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Would you say that this is part of the BDSM Lifestyle?

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seagrit
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For many years I always wanted to be restrained and whipped. My wife now is really into it and loves whipping me. I do enjoy it and the harder the better for me. She also loves to use her 7in strap-on, on me which I enjoy. Also I have told her that I would love to have someone else whip me while she watches. It would be a big turn on to see her sitting there getting all worked up as I was getting whipped. Now with this info do you guys think I am into the BDSM Lifestyle?
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It is part of BDSM, yes. "Lifestyle"? Maybe. Kink? Sure. The "Lifestyle" is more than the sexual aspects. But BDSM has a VERY wide range of kinks AND lifestyles.
Dani
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
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Now with this info do you guys think I am into the BDSM Lifestyle?


You're definitely into BDSM as a kink...and our kinks can be a part of our lifestyles, so there's no reason to say you aren't into the BDSM lifestyle.

There's just different levels to it, I suppose. If being submissive is something you're into as an all day, every day thing sort of thing, then you're most definitely into it as a lifestyle. But if it's just limited to your bedroom, then some would say that it's just a kink. But I think that if it's something you crave most of the time when you're having sex, then I think it goes further than just a kink. So yes, I think you're into the BDSM lifestyle.

"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
seagrit
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I think for me its limited to the bedroom. I am not submissive during the day at all in my daily life. The thing is when it comes to making love to my wife it is a big deal for me to be tied up and her to get into whipping me as hard as she wants to. I tell her to let herself go. When she does it is a big turn on. Also she had said that she needs more room to use the different whips on me and that it would be nice if we could go a friend of mines apartment which is very big. I told her that I would ask him if it was alright to use his apartment. I also told her maybe we could have him whip me so she could watch. She thought that would be hot. So maybe it is just a kinky side of me or does it fall into a BDSM lifestyle? The reason I said my male friend was because she does not want another women whipping me. She is the only women to do it but has no issue with another man whipping me.
Ravyn
Cock Connoisseur
It sounds to me like you are more interested in finding out where you fit with your particular kink or desires. To be honest, I wouldn't worry so much about where you may "fit" in any one lifestyle. If its something you live 24/7 and its apart of who you are then call it a lifestyle. If its just something you enjoy doing even if its every time and just kept it to the bedroom then I would say you definitely have a passion for that particular kink. You like the bondage part of BDSM and you also appear to be a masochist. Just embrace what you enjoy and don't worry so much about labeling what it is.