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She says our sex life is boring after 19 yrs of marriage. Any tips to spice it up?
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I would agree that you are lucky that she was the one to bring up the subject. She obviously cares about your relationship. Light some candles, pour a glass of wine, tell her how much she means to you and then ask her what you can do to please her.
There is a lot of great advice here already I like this one the most my only advise is try really hard not to make this about trying to get her to have sex with you then. Just let her know you truly love her and will do anything to show her, let her come to you if it looks like that is where the conversation goes. If it doesn’t, just end the conversation with a kiss on her forehead and reassure her again your hers and only hers.
Make sure it is about her needs not yours. You are truly lucky that she reached out to you too often that never happens and then years go by and its hard to get back to where you once were.
BTW someone said earlier that you should wake her up between her legs in the morning I don’t believe this is good advise, boring can be just the only word she could find to open communication.
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Find another guy, or woman.. or both.. whatever she's into.. She'll be interested in sex again..
Communication is key. I had only ever had sex with two guys and my partner of 17 years and I found our sexlife getting stale. With communication I found out he wanted to see other men touch me and more. I admitted I had a fantasy for men with chest hair. He is hairless. Started slow but as soon as I took my first man in front of him we knew we would dp this to spice it up. Both of us are very happy now .
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Maybe try having sex at a risky place..outdoors.or a parking lot.
Communication is key. I had only ever had sex with two guys and my partner of 17 years and I found our sexlife getting stale. With communication I found out he wanted to see other men touch me and more. I admitted I had a fantasy for men with chest hair. He is hairless. Started slow but as soon as I took my first man in front of him we knew we would dp this to spice it up. Both of us are very happy now .
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Take her out of the bedroom - preferably somewhere outdoors and get naked and get into it. Variety is the spice of life. Comment upon how some of her friends don't look as attractive or as sexy as she does. Tell her she looks nice - even when she is nude.
Don't take her for granted. Some of us like to be flattered occasionally.
Don't take her for granted. Some of us like to be flattered occasionally.
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Definitely talk to her and see what she’s missing or what needs she has that aren’t getting met!
I am speaking from experience! I have been married 23 yrs and have been together close to 35yrs. The kids are grown and gone with families of their own so I truly thought this sound very the fun time of our lives! I was soooo WRONG! He hasn’t kissed me (I mean really kissed me) other than a peck when he leaves for work in about 10yrs. He doesn’t touch me.. no hugs, kissing, holding hands! No date nights, weekend getaways or WALMART trips! If by chance the very rare occasion he goes to Walmart with me he goes to one side of the store, me the other! He then will claim he looked for me but didn’t find me and sits in the truck randomly texting to let me know how long I’ve been in there and to hurry up! I have cried rivers of tears, I have screamed, begged and pleaded just exposing whyyyyy!!! Why are things this way??? Honest to goodness for Sex it’s “are you ready? I’ll b red there in a minute” which means go bend over in the bed. He comes in might rub my clot fir 10 seconds before shoving his dick in me pounds away stops plays with my clit then back to pounding tuiver on my side with him behind me to finish up! Then he’s up cleaned up dressed and out the door in 5mins flat leaving me in shock! I have questioned until I cannot anymore! I want and need to be touched so badly and idk what to do! I cannot stand it! I look at him and I don’t know him at all and it breaks my heart! I no longer can have an orgasm and I hate everything about myself! I feel like fmge has taken everything from me that made me a woman! Can anyone explain Any Of this to me?? I feel like a whore everytime we do it and I hate it! Please help me u see sand
I lovce hlm but I have started hating him just as much!
I just need to know why??