I live in PA and this guy is from Maryland, he lives a little more than 2 hours away. We've talked for a while, and he had told me he loved me. I said it to him after he said it to me, I wasn't going to say it first because I was afraid to get hurt.
So he came up here for 2 days and we ended up having sex that night, he took my virginity. Sometime in December, he stopped talking to me for the day. I found out that a girl he likes ditched him so she could go to a concert. She promised to go see him and supposedly he liked her a lot. So i comforted him. Then sometime after my birthday (a stupid promise that i won't talk about), I told him how i like this guy, I only liked him at the time, I met him on LUSH, but I didn't tell the guy from Maryland where I met him from.
So the guy i love and I started fooling around on the phone. (the guy i love is bi), and he randomly said another guy comes in (a fantasy of mine). While we were fooling around, he asked me to promise him that if i dated someone that he (the guy i love) will always come first and that my heart will always belong to him, and I did. The next day after that, he turned around and said to me, how can you like somebody else, when you love me? (i did bring up about the girl from december)
he has to go to court in may for something stupid, so he has been depressed lately, so he says that was why he hasn't talked much. Friday, I randomly went on his facebook page from mine, and a girl left a comment saying hey baby can't wait to see you friday. So i asked him, he said i don't want to hurt you, so i asked you like a girl who isn't me. and he said yeah. So the next day I asked him to promise me what I promised him... He i can't promise you that, but i can promise i will be here for you.
is 2 hours really long distance? i know i don't drive but he does. if anyone can say anything about this, please say something
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Maybe this is bad advice, but... if I were you, I would try not to fall in love quite so easily. As I understand your story, you exchanged "I love yous" before you had even met in person. That's a bad sign right there. An on-line flirtation can turn into something real and intense: I've known it to happen. But, in my humble opinion, you cannot have true love without some amount of real life interaction. I'm sure you are feeling real emotion. But not all strong emotions are really love. It could also be lust, or the happiness that comes with feeling "needed," or maybe just the joy of finding a new friend. But you need to ask yourself: if I fell "in love" with a guy I had never even met, how hard is it going to be to find someone else to fill that void? And was it really love?
if i wasn't in a rush this morning, I would have been able to explain better. Before I met him face to face, it once slipped out of him that he thought he was falling in love with me, and I was a little confused so I brushed it off. When he came up here, before he left to go home, he was looking at me, and he started crying because he didn't want to go home, and then when I gave him a hug, he said it. then he said i've never had someone make me smile this much. (his friends told me that he rarely smiles) but when we were around each other, he would look at me and smile.
I think .... 2 hours (by car) is not long distance.
Now, having the one you care for on another continent, or in a different country .... that is long distance. Maybe even being on opposites side of a country is long distance.
But 2 hours is an easy peasy distance. I travel 2 hours to see my doctor & dentist. I guess I just love 'em.
Van
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I think .... 2 hours (by car) is not long distance.
Now, having the one you care for on another continent, or in a different country .... that is long distance. Maybe even being on opposites side of a country is long distance.
But 2 hours is an easy peasy distance. I travel 2 hours to see my doctor & dentist. I guess I just love 'em.
Van
I absolutely agree with Van. I used to live in a mid-sized town and would drive 2 hours to go shopping or out for dinner when I wanted some more variety. Heck, I used to work weekends in a town 3 hours away. Yes, it limits the 'come over and watch tv and snuggle' nights but it's certainly an easy range for visits every weekend. When I worked downtown, my commute was 1h15 to 1h30 each way. Guess I love my job....wait, I kinda do, lol.
Don't worry about the 2 hour drive, it's better than across the country. It may feel like forever in between the times you get to see each other, but if you really love him, and he really loves you, and the relationship is worth it, everything will be fine. Long distance works if the people in the realtionship are committed.
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Don't worry about the 2 hour drive, it's better than across the country. It may feel like forever in between the times you get to see each other, but if you really love him, and he really loves you, and the relationship is worth it, everything will be fine. Long distance works if the people in the realtionship are committed.
he thinks he will get hurt, cause he told me that he tried it once but he got hurt. I would never hurt him. He says he loves me but he thinks that two hours is long distance and he won't do it.
Love is such a deep emotion ...but sadly a complex word that is often abused and uttered senselessly. "Flippancy" and "fickle" are not associated with this word, both of which were quite evident in your earlier statement. Love is not a singular emotion, but a far more complex array of emotions, attractions and trust.
2 hours is nothing! I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year now and we met on lush but he is the marines stationed 3,000 miles away from me. i would kill for 2 hours. we have a great relationship and we both love each other very much. we make it work. Our relationship pretty much lives through till we can be with each other again