(I'm still not sure whether i should have posted this question here or in the health section.)
Say i'm alone in my room, and i look at parts of my own body (in a mirror or directly), it reminds me of the times when i have spent with my lover, when i touched her. Example: Suppose i look at my hands, i think of the times when i held her hands, i remember how they looked like. I also confess that it turns me on too, sometimes. Is this abnormal?
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Is there anything wrong with me?
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Quote by thesexynun
I don't think so
I think you are remembering how she made you feel and as you touch yourself
you are really feeling her ...touching you
and when you get turned on...it is you being turned on by her
loss is hard is it not
Spot on Sexynun.
Sounds to me like you haven't had "closure" and the break up is on your mind. If you're still single you're not hurting anyone, the only problem is to make sure that it doesn't consume you.
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No...there's nothing wrong with you. If the sex was that great/special, then of course everything associated with that connection is gonna remind you of this lover.
"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
Definitely not. My hands, my ears, my eyes, my mouth, my arms and other parts of me were all involved in lovemaking with a woman, and in my case more than one woman. Any woman who felt pleasure and returned it left her imprint on my heart. No matter what happened, you and the woman you were with felt something wonderful that won't go away.
It makes me think of how i felt when we touched. It does turn me on. Yes, loss is hard, "thesexynun".
You really don't wanna forget some of the good moments you've shared with someone, your dates, time spent shopping together, or in bed.
Even if that person later on hurt you.
Yes, i'm single, and i try not to think about it too much, so that it doesnt consume me. Thanks, "dpw".
It was special, you're right, "slipperywhenwet2012".
Peter and sin, thanks for caring about me so much.
You really don't wanna forget some of the good moments you've shared with someone, your dates, time spent shopping together, or in bed.
Even if that person later on hurt you.
Yes, i'm single, and i try not to think about it too much, so that it doesnt consume me. Thanks, "dpw".
It was special, you're right, "slipperywhenwet2012".
Peter and sin, thanks for caring about me so much.
With me it has been always complicated.
I don't know if it was wrong on my part to expect my first ex to spare some time for me from her schedule.
My second ex would have been a mistake, we didn't have much in common, and i also had cold feet, as it was too soon.
However, i'm more fond of my first lover. Some memories are to be cherished, no matter what.
Thanks.
I don't know if it was wrong on my part to expect my first ex to spare some time for me from her schedule.
My second ex would have been a mistake, we didn't have much in common, and i also had cold feet, as it was too soon.
However, i'm more fond of my first lover. Some memories are to be cherished, no matter what.
Thanks.
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With me it has been always complicated.
I don't know if it was wrong on my part to expect my first ex to spare some time for me from her schedule.
My second ex would have been a mistake, we didn't have much in common, and i also had cold feet, as it was too soon.
However, i'm more fond of my first lover. Some memories are to be cherished, no matter what.
Thanks.
My dear, I am no spring chicken and can tell you honestly that what Shakespeare says, "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" is so true. Yes, love is precious, truly precious, and from the beautiful images you used in describing how you feel now, they are not wrong but sacred to you. Being in love is never going to be without bruises but you are going to get bruises in life anyway, so you might as well get a little something good out of what life can put us through.
I will never stop loving most of the people I have loved because even though one romance may have lasted a few years, months or just a few brief moments, the feeling was special to me and I will always be grateful to those I have loved for the time they shared with me.
Thank you for sharing such beautiful and sweet feelings with us.
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With me it has been always complicated.
I don't know if it was wrong on my part to expect my first ex to spare some time for me from her schedule.
However, i'm more fond of my first lover. Some memories are to be cherished, no matter what.
I don't want to sound harsh but it sounds a bit one sided. Spare some time? I should she should, your meant to be the most important thing in her life. Yes we all have to work but not 24/7, there's always time for love!
Cherish the memories but leave them at that, you're worth more than a window in a schedule.
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(I'm still not sure whether i should have posted this question here or in the health section.)
Say i'm alone in my room, and i look at parts of my own body (in a mirror or directly), it reminds me of the times when i have spent with my lover, when i touched her. Example: Suppose i look at my hands, i think of the times when i held her hands, i remember how they looked like. I also confess that it turns me on too, sometimes. Is this abnormal?
You sound hurt and not over the break up. But as cliche as this sounds, time heals it. I had one break up that hurt me deeply but it didn't break my heart. Don't let it and coast through it.
Maybe it did break my heart and I just mended it. Treat yourself kindly and you will survive. Ok Gloria Gaynor just walked in to sing to you. I hope that made you smile. 
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I don't think there's anything wrong with you at all it's just the normal process of coping with loss, there might have been something wrong if you didn't have these feelings.
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your feelings are yours don't doubt them or suppress them.Embrace who you are replay your memories and live them and love them