Where to start......

I have been married to my wife for several years and are at a stage where we are trying to keep the spice in the bedroom going. When we have sex its amazing but not as frequent as we would like.

Anyway my wife has been talking more and more about being dominated and used by me for my sexual pleasure. She will wear sexy underwear, makeup and sexy leather wristlets cuffs. Her whole attitude changes and is a big turn on for both of us.

She also like an element of pain, from pinching nipples to slaps of body parts.

She want to take it further, but I dont know how.....any advice would be appreciated.

you might want to try nipple clamps, if you haven't already. you can go for just the plain ones, or right into vibrating clamps. My wife absolutely loves them.

I suggest you set aside an evening, put your phones away, get two bottles of GOOD wine along with fruit and cheese. Then set down together and TALK.

A long time ago I had an online friend who was into the BDSM lifestyle and we used to have long conversations. Because we were friends she said she'd never top me but she did send me a document with an incredibly long list of sexual activities. I had to mark each activity with:

• I like it

• I'd like to try it

• I don't like it but I'd do it if ordered

• I won't do it

She said that her and her partner regularly used the list to check up on where each of them was. When I returned the list we discussed it.

Just a thought.