More a rant than need for advice :(

31 May 2009

About a week me and my boyfriend broke up. We didn't have a row, or fall out which makes it about ten times worse.

He lost his job as a plumbers apprentice cos of the credit crunch and has started to concentrate on getting more gigs for his band to gets some moneys, meaning that his time will be mostly filled with gigs and rehearsals. We don't live nearby, its roughly a 40 min train ride from my uni or an hour and a half drive from my house, and quite expensive to get together.

So, he has no money and no time and decided to break it off, so i'm not left around waiting, never seeing him etc. We're staying in touch as we still have feelings for each other and he even mentioned getting together for a drink when he's back on his feet.

I dont really know what to do now. I need to have a break from boyfriends for a while now so I'm not worried about being single or alone, but i dont want to be holding on for him in case it never happens again. I also dont want to forget about him and move on, and i know it sounds cliche, but i still love him.

help

31 May 2009

Did he ever find your g-spot?

31 May 2009

Haha no, I havent seen him since i posted that thread!!

That was about 3/4 weeks ago i think, an indictaion of the problems we have of being able to see each other. Things are just worse now as he has no money and no time.

31 May 2009

I'm sorry it didn't work out. You're guy is out there somewhere and you will meet when the time is right. lovestory

31 May 2009

MM~~ I was sad to hear about your problem, and while its not my place to give advice, I would like to give you some hope. When I was much younger, I had a truly long distance reationship. I saw him 3 maybe 4 times in a year, the rest of the time he was off doing his job. While he was gone I wasn't able to talk to him, see him, or hear from him, he could be gone for a few days up to 18 months. I hated it and I hated his job, but becuase I loved him ass much as I did, I waited for him. He loved me as well, I lost him 6 days before we were to get married. My point for telling you this is that if you love him and he loves you, the distance, isn't very great. You have phones, and web cams, and the internet to talk to one another, and while none of this makes up for face-to-face time, it can lessen the burden of not seeing one another. It might be something to think about.

I hope that you get all that you want.

Thoughts of hope and happiness for you and your beloved

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Apple

1 Jun 2009

Wow Apple you sound like you are still in pain about it.....I hope it gets easier for you..... hello2

"Love all, trust a few, and do wrong to none."

1 Jun 2009

Quote by MMonroe
About a week me and my boyfriend broke up. We didn't have a row, or fall out which makes it about ten times worse.

He lost his job as a plumbers apprentice cos of the credit crunch and has started to concentrate on getting more gigs for his band to gets some moneys, meaning that his time will be mostly filled with gigs and rehearsals. We don't live nearby, its roughly a 40 min train ride from my uni or an hour and a half drive from my house, and quite expensive to get together.

So, he has no money and no time and decided to break it off, so i'm not left around waiting, never seeing him etc. We're staying in touch as we still have feelings for each other and he even mentioned getting together for a drink when he's back on his feet.

I dont really know what to do now. I need to have a break from boyfriends for a while now so I'm not worried about being single or alone, but i dont want to be holding on for him in case it never happens again. I also dont want to forget about him and move on, and i know it sounds cliche, but i still love him.

why doesn't he try to get a real job instead of getting gigs for his band(how lucrative could this be in this financial climate)...There are jobs out there even if they might not be in certain towns...even getting a job in a supermarket until he is on his feet is an option... People will always need plumbers for godsakes as long as they need toilets and showers etc..sounds like he is taking an easy route out to me but this is my opinion

1 Jun 2009

He is looking for a job as well, its a temporary thing until he can find one as its not the best way to have a steady income.

Just wish i knew one way or another what is going to happen and if there's any point in waiting.

1 Jun 2009

This may sound cynical but, it sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too. I think I'd put on the brakes and not talk to him or see him for awhile. Let it be. Meet new people and spend time with friends.

1 Jun 2009

Sometimes time is the best thing, right now it sounds like this could help, so if the love is true you will get back toghether, if not it wasnt meant to be, really what you do is up to you, your wanting to have a rest from boyfriends so do that, it will work out one way or another...hope this helps you..