I found this on tumblr. It bears repeating here as well:
"Gentlemen. This is what culture is like:
Imagine you have a Rolex watch. Nice fancy Rolex, you bought it because you like the way it looks and you wanted to treat yourself. And then you get beaten and mugged and your Rolex is stolen. So you go to the police. Only, instead of investigating the crime, the police want to know why you were wearing a Rolex instead of a regular watch. Have you ever given a Rolex to anyone else? Is it possible you wanted to be mugged? Why didn’t you wear long sleeves to cover up the Rolex if you didn’t want to be mugged?
And then after that, everywhere you go, there are constant jokes about stealing your Rolex. People you don’t even know whistle at your Rolex and make jokes about cutting your hand off to get it. The media doesn’t help either; it portrays people who wear Rolexes as flamboyant assholes who secretly just want someone to come along and take that Rolex off their hands. When damn, all you wanted was to wear a nice watch without getting harassed for it. When you complain that you are starting to feel unsafe, people laugh you off and say that you are too uptight. Never mind you got violently attacked for the crime of wearing a friggin time piece.
Imagining all that? It sucks, doesn’t it.
Now imagine you could never take the Rolex off."
Remember just because you have been given the "power" doesn't mean it's ok to abuse it.
That's amazing. Thank you Master Jonathan.
Might I add they could have removed the rolex at knifepoint, terrorizing the unsuspecting rolex wearer.
The rolex wearer not wanted attention for his rolex ever again. Never wishing to have such a beautiful precious rolex ever again. Ever sorry for ever owning one.
Thank you for the analogy. I think that unless someone has been through it, they will never fully understand how completely devastating can be. The act in itself is despicable, and then to have to go through a thorough medical examination where evidence is collected and questioning by police. The victim is forced to relive the experience multiple times, they are blamed for being victimized, they are sometimes shunned by the very people they count on for support. If it makes it to court, the victim is again forced to relive the crime, this time for an audience.
In the mean time, if the victim runs into the perpetrator by chance, on the street, in the grocery store, or at school or work, etc, they may feel terrified--even if the perpetrator doesn't see them. is a crime that affects the victim on many levels. The physical self will usually heal, unless the victim has contracted some disease from their attacker, mental and emotional well being of the victim sometimes never recovers.
As I thought about this analogy between having your Rolex stolen and being , I did find one very important thing that differs....You can always buy a new Rolex.
I do commend you for tackling this very touchy subject. I wanted to point out that I used the word victim instead of woman because men can and are as well as women, as are children. It is an act of violence, it is about power and control, and hatred. It is devastating to its victim, no matter who they are or what walk of life they come from.
Thank you buttercup2 for your amazing post..
Two classic examples of the way society has degenerated.
In both cases the victim continues to be vilified long after they've been traumatised.
What has happened to the Justice System.
The dregs of society, whether they're a Billionaire or Pauper, should be held to account fully for their actions.
Very good analogy. Now the question is how many MEN will bother to read this thread and offer up a sympathetic moment to understand what it's like for women in this world sometimes.
Thank you for sharing.
The analogy is indeed apt. As a friend to one who suffered the traumatizing effects years ago I have always been a staunch supporter of harsher penalties, less shaming and more support for the victim.
This act is nothing less than abuse; physical, emotional and mental; and the aftereffects linger for the rest of the victims life. Just as abusers in other situations are dealt with harshly and for extreme duration, rapists should also be treated with contempt and vilification.
Unfortunately, jokes are made, treatises written on 'How To' and acquaintances of the the perpetrator cheer them on.
Until such things are removed, more people will suffer the lingering effects and our society bleeds a little more each time it happens.
