I'm a complete novice when it comes to sharing a bed with somebody.
Something I have often wondered about is, if you're cuddling somebody lying next to you, where do you put the other arm that's under you?! I've only done it once, and the arm that was on top went round him, but I was wriggling around trying to work out what to do with the arm under me. I just couldn't get comfy.
So, do you lie on the arm under you? Push it up under your pillow? Try to put it under your partner's neck to support them? Push it behind you? Something else?
Is there any way to lie face to face, without the arm under you getting in the way? I'd love a practical lesson, but theory is my only option. So I'm asking you... Please?
Ut incepit fidelis, sic permanet.
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You could fold it under your head, or curl it under the pillow.
dear Daisy,
i had some comical answers ready for you, but, i'm putting those aside for now, so i can give you the frustratingly real answer; where ever it feels comfortable, and that's going to change from person to person, time to time, and according to where you are, how you are laying, etc...
ok, very unhelpful - i will try to do better...
side to side, facing each other i am usually more comfortable with her arm slipped under my waist, her hand resting between my shoulder blades. that said, that accomadates my particular body shape. sometimes it's nice just to rest my head on her shoulder as she plays with my hair. snuggling, btw, is usually somewhat fluid for me, and side to side goes through various stages and degrees.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
I'm with Liz. Crook of the neck is good. Others may work depending on person and environment, but that's the one I usually end up with.
Have to arm under the pillow, it gives you both the freedom to turn over or move away if you get too hot etc
As long as your both comfy then it makes no difference.
I tend to go with the under the pillow method as its very similar to how I sleep on my own
This isn't about fisting again, is it?
Ok I'll let you into a secret, just promise not to tell anyone.
You know those nights when a woman doesn't want sex, she just wants a cuddle - you know, when she's on the blob. A guy will quite happily let her fall asleep with his arm under her. About half an hour after she's fallen asleep his arm will feel completely dead. He can then use his numb hand to wank himself off so that it feels like someone else is doing it.
True story.
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Why not read some stories instead
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Up under the pillow and my head. That way it's out of the way.
I have to say, it would really help if humans were modular and could remove parts at will. "Oh it's cuddle time? Well just give me a second to take off the arm that's going to be on the bottom."
Yep ... same as above. Sometimes however I need that other arm/hand to hold my cup of tea.
The only way I really sleep soundly is with my husband's arms wrapped around me, spooning.
"When its too kinky for everybody else, its just gettin' good for me."
(Kinky Freedman)
My wife is constantly toying with my arms, placing them around her in different places. I think she once ended up tying my arms in a sloop knot around her leg and we had to grease up with KY Jelly to slide out.
My favorite cuddle position is the illustration that Liz posted. I can slide my numb arm out from under her when she falls asleep. However, I've never tried wanking with it while its numb from lack of blood as OMKN suggested. At least I haven't yet.
OMG, this thread just reminded me I had a bad dream last night. In the dream, for some odd reason I had to have a leg and an arm amputated! I think I was running around trying to find out if they were both from the same side or whether I would have one limb left on each side. I really could have done without remembering that. True story. Just thought you might want to know.
So Lassie, to answer your question, I would still have one arm, but not sure where it would be.
All this arm putting business reminded me of this joke:
A wealthy dude opened the door of his BMW, when suddenly a car came along and hit the door, ripping it off completely. When the police arrived at the scene, the dude was complaining bitterly about the damage to his precious BMW.
"Officer, look what they've done to my Beeeemer!!!", he whined.
"You rich guys are so materialistic, you make me sick!!!" retorted the officer, "You're so worried about your stupid BMW, that you didn't even notice that your left arm was ripped off!!!"
"Oh my gaaad....", replied the dude, finally noticing the bloody left shoulder where his arm once was, "My Rolex!!!!!"
It would just have to be in the shower.
<-- that is about as useful as I can be.
