Active Ink Slinger
What parts of your pre-dominated personality, lifestyle, attitudes have changed by being dominated? Were they difficult to give up or did He/She make it easy?
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What are you giving up for your Dominant?
Cock Connoisseur
I moved this to the BDSM Lifestyle section as it is more appropriate here. Most of the submissive females frequent this section and those are not submissive will probably not respond in as the gals.
Active Ink Slinger
Thank you!
Active Ink Slinger
The only thing I really "gave up" was being with other people. Which isn't very difficult despite my flirtatious personality.
You seem sweet, mind if I lick you to make sure?
I have always relied on myself, been strong and made all the decisions. Relying on him and obeying his decisions has been a process for me. I learn I am still strong, but it is okay to rely on someone. My Dom has made it very easy for me because he is ALWAYS there for me. He will catch me if I fall. He knows me as well as I know me, and makes decisions based on that. I still trip myself up sometimes, out of old natural instinct to handle things myself. I have let him take charge of my life in every way and I know he has my best interests at heart, always. Old habits die hard, but he is the most patient man Ive ever met.
Active Ink Slinger
I think domination is earned, but it is also a HUGE responsibility. In many cases it seems the Dominant is helping to "fix" the destructive things a submissive is engaged in. Whether it's a sense of "broken", "betrayed". lack of confidence, or the messed up behavior; whether it's the overly-romanticized "textbook" idealism - few submissives come to the table in perfect condition or perfectly "trained". I think there's a lot of "giving up" that goes with surrendering to a Dominant depending on the relationship, of course. I don't completely understand the "whatever *shrug*" attitudes which seem like casual hookups, but each to their own.