Hi all,
I just wanted to know , how did you know your sexuality 100%?
I personally think of myself as bi-sexual, but I'm not 100% sure if I am purely bi or lean more toward one gender or another....
I am in a relationship with a guy (and have a son with him) , and have only ever had relationships with guys, but I always have had 'flings' with girls while with guys (both parties were okay with it) when I am by myself I only get off thinking about/watching lesbian/trans women (sometimes even with the guy I have to think about that to get there)
When drunk I tend to want/go for girls (even over my partner in some cases)
So I guess I'm really confused , which is why I am asking how/what/when did you realise your true sexuality?
thanks
As far as using simple words to convey complex ideas, I'm absolutely bisexual (which is what it appears you are - accurately self described in your profile), which I guess came to fruition in 2004 when I first performed oral and received anal from men. Actually it wasn't the mere initial act, but the tidal wave of hunger for more of the same that it produced. I came of age in a time when there were no gay rights (the notion was just being born), and had a minor fantasy about it. I think in those days, the 70's, most people would only "declare" themselves gay if they truly were 100% homosexual and could see no other way to live. Having passing fancies like I had would not make me take that huge social leap.
Sex is sex, but the true test is where you lie emotionally. Could you ever see yourself falling in love with a woman, setting up house and declaring your love to everyone in your familial/friend circle? I can't (so far) with men, but the physical attraction is undeniable and consistently screams to be acted upon.
I know I'm not "GAY" gay, because there's no denying that in the initial 32 years of my sexually active time I did (and still do) actively and wholeheartedly lust after and pursue women. As a young man. when Penthouse came out, I would look at the softcore pictorials featuring women and naked men, and that's when I started to fantasize about being with the couple, and having relations with both of them. I'm a crazy-ass tit and pussy man, but those cocks looked sooooo suckable too.
As for porn, it sounds like you definitely have the bi-bug, but honestly, in some porn/masturbation sessions, I can get turned on in the moment by things that normally would never get me going from a "cold start" (once I have a raging, stroked-up erection going is different than sitting down limp and opening porn). Arousal itself eases inhibitions, and I think how you describe your porn viewing situations reveals your own desires to yourself.
Sorry this is so wordy, but it's a complicated subject. I'm not sure I still know every nuance of my own sexuality completely. It sounds like you are on a good path toward realizing your own. I applaud you for launching such a thoughtful subject. You sound like a smart, emotionally honest woman, and I wish you all the best in your journey.
For me, it was a growing realization that I had fantasies about men. That simple. The early sign, the thing that twigged to the desire being there, was having intense erotic dreams about being with men that ended with me climaxing (wet dreams). I still prefer women, but I love cocks and the idea of enjoying one. I've stroked off to gay porn, I've been sucked off by a man, I've written about man-on-man sex in some of my Lush stories. Alas, my life doesn't make acting on that desire easy but its the desire, not the act, that defines sexuality.
This might not be helpful but there's no real need to be 100% sure. Just keep experimenting. Nobody can tell you how to identify so if you think you're bi-sexual then BAM! You are.
Sometimes I feel straight as fuck, other times I only want women. It's not rigid.
"A dirty book is rarely dusty"
I think I've known ever since I became aware of my sexuality. The difficult thing was finding the right words to explain it, and also being completely honest with myself.
I'm bisexual, but I don't think one word can convey anyone's sexuality completely. We can only approximate it with the vocabulary available.
Straight , although I've had some other experiences
It was quite simple for me, with different triggers, I found myself sexually stimulated looking at girls or boys. I felt or thought of myself as a bit freaky but naturally had the impulse to be attracted to both
Britney Spears. Nuff said.
I'm not 100% anything, but my first sexual attraction was for other girls. Shortly thereafter I started having sex with boys too. In college I was mostly lesbian, and all through my twenties I was in a serious relationship with a girl. In the last few years, I've been with more guys. I tend to fall in love with girls, but enjoy guys for just sex. Basically, for passion and intimacy, I prefer women. For raw, animal sex... guys!
The key to me I would say was that only fantasized about women. My "manlove" side was just that----a kind of camaraderie but can become quite powerful. I just never get urges to want men. I have lots of gay friends too. Just no physical attraction or imagination. So I am into women only, and that is the case, even when they are lesbian.
When I was underage by Lush standards, I discovered auto fellatio. I enjoyed it enough that for a few months, I experimented with a few boys and men. However, not long after that, a 25-year-old divorcee utterly disabused me of any bisexual leanings I may have thought I had. I am straight.
What is 100% sexuallity?
I am an extremely sexual person and have been for as long as I can remember. I found sex but had no idea of what it was when my age was one digit. I have always enjoyed sexual pleasures of all kind and graduate from boys to girls at 16 when I was seduced by another girl and this widened my horizons further than I could ever have imagined. I became bi-sexual. Later I began a relationship with a Lesbian. Since then I have returned to the bisexual field and I dont believe I will ever change. My preference is female having two other female partners and three guys as FWB. I enjoy the best of all worlds irrespective of what it is called.
Or, what if you never know. I'm 30 and still unsure of my sexual identity
Ive only been attracted to other girls.
I knew that I wasn't str8 at the age of 16, but girls still were attractive to me. They just weren't as erotic as guys. For a long time I thought that I was gay and pretending to be str8, know I realize that I am bi with an approximate 70/30 split towards guys.
Never had a doubt in my mind I was 100% straight. Recent attractional responses from advances and flirting has put that into question although not acted on.
I do like a girls body shape sometimes but it was simple for me if it didn't have a cock attached I wasn't interested t-girls can do it for me from time to time but I still prefer men
Gosh, there are some great replies to the subject here.
For myself, it has taken a lifetime of emotions, sexual adventures, love with men and women, Transsexual people and lots of reading both here and through medical facts etc. I have consulted with psychologists, and psychiatrists and eventually seeing sexuality counseling to finally state that i identify as Pansexual.
This really throws a spanner in the works and has its own sets of challenges everyday.
At the moment i am in a relationship with a lady who is straight. I have spoken with her truthfully on who i am. At the moment it is working however i still often love to read the stories on here of the LGTBTI as it is who i am. It is at times difficult to be in a straight relationship when you have views and political on same sex marriage and just being accepted for who you are and being in a relationship with whoever, male, female, trans, Intersex etc all has challenges but if you love the one you are with.....
The folks on here have shown me that all things are possible & love is out there for everyone.
Keep being true to yourself. My philosophy and mantra is Being, Right Here, Right Now...
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I always slept with women but on my own, I had always wondered what it would be like to be with a man. I find most women attractive but only a few men. As time went by I started thinking about men more and more until one day I decided to see if I could get turned on by pictures of naked gay men. Well, I was and found that I could have sex with either men or girls. So that makes me bi-sexual. which is ok.
Never been with a man, don't intend to start
I was guys and gals in high school. Through the years I have had relations with men and women. In my thirties, I accepted that I was Bi and be proud of, Its the way I am. I have enjoyed my sexuality ever since.
The romantic bi guy.
Stay horny my friend.
My wife decided that she didn't like sex about 15 years ago and quit . (She had never been very bothered)
So, naturally I started to use porn sites for DIY sex and realised that I was turned on as much by the guys as by the gals.
So, I tried sex with a man - and decided that I like it, so, I realised that I am bi.
Looking back, I should have picked up the signs long, long ago!!
I was way underage by standards and my cousins and I were all naked skinny dipping,my older cousin started playing with my cock and went down on me,with all the others watching...I HAVE LOVE IT EVER SINCE
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