This may sound strange, but if I were a woman I'd probably be a complete slut. How does a woman not want to be one?

Yes, it sounds weird but I can only imagine being a woman from a male's POV. It's very complicated and involves so many factors for men to eventually have sex with a woman. Maybe I have a misunderstanding, but it would seem a woman could get all the 'action' she wanted or desired. So that's my very very basic statement - if I were a woman (not that I have the inclination of ever gender changing, but respect to those who have) I would spread my legs and enjoy as many men as possible. Does this sound preposterous? I genuinely would like to hear opinions on this because I've wondered about it for a long time. Thank you

I heard this from so many guys!!! But, if you were a woman most probably you wouldn't be a slut... because you would think like a woman and you would start woring about other things😉. But you meant being a woman thinking like a man...and this is why some of us are sluts. But, that' s really ok from my point of view...diversity is a good thing.

We all have our slut phases, I'm sure - mine was both chemistry- and curiosity-driven. But even while mildly exploring, have always had the niggling feeling that 'this isn't it'. There was always this fundamental desire to please and serve just one, and to have that reciprocated. Might be an individual preference/realisation, rather than a general female thing.

I don’t know self esteem? If we want sex we have it. Why are women classified as sluts or whores for following an urge. If a man has sex they don’t get called names. Sexual desire has no gender. If you want it do it. No shame, no names.

"Does this sound preposterous?"

Not preposterous. Just unaware. Not your fault.

Sex is neither easy nor painless for women on the regular. This never seems to occur to dudes... Y'all think that bad sex is when you don't cum, or don't manage to make her cum, or cum too early, or lose your erection - but even then it's usually nice for you up to that point. You might experience actual pain during sex only if she rides you too roughly, or if something outlandish happens with her IUD or her vaginal muscles, or if you fall off the couch and break your peen. For pain to be an aspect of sex for dudes, some accident must occur.

For most normal females, pain and discomfort are the norm at some point during standard vanilla sex - not accidents; just standard practice - and there's room for massive deterioration from there. Depending on hormonal cycles, vaginal dryness, the reckless overenthusiasm of the partner, the size of the equipment, the position... it's about as pleasant as an OBGYN visit and requires about as much prep work.

So no, you wouldn't be doing that casually with strangers all the time, unless you're into pain, soreness, bleeding, and no/unspectacular orgasms for all your trouble. So most women already do "get all the 'action' [they] want or desire", which is not much by male standards, but plenty by the standards of the person whose body gets penetrated.

(It usually just takes one less-than-stellar pegging for males to begin to grasp this, by the way, so... if you really want to imagine it, here's a suggestion...)

Also, as the ladies above have already mentioned, b) sex is nowhere near as fun if there's even a slight chance you can get pregnant, or suffer emotionally or socially from it. Reality sucks, and not in the good way.

"Slut" dates to the 14th century (first OED citation of use: Chaucer’s Canterbury Tales) and simply denotes a person, male or female, who is dirty, uncouth, and untidy. There was no concerted moral connotation until the mid-twentieth century when it was intentionally revived by men as a purely sexual expression to castigate women who were beginning to assert their right to personal sexuality. That is why there is no male equivalent in this context.
While its force may now be somewhat diminished by the broadened audience it is directed at, it is still, at its core, a term of repression and degradation. Even the framing of your question says as much.

What Kirstin said.

To build on that I know the general feeling of the OP but that’s in a vacuum created by my white cis male experience. I’ve rarely been sexually harassed, certainly never been in fear of sexual assault. There’s also a much higher social stigma for women being sexually aggressive or promiscuous compared to men. I’ve rarely been shamed for my sexuality.

Basically what your saying is “I wish lots of people who I wanted to fuck wanted to fuck me.” And that’s a valid desire. But the patriarchy and gender roles mean that is not acceptable or safe for a woman to wish to ‘be a slut.’ If it weren’t for social constructs, women would be more open to casual sex as a whole. So let’s take a moment to remind ourselves that the patriarchy is making everyone but the rich and powerful’s sex lives significantly worse.

Hmmm...why not be a slut?
The good part is that you can get all the sex you want, sure.
There are, however, at least a hundred (not an exaggeration) reasons why it has profoundly negative effects on you as a person. The damage of society's expectations, the real, physical dangers, the emotional impact of being ostracized and ridiculed by others, and the inability to be seen as anything other than a pussy with a human attached can be lethal blows to the psyche.

Then, of course, you have the double standard, which has been mentioned. If a man has sex with lots of different women, he's a cool stud. If a woman does that, she's a trashy whore. Also, you have the fact that the type of men or women that are just trying to fuck you are not, exactly the type of people that will see you as a person and not a fuck-hole.

In male fantasy, driven by the typical male, no consequences impulses, it sounds great. In reality, it is a lonely, self-image-destroying existence with no shortage of judgemental people lording themselves over you so they can feel better about themselves.

I agree that if a woman wants sex, more power to her, and fuck anyone else, but just because we may be proud sluts, does NOT mean that the rest of the world shares our point of view.