I sort of feel down on my luck. I'm a Lesbian and I've only had one girlfriend in my life. I'm hoping to have another girlfriend in my life again one day. I'm very bashful and it's hard for me to talk to people sometimes. This is something I'm trying to push myself past from because I know I can't be shy forever. Especially if I want to meet anyone or have any luck in the dating department. The one thing that sort of bothers me is that I never even had an oral sex experience with a woman and I really want to experience this. When I was with my girlfriend, all we did was fool around and we felt each others bodies, but that's it. Sadly, we broke up because she wanted to go back with her ex-girlfriend and I let her go because I wanted her to be happy and and I'm in no position of keeping her with me if she's in love with somebody else. So I let her go and moved on. Now I'm sort of hoping that I can push past this bashful side of me and meet some people in the future. I have a hard time finding other lesbians or woman in general who are interested in me. Maybe because I'm not good with signals or what, but I'm clueless, lol!!
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A very shy lesbian who needs advice
Active Ink Slinger
Maybe join some society or other that has a common subject such as amateur dramatics or something else that you are interested in - there are people who gather together to read each other's writing efforts or practice a particular kind of handicraft. Something that has not too many people but all have a common interest. I think this is the kind of environment that you might be relaxed in rather than noisy pubs, clubs etc. You have attracted someone in the past so there is every possibility that it will happen again. Try not to be too desperate and you'll be surprised at how unexpectedly you will meet someone. I'm certain that if you just make a small effort you will be successful and wish you every success.
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Probably get better advice from women who have lived your situation. I used to be exceedingly shy and still am to a degree; one of the things that helped me is public speaking. You may find it gives you more confidence to initiate a conversation or be more comfortable in group settings. You could try Toastmasters or local college to learn more about public speaking; both should provide you with tips and tricks you can use in everyday situations. As for reading signals I'm pretty clueless myself but things tend to work out. Hang in there Sam, you sound like someone with a good heart. Another good heart will find yours.
Good advice from the others already given. As you admit your not very good at signals I presume either giving them or receiving them , I would check out the various videos that centre on body language and eye contact and learn . A lot of women are better than guys at using it and reading it. IMO once you are able to read body language and eye contact it will add a string to your bow in your quest to find a new partner.
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I sort of feel down on my luck. I'm a Lesbian and I've only had one girlfriend in my life. I'm hoping to have another girlfriend in my life again one day. I'm very bashful and it's hard for me to talk to people sometimes. This is something I'm trying to push myself past from because I know I can't be shy forever. Especially if I want to meet anyone or have any luck in the dating department. The one thing that sort of bothers me is that I never even had an oral sex experience with a woman and I really want to experience this. When I was with my girlfriend, all we did was fool around and we felt each others bodies, but that's it. Sadly, we broke up because she wanted to go back with her ex-girlfriend and I let her go because I wanted her to be happy and and I'm in no position of keeping her with me if she's in love with somebody else. So I let her go and moved on. Now I'm sort of hoping that I can push past this bashful side of me and meet some people in the future. I have a hard time finding other lesbians or woman in general who are interested in me. Maybe because I'm not good with signals or what, but I'm clueless, lol!!
It never hurts to ask her
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yes, just ask, things like you look hot, but look sexy, show some skin
You sound like my wife when we first married. Very bashful but wanting a woman's touch. She never has gone after a lover. they all approached her, including me. She became very much a lesbian while in college with a roommate. She had been with a couple of guys and gals before college. After we married, she got so frustrated with wanting sex with a woman. Her sexuality was never a secret she kept from me. I took her to a strip club a time or 2, we made an arrangement at the club and a woman would sleep with us that night. But that wasn't what she really wanted. Eventually, there were several women hired at her place of work, all of them turned out to be incredibly attractive and bi. It didn't take long, a matter of weeks before they all got together for dinner and drinks and love would flow. It worked out for my wife. I sincerely hope that you find love.