How do you seduce a woman if you have never been with one..? Yet.

9 Jul 2010

Before Lush I thought that I am quite liberal person, very open-minded and susceptible for new. I changed as human and realised that being in progres and in touch with diferent typ of people did free me, I did develop and grown. Did I took more negative or more positive affects of it that really doesn't matter right now, except the fact that every decision I made did change me..

I was never intimate with a woman before and I become quite curious how would that feel.

My question for Ladies is how would you like to be seduced from another woman?
And Gents, do you have any tips how would you approach a woman so she will know why are you there?

I would really like to play with seduction and be a 'hunter' if I can say that , lol..

Have fun with this thread people, I know I will icon_biggrin

9 Jul 2010

I tend to be the one being seduced by other women. I think I've done the 'seduction' thing if it's a girl I have played with before, but for initial seduction, the first move usually comes from the other woman. I am pretty flirty though (with everyone), and it's usually more of a 'friendly and outgoing' intention in my mind, but other people have told me they've interpreted it as being flirty. So, it seems there is something 'safe' about me that makes women want to open up about things, or feel encouraged to move things forward, because I get hit on by women quite a lot.

To be honest, every single time I have played with girls, I've been drinking (and so have they) and it's been pretty spontaneous. I never have the intention or game plan in my mind... I usually just follow their lead... Often there are some flirty conversation, compliments (women love complimenting each other), and then the girl just ends up moving in for a kiss or maybe a touch first (running hand through my hair, or touching my arm or leg etc). The seduction is more playful than what guys do, and that seems to work for me. I wouldn't want an overly serious seduction scene from a woman. The emotional side of it freaks me out. I've had a few women attempt to do it this way... inviting me over for dinner, massage, and the whole traditional seduction scene, and I'm never down for that. I more just see it as a sexual thing, rather than an intense emotional connection.

I'm actually quite "straight" overall, but playing with a beautiful woman is always something I see as a fun option if I'm feeling the attraction or if I'm in the mood.

One thing that's interesting, I always feel bad at the idea of turning a woman down. It's not the same as shooting a guy down. We're so used to being the ones who are chased, so I'm always very concerned about hurting a girl's feelings.

One of the more unusual 'seduction' attempt on me, was when I was at a bar with some friends. A bachelorette party came in, and eventually one of the bride's "friends" approached me and told me that the bride had never kissed a girl and it's the one wild and crazy thing she wanted to do before getting married and that she wanted me to be that girl. The bride was super hot and looked so nervous and excited about it all. So of course, I agreed... smile

Bar/club bathrooms seem to be where a lot of the 'spontaneous magic' happens when it comes to seducing women as well...

10 Jul 2010

Just Noticed That This Is A F/F inquiry!!!! However..... I believe my observations still stand!!!

Hello....

Seduction is SPECIFIC. To seduce a woman, you have to really, really want THAT woman, not any woman, just her...

Honesty is NECESSARY. Making love to someone is the most personal thing you can ever do. If you start the process with a lie or a falsehood you will suffer eventually, and you will cause her pain... Not attractive

Self-Knowledge is a MUST. Know who you are and know what you want... A one-night-stand? To get married? Simply an adventure and nobody knows where it might end??? All are valid, and available but never pretend to be something that you are not, never promise what you know you can't deliver. Be true to yourself. Be true for her.

Confidence is ESSENTIAL. If you don't think you've got something to offer her than neither will she. Know yourself, Like yourself and be yourself.

Presentation is IMPORTANT. Make the best of what you've got, be clean, well-dressed, (whatever that is to you!) and most importantly smell nice of breath and body... First impressions count!

Conversation is USEFUL. Talk confidently and honestly about yourself and ask questions of her. LISTEN to her answers. She'll like it that you're allowing her to know you and she'll be flattered that you want to know about her.

Compliments are NEVER UNWELCOME. Let her know that this is not merely a friendly encounter but that you have noticed that she is attractive and you want to explore that avenue. You like her hair, her eyes, her dress. her teeth, her laugh??? Tell her.... Keep eye contact and flatter her. If it's appropriate, reach out and touch her body lightly to emphasise a conversational point or gently brush away a strand of hair from her face... Leave her in no doubt that you find her intriguing and attractive.

Gentlemanly conduct is OLD-FASHIONED but still stylish! Light her cigarette. Refresh her drink when you notice she needs a refill. Open the door for her. Insist on paying. Treat her like a Lady.

Make her laugh. Even the UGLIEST comedians have slept with the most beautiful women. Women love to laugh.

Be respectful. Treat her with kindness and concern. Care about her experience.

Be Bold. Don't be a wimp! Be in control of the situation and don't be shy about assuming a dominant aspect. Ask if you might order for her as you know the menu at the restuarant, for example. Choose the wine yourself. Be assured but polite with the staff and other people you interact with. YOU are in charge. Play to your strenghts. Peacocks have feathered tails to display, we have STYLE! Even the straightest women love a touch of the rogue...

Be impromtu, be impulsive. For example, if she says she likes lilys make an excuse to go to the bathroom and return with a bunch. Do something flattering that she isn't expecting you to do.

Go Slowly. When you've got her in bed, or close, (which by now you'd bloody better have...) don't rush... Savour her... Don't undress her totally. Let her surrender. She'll take her own panties off when they're getting in the way... And by now... They will be!!!!

Works for me... Let me know how you get on!!!

xxxx S

11 Jul 2010

Ladies thank you for your answers!

Since I am totally new at this I will let another woman seduce me and I will play 'hunting' some other time..

Maybe I did overrated myself when I desired to start with seduction, maybe what I really need is to free myself and flirt and we will see where that will take me.

In any case thank you both for your great but different answers, thay opened my eyes and made me realised that I should just relax and everything will fall into a place.
No good never happend with force even if in this case I am forcing myself to experience something new.

11 Jul 2010

Quote by She
Ladies thank you for your answers!

Since I am totally new at this I will let another woman seduce me and I will play 'hunting' some other time..

Maybe I did overrated myself when I desired to start with seduction, maybe what I really need is to free myself and flirt and we will see where that will take me.

In any case thank you both for your great but different answers, thay opened my eyes and made me realised that I should just relax and everything will fall into a place.
No good never happend with force even if in this case I am forcing myself to experience something new.

If you're interested in exploring this side of yourself, I'd highly recommend looking into an online hook-up potential (such as adultfriendfinder or whatever is available in your area). At least you can post an ad detailing what you're looking for, and when it comes to women approaching women, this can be an easier way of easing into things rather than getting drunk at a bar and hoping for the best. As women, we're not used to chasing or approaching so it can be awkward and intimidating, especially when you don't know how your advances will be received. I did it years ago, and it worked well, especially when you're still in the curious stage and uncertain about the whole experience... Have fun, I'm sure you'll enjoy it! smile