how it feels to receive the flog, I will do it to please her.

26 Aug 2018

Depends on the Domme. it is arousing, but the act of flogging is more of a mental thing - it, by itself, is not going to lead to orgasm (disclaimer: everyone is different, and it could, but for most, probably not) but it will add to her enjoyment and arousal, more than likely.

as for how it feels, depends on what she uses, where she flogs you, how hard, etc. personally, i have have been spanked, paddled, cropped, caned, and flogged, and probably with an intensity that most people would balk at and enjoyed it immensily. pain tends to translate into endorphins. i would suggest starting off gently and working up, seeing if it's something you're interested in repeating. it's not for everyone.

one thing, very important. SAFETY WORD! that means, if it become too intense, it hurts more than you can handle, you need it to stop, you have an agreed upon word/phrase that will immediately bring the flogging to a halt, no questions asked. also, i suggest that you both communicate during the scene - tell her what feels good, what doesn't, etc. good sex requires constant communication. that is especially true of anything that falls under the realm of BDSM. hope that helps. feel free to hit me up with any specific questions or concerns you might have . smile

You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.

26 Aug 2018

Thank you, and I have researched a lot of what you have said and she has some experience. So in essence it is just Foreplay for the dominate? I didn't know if it was so stimulating like being pegged to where you would reach orgasm, from the flogging. But as you said all are different. If it will please her I will do it.

26 Aug 2018

Quote by centillini
Thank you, and I have researched a lot of what you have said and she has some experience. So in essence it is just Foreplay for the dominate? I didn't know if it was so stimulating like being pegged to where you would reach orgasm, from the flogging. But as you said all are different. If it will please her I will do it.

yeah, it's different for everyone - there's not a cookie cutter answer really. Some Dommes might enjoy doing it simply because it brings their subs pleasure. some do it because they enjoy it. you should ask her why she enjoys it if you're curious. smile

You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.

27 Aug 2018

I am going to ask her, just was getting more of an idea first, research. I am willing to let her do this and trust her enough to take control, just opening my mind little more to what to expect. Thank you for your time and info.

12 Sep 2018

It also depends on how the flogger is used as well. A flogger can be used to stoke and stimulate the body before sex. Also if used for hitting , it will depend on the type of flogger being used. Some are very light whilst some can rip skin .

But as the others have said make sure you know your safeword routine and don't put up with something that you feel uncomfortable in doing to please your partner . Communication is essential .

Good luck

22 Sep 2018

Quote by centillini
My girlfriend who we have known each other for while, and I trust her, brought up that she wants to use a flogger on me. I have never done anything like that and we talked and she said she had done it before and like it. I have two questions. 1) Does the Dom, get orgasm, pleasure out of this or is it more foreplay? Two, express how it feels to receive the flog, I will do it to please her.

Being flogged turns me on like crazy, I get hard very quickly. End of. I enjoy flogging another person too, makes me hard.

16 Apr 2019

Hi. Flogging can be very erotic and when done with love can be as gentle as a massage. I have been in the scene for many years initially as a sub but now as a Domme and occasional switch.
I still love to be flogged by by my Domme lover who can make a session last for hours and use ever square inch of my body.
We have a leather flogger which did cost a lot of money but was worth every penny. The handle is nicely weighted and balanced and the individual strands are heavy but supple and fall well.
When used with skill they carress the victims body. and I can be brought to orgasm from just flogging my breasts. However in a long session I will be flogged as I say all over my body including the supposedly non erotic parts like the arms and lower legs.
The pressure of the flogging rises and falls as the session progresses and I always achieve multiple orgasms.
We pause for breaks so that I can drink and refresh, to rest Cath's arm and sometimes to let someone else take over the flogger. Under strict supervision.
Almost always we finish on progressively stronger blows focused at the breasts and vulval area. Cath knows when I can take no more. I often, in fact almost always lose control of my bladder in my ultimate orgasm. Which is always well received. Especially when we have done this in one of the lesbian clubs in the city.
After a session My skin is bright red and Hyper-sensitive from wrist to ankle I can not bare any contact and I need some "decompression" time before I can dress even the touch of the lightest clothes is too much.
This means that I am usually sitting around in the club naked except for my shoes, cuffs and Cath's Steel collar which I wear with pride on these events
Hope this gives you some idea

19 Apr 2019

Quote by sprite
Depends on the Domme. it is arousing, but the act of flogging is more of a mental thing - it, by itself, is not going to lead to orgasm (disclaimer: everyone is different, and it could, but for most, probably not) but it will add to her enjoyment and arousal, more than likely.

as for how it feels, depends on what she uses, where she flogs you, how hard, etc. personally, i have have been spanked, paddled, cropped, caned, and flogged, and probably with an intensity that most people would balk at and enjoyed it immensily. pain tends to translate into endorphins. i would suggest starting off gently and working up, seeing if it's something you're interested in repeating. it's not for everyone.

one thing, very important. SAFETY WORD! that means, if it become too intense, it hurts more than you can handle, you need it to stop, you have an agreed upon word/phrase that will immediately bring the flogging to a halt, no questions asked. also, i suggest that you both communicate during the scene - tell her what feels good, what doesn't, etc. good sex requires constant communication. that is especially true of anything that falls under the realm of BDSM. hope that helps. feel free to hit me up with any specific questions or concerns you might have .

Well said Rachel as always :)