This topic came up in another unrelated post, and led me to wonder:
Do you encourage your significant other to have regular nights out with their friends, or does the idea of them in a bar or venue meant for socializing and possibly flirting with members of the opposite sex make you uncomfortable?
How often is too often?
Does it matter how much you trust the friends that your significant other is hanging out with?
My husband doesn't like going to pubs or clubs, but he loves his dirt bike. I encourage him to go away for boys' trail-bike riding weekends instead.
In love with the idea of Guys' Night Out and Girls' Night Out! Do it, I would!
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I openly encourage any woman, who I am seeing on a monogamous basis, to get out as often as she sees fit for her girl's night out/bunco night, etc...whatever her and her friends call it. Many of my past girlfriends have many male friends too. If that's the case, more power to her.
I've been in one relationship where I felt like I had an electronic leash around my neck. Fuck that noise. By the same token, I will occasionally want to go hang out for an Saturday or Sunday afternoon with my friends (male or female).
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
I'm currently single and have learned that if you can't trust your significant other, there is no sense in being together. With that said, I'd be all for it. She can dance with whomever she feels the need to because I know that she's coming home to me at the end of the night.
I encouraged the ex for a girl's night out, but then she started partying once or twice a week without her wedding ring.
That was the last year of our marriage.
Yes, I encourage it. I like to keep two separate worlds. My last GF always wanted me to hang out with her and her friends, but I prefered to keep our social circles independent of one another. I have absolutely no problem with girl's night out. In fact...I insist on it.
My guy can have a night out when ever he desires and he is free to do what he wants,but of course, I have my nights also. Either of us are free to do whatever we want and what is going to bring pleasure. After all this is the 21st century
Unless he meets Xuani, I may need to rethink this night out thing. She is just too young and too beautiful.
God imagine if there weren't boys and girls night outs...I love going out with my girlfriends and blowing off steam (not that I do that often anymore)
I look at relationships as having three components, you, we and me. All three must be nourished. I extend the notion of a girls or boys night out to road trips, separate interests, sports, whatever nourishes the other. As long as there is trust and no betrayal then it works well. There is always that chance the other will stray but why spend a life in confinement so just to prevent it.
Not having time for yourself in my view deprives you of growth and a healthy relationship. I had a friend I had to give up after he got married. She put him on a leash which over the years got shorter and shorter. She didn't like him hanging with me, she thought I was a bad influence. She was right, I kept telling him to divorce her, he was just too weak. So he is living a miserable life completely within her domain. To me that is no life at all.
Everyone needa a guys/girls night out every once in a while. If you spent every night with your bf/gf/husband/wife, you'd go crazy. A guys/girls night out lets you recharge your batteries.
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"Nil satis nisi optimum. (Nothing but the best will do.)"
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He'll go out with some friends maybe every three weeks, have a few, watch or go to a game, he comes home in good shape more or less completely sober and I have no problem with it at all. In turn, my female friends will all get together maybe once a month or so, with the intention of going out and having a few and getting rowdy, and now with me being the last one to have a child, we wind up discussing our kids, our husbands, and other stuff while having some drinks at a local "theme" restaurant. If we're lucky we might get together early enough on a weeknight to hit the mall and do some shopping with realistic people who understand why we need three pairs of the exact same shoes, just all in different colors. Hmmm...getting older is not as much fun as being younger was. Time was it'd be girls night out, the vodka and tequila would flow like water, we'd all be dressed to impress, wearing as little as possible, and looking for FUN! Be it male strippers, shooting pool with cute guys, trying to drive the younger ones wild, or just plain getting hammered. Ah...those were the days...
"A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere." - Groucho Marx
nothing wrong with that as long as it is done fairly....and keep night out together a must also...but still let each other have fun too...yes i encourage it
I encourage the guys to go off and do their own thing w/out me.
