Cybering is a form of cheating. It's probably the same way if you call a sex line and have phone sex with an operator or a friend...you're creating a fantasy scenario that you'd like to perform on someone who isn't your partner...
Similar to the question an old friend posed his wife:
Husband:"Honey? Is getting a blowjob considered cheating?"
Wife: "Only if giving them is."
How would you feel with the shoe on the other foot? Would it sting? I bet it would, even if you don't want to admit it.
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I think my position on this has changed in the last few months...If you asked me six months ago, I would have without hesitation said "NO" it is not cheating...harmless entertainment between persons, often great distances away, as DB said...
But, I have realized now, that people who do it regularly often develop strong emotional attachments...and that is not good...
Later,
Alan.
The truth of the matter is that we all have secrets.. not every thought or fantasy that we have has to be trumpeted from the front gate... I'm sure that each of our partners have things they haven't told us.. is that cheating? that quick glance at an attractive person in line at Costco.. is that cheating? that daydream about your sister-in-law or brother-in-law.. is that cheating? In my opinion cheating has to come with the basic intent to eliminate someone in your heart and replace them temporarily with someone else for the purpose of selfish pleasure.. if on the other hand as Bunny has said we bring that arousal and desire back to our partners and share it willingly, whether spoken or unspoken, then I don't think it meets the level of cheating.. if anything I believe that cybering may be minimizing the desire to cheat...
How about thinking of someone else while having sex with your partner? Is that cheating?
Concerning cyber: it's so easy to project your (unfulfilled) desires and needs onto some virtual playmate. In a world of make believe that this cyber world is made of it's obvious that the temptation is greater and easier to give in to than in real life.
I've been doing this cyber thing for several years and did get a few emotional attachments but they all faded out at some point. For me cyber can only go so far until you want something more tangible and 'real'. I guess that's why hb74 and I decided to meet quite early on.
Just last night another lush girl asked me to turn on my cam and play for her but I respectfully declined. She took it well and said it was nice to see that there are still some people who are that loyal.
Insert typical super smart ass comment courtesy of thepainter here.
Yes, I think that cybering is cheating.
In reality anything that you cannot disclose to your spouse in good conscience is cheating.
Personally I don't do casual cybersex, I need to have some emotional involvement with that person first, which actually makes it worse I think.
I think there is a huge difference between thinking of someone while you fuck your partner, and cybering. Cybering involves actually interacting with your fantasy person, which is far more intense than just having them in your head.
As far as I'm concerened, every meaningful relationship that a person has must be based on honesty. If engaging in cyber sex involves lying to your partner then I consider it to be a form of cheating. I have talked to people on this site and on others who have been hurt by the dishonest actions of cyber-sex partners and who have come into serious conflict with that partner's wife or girlfriend.
As in all areas of human interaction, honest communication is of paramount importance. If, after having discussed the issue with your partner, you find them seriously against it. Is it worth potentially ruining your relationship with them and possibly hurting others by continuing in secret?
I know people who have affairs, watch porn, visit prostitutes and have cybersex and do so under the cloak of secrecy lest their wives/husbands/partners find out.
If this degree of dishonesty is necessary then maybe some of these people are with the wrong partner.
Ok maybe not that kinky. But I'll give you some sucking up.
But that is the only kinky I like LOL. Well besides the chocolate that is!
Any who, back to the subject ...... lol
It all depends on what you define as cheating: chatting online, e-mails, private chat, kissing, flirting, having sex with someone else. How do you define cheating and what are your limits?
i also would like to add not many of us would like to think our partners do it behind our backs 
Remind me never to get on your badside Sweetbitch. Kinky side is okay though. Ha!
Who needs chocolate when there's your honeypot!!!