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Is the hotwife lifestyle a thing or just a fantasy?
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Sensual Hobgoblin
It's a thing. As to how to meet... it used to be Craigslist and other sites like it. Now it is word of mouth and maybe some of the online dating sites.
The so called "hotwife" thing is a THING. It is getting more and more popular and I think it will become mainstream. Here are just a few reason that I say that:
1. There are barriers to getting into it. But those barriers are not as formidable as people might think. If a coupe tries it and their first experience is positive - they will both want to do it as much as possible. It is just that fucking amazing. The first time we tried it I thought it might be a one-off bucket list event. But I knew from the first orgasm that my sex life would never be the same.
2. When people love something, enjoy something, are thrilled by something, they tell others. If you eat at a great place you tell your friends. If you see a great movie you tell your friends. If you buy a car that you love you tell your friends. And if you have sex that is 10 times better than any sex you have had before you are going to feel a need to talk about it. That is why I am taking my time to type this. After we got into it I told my girlfriend. She told her husband. They decided to try it. They are now into it just as much as we are.
3. The barriers are easy to get past. Religious bullshit. Male jealousy and possessiveness. Socially repression of female sex drive. If you want to know how to get past that send me a message. It is not hard.
4. Human nature. The only reason you are asking about it is because it CALLS to your sexual nature. Humans, male and female, CRAVE SEX and CRAVE sexual variety. Society is in a battle with nature. Nature always wins.
As far as finding people with whom to enjoy an expanded sex life I highly recommend that you do not look on-line. Look to your circle of friends or people you know are safe. Wives can easily find guys that are safe at local gyms and other places.
We have been married for 20 years and doing this for four years. We both wish we had started on our honeymoon.
1. There are barriers to getting into it. But those barriers are not as formidable as people might think. If a coupe tries it and their first experience is positive - they will both want to do it as much as possible. It is just that fucking amazing. The first time we tried it I thought it might be a one-off bucket list event. But I knew from the first orgasm that my sex life would never be the same.
2. When people love something, enjoy something, are thrilled by something, they tell others. If you eat at a great place you tell your friends. If you see a great movie you tell your friends. If you buy a car that you love you tell your friends. And if you have sex that is 10 times better than any sex you have had before you are going to feel a need to talk about it. That is why I am taking my time to type this. After we got into it I told my girlfriend. She told her husband. They decided to try it. They are now into it just as much as we are.
3. The barriers are easy to get past. Religious bullshit. Male jealousy and possessiveness. Socially repression of female sex drive. If you want to know how to get past that send me a message. It is not hard.
4. Human nature. The only reason you are asking about it is because it CALLS to your sexual nature. Humans, male and female, CRAVE SEX and CRAVE sexual variety. Society is in a battle with nature. Nature always wins.
As far as finding people with whom to enjoy an expanded sex life I highly recommend that you do not look on-line. Look to your circle of friends or people you know are safe. Wives can easily find guys that are safe at local gyms and other places.
We have been married for 20 years and doing this for four years. We both wish we had started on our honeymoon.
Another thing about the THING.
One of the major reasons that marriages fail is because either the husband or wife or both cheat. The desire to have sexual variety is that strong. Sometimes love has been lost along the way and that is why cheating takes place but many wives love their husband but a guy are work or at the gym or a store or someplace starts to stir them. It is natural. It is going to happen. Rather than fight nature couples can be understanding and care about each others needs embrace the fact that sexual variety is a wonderful experience. Neither my husband or I would cheat on each other. Neither of us would have sex with anyone without the full awareness and approval of each other. So cheating will never weaken our marriage. The sex we enjoy with others is viewed by both of us as an extension of OUR marriage sex. Because it is done within the TERMS of our marriage and not outside those terms.
This is often called a "hotwife" lifestyle but that is just because woman have a MUCH GREATER SEXAUL CAPACITY then men. Society stifles female sex drive but it is very strong and the capacity is much greater than male capacity. A sexually healthy women could easily have sex with four men in a row. I have done that and they each took two turns. How many men could fuck 8 times in a row? I am 40 and my husband is 51. He is a very healthy guy and a great lover. But because I am a woman and younger than him my sexual capacity is currently way greater than his. So because he loves me and is not jealous or selfish HE WANTS me to enjoy my sexual capacity rather than limit my sex to his sexual capacity.
So that is why this often starts with the wife fucking guys other than her husband. But in time and in most cases the husband is going to enjoy some sexual variety too. So this is a real win win arrangement and that is why it is growing in popularity.
There are other concerns like pregnancy and STDs. But if you can't figure out how to get past those issues then you probably should not be on this website.
One of the major reasons that marriages fail is because either the husband or wife or both cheat. The desire to have sexual variety is that strong. Sometimes love has been lost along the way and that is why cheating takes place but many wives love their husband but a guy are work or at the gym or a store or someplace starts to stir them. It is natural. It is going to happen. Rather than fight nature couples can be understanding and care about each others needs embrace the fact that sexual variety is a wonderful experience. Neither my husband or I would cheat on each other. Neither of us would have sex with anyone without the full awareness and approval of each other. So cheating will never weaken our marriage. The sex we enjoy with others is viewed by both of us as an extension of OUR marriage sex. Because it is done within the TERMS of our marriage and not outside those terms.
