So this is just a general thought gathering post.
I want to know what all of you ladies (Homosexual and Heterosexual alike) think about the idea of a "Male Lesbian."
This doesn't mean a man who is simply turned on by lesbians, or who is interested in a gender change.
This is only about a man who wishes he had been born a woman, but knows that he would then still be attracted to other women.
As it is, he might even be uninterested in sex with a woman simply because he is so "turned off" by his own masculine role.
To clarify:
"Specifically, a "male lesbian" is a heterosexual man who wishes
that he had been born a woman, but who (even if he had been a woman)
could only make love to another woman and never to a man. Unlike
the transsexual, the "male lesbian" does not feel himself to be "a woman
trapped inside the body of a man". Moreover, none of the love-shy men
studied for this research entertained any wishes or fantasies of any kind
pertinent to the idea of obtaining a sex change operation. All wanted to
keep their male genitalia; all wanted to remain as males."
So my question for you homosexuals is this:
Would you tend to sympathize with this so called male lesbian, or on the other side, would you find them repulsive? Is their physical gender too much of an obstacle for them to be considered a lesbian?
And for you heterosexuals:
If you knew that a man identified as a male lesbian, would that change how you see him and how you would approach relationships with him?
The definition confuses me, surely a lesbian is a woman who is sexually attracted to other women and not to men, in its purest sense of the word?
He wishes he was a lesbian, but doesn't want to have a sex change and doesn't feel like he is in the wrong body and yet he does sound gender confused to a degree? And he probably wouldn't want to have sex... And, I imagine, he'd not want penetrative sex or blow jobs either?
As a straight woman, no, I don't think I'd be attracted to this. It all sounds angst ridden and confusing and has the potential for huge emotional turmoil.
Isn't that what straight cross dressers do anyways? I think sometimes people try to look too deeply into kinks and fetishes. If you have no real desire to remove your male parts, or otherwise physically transform yourself into the other gender, IMO it is simply a fantasy or fetish; role play. To me it is no deeper than wishing you had been a fireman or police man and dressing up as one for sexual role play.
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
I don't find it all that unusual. Of course my initial reaction was, "What's the point?" But it makes perfect sense.
You were born as a man. Gender-wise, you think and feel as a woman. You're also attracted to women. Sexual orientation and gender are two completely different things. One has nothing to do with the other. He wants to experience intimacy and everything else with a woman as a woman would, because he feels as if he were meant to be a woman.
"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
The term is rather baffling to me. What does it really mean? What context? Cross dressing? Or some guy says it to mean he understands the sensitivities of women? Rather broad to me.
