how to be friends?

18 Sep 2015

Quote by Shylass

Good luck, asian2013!

Thanks, Shylass. Your initial post had a lot of good points, btw. smile

18 Sep 2015

oh right, this was serious topic biggrin

Sorry asian2013, didn't mean to ruin it with this stupid argument, I hope the crap we wrote can be somehow helpful :D
I blame Shylass :D

18 Sep 2015

Quote by Buz
Male-female friendship can and does exist in many instances without sex. That goes to depth of character and depth of intelligence. There is no good reason that a man and woman cannot be friends.

If you are a person that thinks or acts in a way that sex has to be interjected into that friendship relationship that is a rather shallow mental condition that is your own making.

I have many female friends and sex is not part of that, nor do I want it to be.

One can be friends and interject sex, as in friends-with-benefits. In those cases I think the relationship can easily change unless you are very guarded to keep that from happening.

But a lover relationship can also be a friend relationship. For instance, I am in love with my wife, in lust with my wife and she is my best friend.

I couldn't agree more. I have many friends both male and female. A friend listens, and supports. They don't have to agree. There is a Greek word called koinonia. It means having things in common. That can include sex but also many other things.

22 Sep 2015

This has probably already been said, but perhaps you weren't meant to be friends. If you're in constant conflict, then there's obviously something wrong that just doesn't let you harmonize with each other. Behavior is a mystery and so, when it comes to your relationships, if you're with someone who reacts negatively to you and to whom you do the same, then it's probably best to just part ways.