This is often called a "hotwife" lifestyle but that is just because woman have a MUCH GREATER SEXAUL CAPACITY then men. Society stifles female sex drive but it is very strong and the capacity is much greater than male capacity. A sexually healthy women could easily have sex with four men in a row. I have done that and they each took two turns. How many men could fuck 8 times in a row? I am 40 and my husband is 51. He is a very healthy guy and a great lover. But because I am a woman and younger than him my sexual capacity is currently way greater than his. So because he loves me and is not jealous or selfish HE WANTS me to enjoy my sexual capacity rather than limit my sex to his sexual capacity.
So that is why this often starts with the wife fucking guys other than her husband. But in time and in most cases the husband is going to enjoy some sexual variety too. So this is a real win win arrangement and that is why it is growing in popularity.
There are other concerns like pregnancy and STDs. But if you can't figure out how to get past those issues then you probably should not be on this website.
Rainbow Warrior
It's been a "thing" for my boyfriend and me for over 10 years. The first few outside partners for me were a few of David's friends and a couple of my neighbors before David and I moved in together, but once you get started, finding more partners is easier. If your wife is pretty, you won't have any trouble at all. In fact, that's what prompted David to want to share me... the number of guys who were dying to have sex with me! It's apparently an ego trip for the guy and it'll be even more fun for your wife!
Wow, such great in depth replies so far. Thanks for taking the time to write them. To add detail. It is something we have seriously discussed about trying before. We tried online first, but it was way too difficult to find someone who wasn't a weirdo. So that left meeting men while out, this isn't as easy as it sounds. Because do you tell the person what you're up to, will he think you're weird, if you don't say anything, is that okay? There is also the desire of avoiding complications, so is it wise to involve friends. Basically, we would like to play while away on trips to towns or cities we don't live in. Does this sound realistic? Or is it something you have to be completely open with?
The Linebacker
Set your mutually agreed on barriers or limits. Also, schedule some time off from the swing/swap/open thing for just you as a couple.
Most bigger cities have a few swing clubs. Atlanta's best known is The Trapeze. Google swinging lifestyle clubs for your area. Check out reviews abd try out the club. Most have a bit of a nightclub/bar atmosphere and different sections for various tastes. There will be a membership fee. Once you get comfortable try out the inner sanctum and you and your mate can get some strange.
If you're into exhibitionism or voyeurism, these clubs are just the ticket.
Most bigger cities have a few swing clubs. Atlanta's best known is The Trapeze. Google swinging lifestyle clubs for your area. Check out reviews abd try out the club. Most have a bit of a nightclub/bar atmosphere and different sections for various tastes. There will be a membership fee. Once you get comfortable try out the inner sanctum and you and your mate can get some strange.
If you're into exhibitionism or voyeurism, these clubs are just the ticket.
Active Ink Slinger
Seems like lots of people have lost all their people skills. If they can't text someone... they are totally lost as to how to communicate. It's a shame really, because nothing works better than a face to face conversation. Hey, can I buy you a drink? Would you like to dance? Can you recommend a good place to get a burger or steak? You have very pretty eyes. Those lines don't work very well as a text message, but they often start a conversation when face to face. Go where people go in your city and talk to the people you find there. Sure most of them aren't looking for a hookup... or are they?
Active Ink Slinger
It is a very real THING for us,but we are the first to admit its not for everyone & you need to be in a very stable relationship to begin with.
As far as meeting possible suitors, for us its all about chemistry & connection,so real life is what works for us. We like the whole flirting seduction process & building into the fun.
I agree with Ls3563, get out in real life & meet people have real conversations, flirt,tease & you never know what you will find.
I just make myself approachable & the rest falls into place. I met my current lover in the supermarket
As far as meeting possible suitors, for us its all about chemistry & connection,so real life is what works for us. We like the whole flirting seduction process & building into the fun.
I agree with Ls3563, get out in real life & meet people have real conversations, flirt,tease & you never know what you will find.
I just make myself approachable & the rest falls into place. I met my current lover in the supermarket
Active Ink Slinger
Pretty sure it’s a thing.
Ill check with my husband and exhusband.
Yes, they both confirm it’s definitely a thing.
Rookie Scribe
Indeed and seems to gain practicenors rapidly no matter how hot you are nor what a hunk he maybe time together takes its toll and things become mediocure and boredom sets in so if you are in a relationship thats solid with neither thinking romance type encounters or looking for validation rooted in insecurity then an excellent avenue by keeping your encounters some what random it by-passes the afair type extra marital crap from either finding a partner that wants romance,commitment and other relationship pitfalls at bay as you as the woman enjoy recreational cock only for fun and excitement and to keep a feeling of attractiveness and as you take more and more random cock you will enjoy it and want more thus avoid regular encounters or regular partner scenerios to prevent any chance of jelousy issues arising the exception being if you are swinging as a couple with a regular/ocasional same couple its a different ball game but too often still needs caution to avoid any emotional atatchments forming as your place as the hot wife is to take a lot of random cocks every chance you can get gang bangs a great option once you atain a comfort level to take on groups of studs looking for a emotion free place to deposit their loads and always include your partner who will get off on seeing how many times you can take getting fucked by a group of guys and start out with him and a guy you both select for a MMF he will soon be hooked and have such a great time feeling reinfatuated with how hot you are he will be setting you up to take a lot of cock on a regular basis while he enjoys the show and gets wet himself; I can not recomend a better hobby to enhance your relationship and gets you regular pounding than becoming a Hot Wife.
