I have talked to many guys both on the Internet and in Real Life who do not like for anyone (man or woman) to see them even in photos naked with their penis in a flaccid state.
And no it is not about the size or the fear of shrinkage but they deem it as not appearing masculine or appearing powerless and less than a man if their penis is not erect.
I know that it is a psychological thing, but for you have you ever had those thoughts ... if you are a man about your own or if you are a woman about a man if you see him soft.
Thoughts?
If I see a man soft, I don't think anything about it. It's just a soft cock. I've never heard a guy say anything like this before, about not wanting to be seen in a flaccid state.
I don't care either way, and having a hard cock at the nude beaches I use to frequent would get you politely asked to come back some other day - nude beach and hard cock do not mix
I don't have an issue with it. Maybe some guys are not comfortable because it is a raging hard-on? Who knows. Unless the guy is abnormally small, it should not be an issue.
I have never heard of any guy saying this. If his cock is soft all it means is it isn't aroused. It doesn't mean he CAN'T get aroused. It doesn't mean he ISN'T a man because a camera didn't make him hard.
Maybe if he is really small or if he is more of a "grower" than a "shower" I can see him being a little self-conscious about it. But we all know a soft cock will get hard, and a hard cock will eventually be soft!!
As I said some of the guys I have talked to just have that perception of masculinity tied to it. I don't feel that way...just getting other peoples opinions to see if there are those out that might look at it that way.
I do know that I have read or seen in an interview on one of the talk shows that some of the models for magazines and such require a "fluffer" there to plump them up some before pictures are taken of them. I think that has more to do with size but they didn't say.
I have wondered even with some of the guys I have heard bring up the masculinity thing if it had more to do with size than the other. But then again I do remember somewhere in my college studies in psychology that there was something about the appearance of an erection vs. a flaccid cock eliciting feelings of power, dominance, etc. The flaccid cock represented the opposite in the study. That was when we were studying Freud that the teacher brought up those studies or something.
If we're just talking about a soft cock in pics, then yeah, I think it looks better hard, or maybe covered up and appearing as a bulge. The reason being if a guy is sending me a naked pic, it's probably to show how turned on he is or part of sexting etc. Now that I look back on it, you are right in that I've never had a guy send me a naked pic of himself with just a limp dick, it's always at least in some semi-hard to a full-blown 'you can hang a towel off this rod' state.
Now, I'm not gonna lie - I do like it that way in pics. In real life, you're obviously going to be seeing it soft though pretty regularly - like walking to and from the shower, changing, getting out of bed or lounging around etc. It's not a turn-off and I would be surprised to hear that guys would feel self-conscious about that. But strictly in terms of pics - yeah, I would agree that hard is sexier. I've never thought of the psychology behind it as far as it appearing more masculine but I can see your point on that one too. Interesting thread!
I've never had a negative thought about a flaccid penis. I actually like to surprise my husband with blowjobs or other acts. If can catch him flaccid i'll put the whole thing in my mouth and let it grow there.
In my opinion, It doesn't make a guy any more masculine than he already is regardless of how hard or flaccid he is.
