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Advice on maybe getting a tattoo...

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MrNudiePants
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Some people on here know this about me, most probably don't. Many years ago I was in an accident that shattered my right arm. I've told the full story elsewhere on the world wide webz, but in a nutshell here it is: The surgeons were able to put it back together again, but it took several surgeries over three years. I went through a lot of hardships. I lived in pain the whole time. I wasn't able to do many mundane things that people just take for granted. Simple things like brushing my teeth, taking a shower, eating dinner - these things became a real challenge. I wasn't even able to hold my child in my arms, or pick her up if she fell. I became addicted to painkillers. I was left with scars that aren't huge or even all that noticeable - to anyone but me. I see them every time I look in a mirror. They remind me of a time that means nothing to me but misery. I suppose some of the scars are inside. The ones you can see, though, are on the very top of my deltoid muscle (where most of the reconstruction was done), and down the outside (where the screws went in).

I got the idea to get a tattoo years ago, but never really took it seriously. I could never come up with a design that I liked enough to wear it for the rest of my life. My friends said, "Dude, get a cool dragon" or "Dude, get a cool tiger". or "Dude, get one of those tribal things... you know what I mean." All that taught me was to ignore any sentence that began with the word "dude".

Surfing the net a few days ago, I found this photo of actress Sarah Shahi.





I don't think the ink is permanent - I think it's just the makeup that she had for her role in the Stallone movie "Bullet To The Head". Stupid movie, but I've always thought she was gorgeous. In this photo, the image on her hip just spoke to me. It has no real meaning to me that I can figure out, it just holds a simple beauty that caught my eye and made me want it.





I wouldn't be getting it on my hip, of course. I picture it on my shoulder, sort of extending down and curled around the scar tissue camouflaging it and making it... pretty.

What do you think?
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I think you should do it, flowers growing over a scar is very symbolic and positive. dude.
ChuckEPoo
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No, no, no, no, no, no, no
Liz
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Quote by MrNudiePants
What do you think?


I like floral tattoos and orchids are particularly popular. They tend to be more of a female subject matter I think, but there are some great examples of them on guys, too.

I'd suggest finding a tattoo artist who specialises in this sort of design and get them to freehand something for you. That way it will flow with the curves of your muscle definition.

If it's a cover-up piece, for something like scar tissue, they can use drop shadows on the flowers to darken it out, or maybe even some green foliage.
Liz
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Quote by MrNudiePants
What do you think?


I like floral tattoos and orchids are particularly popular. They tend to be more of a female subject matter I think, but there are some great examples of them on guys, too.

I'd suggest finding a tattoo artist who specialises in this sort of design and get them to freehand something for you. That way it will flow with the curves of your muscle definition.

If it's a cover-up piece, for something like scar tissue, they can use drop shadows on the flowers to darken it out, or maybe even some green foliage.
MrNudiePants
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Quote by AmberWolfe8
YES Go for it!!! Want me to do it for you???

Check out mine.... tell me what ya think ;)


Yours are very nice! I especially like the one in the second pic - with the butterflies. I think I might like to have something like that done also. I'm not looking for a full sleeve. Just something artful that will turn a hurtful thing into something to be admired. Thanks!
MrNudiePants
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Quote by JacquieJ
No, no, no, no, no, no, no


Why not, Jacqui?
MrNudiePants
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Quote by ChuckEPoo


I have great empathy for you. I was a gunship pilot in army and was shot down suffering multiple injuries. After many surgeries and joint replacements I am also left with many scars that are not that noticeable. I have also considered tattoos but they are so permanent. No do overs. I look at designs but can't see just the right one. I have one on my inside thigh that only my girl has seen. I thought of having the design done first in semi permanent ink to try it out. But I just can't pull the trigger.


Damn. God bless, Chuck. My story isn't nearly as interesting as yours. Just a stupid accident. I know what you mean about picking out the design. It's been over 10 years for me and I finally see something I like. I hope things work out for you.
SereneProdigy
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It's a nice tattoo on its own, though it certainly is rather feminine (as most flower designs are). Not necessarily a negative thing, but you have to consider which impact it will have on your personal appearance.

I think it can look great if you already have a rather masculine/tough appearance; then it will show your softer/sweeter side, which most women will find way sexy.

If you already have a rather soft appearance, I'd be careful about it though. It's not a tattoo that I would sport myself personally, considering that I often try to conceal my sensitive nature to girls; I'd definitely opt for something more masculine for myself. I actually often go for a rather masculine appearance generally, that way when girls inevitably witness my affectionate side (argh), it comes off as a cute feature and a pleasant surprise rather than something I want to shove down their throats.

And Liz gave nice advices too: talented artists can suggest different designs and darker shades could be helpful to cover some of your scars.
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I think you should do it, flowers growing over a scar is very symbolic and positive. dude.

do you ignore a sentence that ends in "dude" as well?
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Quote by SereneProdigy
It's a nice tattoo on its own, though it certainly is rather feminine (as most flower designs are). Not necessarily a negative thing, but you have to consider which impact it will have on your personal appearance.

