I suggest you do some research into "the lifestyle" and start from there. BDSM covers a WIDE range of things within the "lifestyle". But for the sake of discussion, what part of the "lifestyle" are you looking to get into? Are you looking into BD? DS? SM? Are you into leather? Are you into latex? Are you into Medical? Are you into blood? Are you into bondage? Are you into.... see my point?
Thanks John. Guess I would like to start with bondage and move into some SM.
Who wants to get into it?
Is one of you the top and one a bottom? Or has vanilla sex just become boring?
Read some of the lush stories and check out some videos. Then determine what makes you wet. Being tied up is for playing cowboys and indians as a child. But think....who ties who? What position? Then now that I'm tied up what will you do to me? What do you want doneto you.
Tickle you, suck his toes while he fingers you, vibrates you and keeps you cumming for 45 minutes?
Please follow John's advice. Explore not only the scenes but what turns you on. And never, never play the game of "I do you...ok.....now you do me!"
Experience open yourself and most of all enjoy!
My husband and I are looking to get into the lifestyle. Any tips on supplies we may want to start with? Looking on getting a little "fun box" together. 
