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If you found that you are adopted?
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Quote by javier
Would you try to find your biological parents?
I am adopted. By the time I found my biological mother she had passed away. My advice to any adoptee is to find out as much as you can. Deciding you may want to know when you're 70 years old will be too late. I regret not starting my search earlier, although she died when I was 16 so it's doubtful I'd have found out anything by then anyway.
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No I would not. I am a child of the universe before biology. We are all inter-related. It does not matter from what DNA strands you once came from but who you relate with now.
Plus people who fantasize of such thing always expect that their bio-parents are amazing people but believe me, they are not all going to be Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. What if you find out that they aren't great people at all? Why crush those dreams with the sting of reality?
I think it is best to look forward, not backward.
xx B.
Plus people who fantasize of such thing always expect that their bio-parents are amazing people but believe me, they are not all going to be Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. What if you find out that they aren't great people at all? Why crush those dreams with the sting of reality?
I think it is best to look forward, not backward.
xx B.
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Quote by cokeheadbarbie
No I would not. I am a child of the universe before biology. We are all inter-related. It does not matter from what DNA strands you once came from but who you relate with now.
Plus people who fantasize of such thing always expect that their bio-parents are amazing people but believe me, they are not all going to be Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. What if you find out that they aren't great people at all? Why crush those dreams with the sting of reality?
I think it is best to look forward, not backward.
xx B.
I agree and disagree. If someone looks for their biological parents hoping to find Brangelina or some other wealthy piggy bank, they will be majorly disappointed. In my case I did find half-siblings. And I learned the reason I was put up... and she did the right thing. To me it wasn't a fantasy. It is/was part of me. I love my family dearly, but I needed to know the whole story.
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates
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I've personally witnessed two of these situations (looking for and then finding/confirming) turn out with horridly unhappy endings. To learn that the girls involved were rescued from the frying pan - by the fire, so-to-speak.
They were not Oprah Moments at all.
They were not Oprah Moments at all.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
I am not adopted, so I just can guess what I would do. I think it would depend of what type of upbringing I had from my non biological parents, and the reason why my biological parents did it.
If my non biological parents were loving, caring people, then I'd thought it would be backstabbing them trying to find the biological ones. They were the ones who put food on the table, who gave me an education, values, their time and effort. Who cares if we don´t share NDA?
But if I found that my mother was a teen when I was born, or something like that, then I would search her, and try to get something positive of the experience. If I found that she just didn´t give a hoot about me when I was born, I'd just forget about the whole thing.
If my non biological parents were loving, caring people, then I'd thought it would be backstabbing them trying to find the biological ones. They were the ones who put food on the table, who gave me an education, values, their time and effort. Who cares if we don´t share NDA?
But if I found that my mother was a teen when I was born, or something like that, then I would search her, and try to get something positive of the experience. If I found that she just didn´t give a hoot about me when I was born, I'd just forget about the whole thing.