I think it can look great if you already have a rather masculine/tough appearance; then it will show your softer/sweeter side, which most women will find way sexy.

If you already have a rather soft appearance, I'd be careful about it though. It's not a tattoo that I would sport myself personally, considering that I often try to conceal my sensitive nature to girls; I'd definitely opt for something more masculine for myself. I actually often go for a rather masculine appearance generally, that way when girls inevitably witness my affectionate side (argh), it comes off as a cute feature and a pleasant surprise rather than something I want to shove down their throats.

And Liz gave nice advices too: talented artists can suggest different designs and darker shades could be helpful to cover some of your scars.



I disagree about the appearance thing. Regardless of his appearance, if he really wants it he should get it.
SereneProdigy
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Quote by daddysweetheart
I disagree about the appearance thing. Regardless of his appearance, if he really wants it he should get it.


Hell, if he wants a Hello Kitty tattoo, he should get that too. I mean, if that's what he really wants, I'm sure every woman will respond positively.





Sexual attraction is all about personality and stuff anyway, so why are we here being bothered with aesthetic concerns in the first place? He might as well get a tattoo of Steve Buscemi's face or Woopi Goldberg's ass, so long as he follows his heart and his personality shines through, I'm sure he'll do just fine with women.
MrNudiePants
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Quote by lacr0236

do you ignore a sentence that ends in "dude" as well?


ROFL! I didn't even catch that.
MrNudiePants
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Quote by SereneProdigy
It's a nice tattoo on its own, though it certainly is rather feminine (as most flower designs are). Not necessarily a negative thing, but you have to consider which impact it will have on your personal appearance.

I think it can look great if you already have a rather masculine/tough appearance; then it will show your softer/sweeter side, which most women will find way sexy.

If you already have a rather soft appearance, I'd be careful about it though. It's not a tattoo that I would sport myself personally, considering that I often try to conceal my sensitive nature to girls; I'd definitely opt for something more masculine for myself. I actually often go for a rather masculine appearance generally, that way when girls inevitably witness my affectionate side (argh), it comes off as a cute feature and a pleasant surprise rather than something I want to shove down their throats.

And Liz gave nice advices too: talented artists can suggest different designs and darker shades could be helpful to cover some of your scars.


Liz did give good advice. I'm planning on choosing the artist carefully.

I'm not really worried about people thinking it's too soft, or too feminine. I'm old. My masculinity is set. Set enough, at any rate, that I just found out that I intimidate the hell out of all of my daughter's boyfriends without even trying. One question I have is this: How do you know who's a good artist and who's a hack? I don't know enough about tattoos to know the difference between great work and mediocre.
Dancing_Doll
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I like the idea.

You need to go to a tattoo artist that is experienced tattooing over scars - it requires a different touch because of the texture of scar tissue. Placement of the design will be extremely important if you're looking to try to conceal it.

If you aren't watching, you should check out shows like Ink Master and Tattoo Nightmares currently on Spike TV on Tuesday nights (I think the episodes are online as well) to get a better of idea of the range of talent you might be facing when choosing an artist and what kind of artist you will want to go to based on the style of your design (eg. someone specializing in cover-ups, realism, black and white etc). You will also want to look closely at their portfolio and do a bit of research (a lot of which you can do online). Miami is stacked with good tattoo artists. eg. This girl was a finalist on two seasons of Ink Master and I love her stuff (based in Florida). From what I saw on the shows, she does great floral designs too.
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To a young woman I would usually say "don't do it" except for maybe some parts that aren't going to change much in life.
A large and complex tattoo on a young female body, or man for that matter, is going to look awful when body fat wreaks havoc with the nubile form. Bulges appear and parts migrate. Result: a mess in middle age.

The OP is in a different place entirely. He has what are for him scars he abhors. So by all means cover them or find a design that improves them.
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Why not, Jacqui?


I have three reasons for NO to tattoos:
1. If you change your mind they are difficult and sometimes expensive to remove
2. I have met too many people who have regretted getting tattoos
3. I think they are extremely ugly -- on both men and women
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I think it is a great idea - most importantly is if it is something you would feel good about - then it's all good - all the best
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go for it but make sure it has very strong meaning/feeling to it so you never regret it
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I think if it means that much to you, then you should. The important thing to remember is to chose something that has personal meaning that way later in life you don't regret getting it. Also research local tattoo artists in the area, look at thier portfolios and make sure you like thier work before having it done. Their really are 3 important things to keep in mind when getting a tattoo, your desgin, location and the artist doing the tattoo, you will want someone whom you feel comfortable with and like thier work. Also since you will be getting it over scar tissue, it's likely to be more sensitve and hurt more do to that.