A few years ago, I dated for a few months a male escort - it was an interesting relationship.
I know I can not be the only one ....
So I have lots of questions:
Have you dated or had a relationship who's was/is an escort? (either gender) How was your relationship? Was it based on sex or something more?
Is there an issue about the "job" - whether it be their fulltime job or sideline job?
If you did - how did you feel about sex with him/her?
If you have never dated an escort - how do you think you'd feel about sex with that person?
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I have never dated an escort, and I don't think I ever could. If she works as an escort, that means she's fucking someone else while I'm dating her, and I just couldn't handle that. Now, if she was a former escort, I have no problem with it at all. I just don't share well with others.
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I have never dated an escort, but was sort of one myself. I worked at a fetish club. The boyfriend was my boss. He knew everything about what I did. It was never much of a problem, because we had amazing sex - often involving me telling him what I did with clients. Then again, we only dated for 5 weeks since he was pretty emotionally unstable.
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I wouldn't mind it, but as you say, the relationship would have to be based on more than just sex. Me being me, I'd have to know her really well before I learned how to trust her with my heart.
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Would peoples opinions extend to other adultworkers like say strippers or pornstars?
Personelly I have never dated an escort, but have pursed a girl who works as a stripper. I think its just about seperating someones work from the relationship you have with them. Obviously some people would be able to do that and some people couldn't.
Personelly I have never dated an escort, but have pursed a girl who works as a stripper. I think its just about seperating someones work from the relationship you have with them. Obviously some people would be able to do that and some people couldn't.
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I have known both male and female escorts - never dated them, however, there was a commonality to each genders approach to the profession.
The guys, whilst hardly shouting it from the rooftops, did not hide what they did and were more comfortable discussing it with friends. Even I confess to slight feelings of jealousy at some of their revelations.
The girls on the other hand were definitely more secretive. Most certainly from the stigma associated with the Escort world and the ease with which society will lable a female a slut/tramp/prostitute whilst calling the male escort a stud/gigolo etc. To be honest, I was genuinely shocked when I discovered some of women I knew were part-time escorts - good women, with good reasons for what they were doing.
I know, I know, a little off track, but it might explain the lack of input from guys who 'date' female escorts.
The guys, whilst hardly shouting it from the rooftops, did not hide what they did and were more comfortable discussing it with friends. Even I confess to slight feelings of jealousy at some of their revelations.
The girls on the other hand were definitely more secretive. Most certainly from the stigma associated with the Escort world and the ease with which society will lable a female a slut/tramp/prostitute whilst calling the male escort a stud/gigolo etc. To be honest, I was genuinely shocked when I discovered some of women I knew were part-time escorts - good women, with good reasons for what they were doing.
I know, I know, a little off track, but it might explain the lack of input from guys who 'date' female escorts.
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"If history repeats itself, and the unexpected always happens, how incapable must man be of learning from experience?" - George Bernard Shaw
I was actually an escort in a former life but I kind of backed into it. I was not involved with anyone at the time I 'worked' but I did know a few girls who had boyfriends. Needless to say there was only one who had actually TOLD her boyfriend about her 'profession'. They fought constantly and didn't remain together for very long.
For me, it wouldn't have mattered how understanding my SO was, I would have NEVER told them. As has previously been posted, there is just too much negative connotation associated with that pursuit.
Ling
For me, it wouldn't have mattered how understanding my SO was, I would have NEVER told them. As has previously been posted, there is just too much negative connotation associated with that pursuit.
Ling
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I was actually an escort in a former life but I kind of backed into it. I was not involved with anyone at the time I 'worked' but I did know a few girls who had boyfriends. Needless to say there was only one who had actually TOLD her boyfriend about her 'profession'. They fought constantly and didn't remain together for very long.
For me, it wouldn't have mattered how understanding my SO was, I would have NEVER told them. As has previously been posted, there is just too much negative connotation associated with that pursuit.
Ling
I can't blame anyone for what they share or keep inside, they do it for their own reasons, and I can't pass judgement on that.
I will say this- doing this kind of work is not something that everyone will take well if it means they have to share that career with you in a relationship. It's much easier to stay single, do your own thing, and make peace with the good and the bad, than to try to lead some double life. It's easier to be upfront with what you do, and either let them judge you right away or not, but either way you're not losing out on some relationship if you didn't want one to begin with. It's hard to trust and be trusted, aside from guys wanting to possess you sexually and having a hard time sharing that, even if it's totally different to be paid than it is to be with somebody you have a connection with.
Maybe that's what you found out anyway.
All that said, to answer the question- I could date somebody in the sex industry, but only casually. I wouldn't start something serious with them because I don't go for serious relationships in general, not because it would have anything to do with their line of work.