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Feelings, arousal and reality.

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TonyZ
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Reading through the forum there are a few people that label themselves as bisexual or gay, yet they have never had sex with a person of their same gender. Can someone think and feel as if they are bisexual or gay, and even be aroused by same sex porn, yet once they have actually tried it realize that they are not as bisexual or gay as they once thought?
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This is why I use the bi-curious label. I simply do not know if being with a guy will really work for me until I actually do it. Perhaps it simply won't live up to the anticipation and I'll decide I'm not bi after all.
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This is why I use the bi-curious label. I simply do not know if being with a guy will really work for me until I actually do it. Perhaps it simply won't live up to the anticipation and I'll decide I'm not bi after all.


I find that fascinating... do you get aroused by watching a naked man? how about if that same naked man is having sex with another man? If your answer is positive to either of those questions, do you think you would still be aroused by watching that same naked guy, even if when you actually had sex with another person of your same gender it does not work for you?

I have a female friend that labels herself as straight yet by her own accounts she gets aroused by lesbian porn. She once told me that they only same-sex experience that she has had did not work for her, yet she still manages to get aroused by watching two women loving each other. Can we detach our physical need for human contact and still be aroused as voyeour even if we do not identify as gay?
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I find that fascinating... do you get aroused by watching a naked man? how about if that same naked man is having sex with another man? If your answer is positive to either of those questions, do you think you would still be aroused by watching that same naked guy, even if when you actually had sex with another person of your same gender it does not work for you?


Definitely get aroused by male nudity and gay sex. That's why I'm interested in experiencing it for myself. Your second question is a good one and speculative at best. I suspect that I would still be aroused by imagery even if it didn't work out which could mean I just had a bad first time or could mean that I'm more into the fantasy than the reality.


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I have a female friend that labels herself as straight yet by her own accounts she gets aroused by lesbian porn. She once told me that they only same-sex experience that she has had did not work for her, yet she still manages to get aroused by watching two women loving each other. Can we detach our physical need for human contact and still be aroused as voyeour even if we do not identify as gay?


Hmmmm. Getting a bit philosophical here. Perhaps we can, as you say, be aroused as voyeur even if the experience does not arouse us. Or something like that. Ask me again if/when I have some experience, I guess.
TonyZ
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Hmmmm. Getting a bit philosophical here. Perhaps we can, as you say, be aroused as voyeur even if the experience does not arouse us. Or something like that. Ask me again if/when I have some experience, I guess.


I would love to hear about your first time if and when it happens. And you are right in that perhaps the partner you chose to be with may not have been the right person and therefore, you may get a bad experience that turns you off completely. But the other way around is also true in that your fantasy or what you expect to feel and/or how it makes you react in a real situation may be way different.