Why are Lushies SO needy at the moment?

1 Nov 2019

SO......Why are Lushies SO needy right now?

I've found recently that members are very persistent and don't take no for an answer. I've made new friends and 90% of them have been de-friended within a week.

If i say not right now it means not right not, not please spam me with numerous online chat requests!! I know i could go incognito if i wanted to but i shouldn't have to

Anybody else found this??

1 Nov 2019

No, this has not been the case for me at all. I can say that all of my friends seem to be fine folks. Generous with their time and appreciative of my writing. I do realize that I am extremely lucky in the friends that have come to me. I'm extremely pleased with all of them.

Good luck in the friend search. I know there are lovely friends to be found. I've done it for sure. Regaeman Man

1 Nov 2019

Quote by Green_Man

No, this has not been the case for me at all. I can say that all of my friends seem to be fine folks. Generous with their time and appreciative of my writing. I do realize that I am extremely lucky in the friends that have come to me. I'm extremely pleased with all of them.

Good luck in the friend search. I know there are lovely friends to be found. I've done it for sure.

Thanks.
I do have some amazing friends. Most of them long term friends from way back. Maybe i'm just not as tolerant of the first stage of getting to know people as i used to be!

1 Nov 2019

I have found just the opposite I have met some truly amazing people on here too.

What I’ve found that works for me is not to accept friend requests till we’ve talked a few times, when I first came on Lush I accepted anyone who asked but learned quickly that didn’t work out for me.

Maybe you are just so good at being “friendly” that they can’t get enough of you!

1 Nov 2019

Quote by bria_xo
I have found just the opposite I have met some truly amazing people on here too.

What I’ve found that works for me is not to accept friend requests till we’ve talked a few times, when I first came on Lush I accepted anyone who asked but learned quickly that didn’t work out for me.

Maybe you are just so good at being “friendly” that they can’t get enough of you!

Thats the odd thing. We chat a few times and they are "normal" then all hell breaks loose after we "make friends" The latest one messaged me 25 times in a 24 hour period because i didn't answer his messages. (I was on a 12 hour shift at work and left Lush logged in!!) After i de-friended him and explained he was to much it continued!!!!

1 Nov 2019

Quote by shadowcat

Thats the odd thing. We chat a few times and they are "normal" then all hell breaks loose after we "make friends" The latest one messaged me 25 times in a 24 hour period because i didn't answer his messages. (I was on a 12 hour shift at work and left Lush logged in!!) After i de-friended him and explained he was to much it continued!!!!

LoL maybe your picker is off - that one sounds like a “block” for sure

1 Nov 2019

Quote by shadowcat

Thats the odd thing. We chat a few times and they are "normal" then all hell breaks loose after we "make friends" The latest one messaged me 25 times in a 24 hour period because i didn't answer his messages. (I was on a 12 hour shift at work and left Lush logged in!!) After i de-friended him and explained he was to much it continued!!!!

That sounds horrible. It is never appropriate to over stay one's welcome. You were right to get rid of him and keep him blocked. He is surely "stalker" material. So sorry that has happened to you.

1 Nov 2019

Its all about common sense and how you apply it. The vast majority of people on Lush are "normal folks." Don't get caught up in the glitter. If you are a writer, stay your course.

2 Nov 2019

I get that here and there. I usually set my status to away to let others know that clearly, I am not available! But sometimes I'll still get bombarded, which is fine, until I have to tell them more than once that I'm multi-tasking and can't chat. Then there are the few who keep pushing and become offended that I'm not responding to their liking.

I especially dislike when I tell them I'm reading a story at the moment and they ask a million questions about the story and my likes, finally going "Hello????" when I don't respond.

Grrrr.

3 Nov 2019

I just cant help it.

3 Nov 2019

I don't mind.

4 Nov 2019

I don't think it's "at the moment" and more of a constant presence of a few needy individuals. I'm fortunate enough that most of my interactions are mutually enjoyable but there are the occasional 'needy' ones, of which I'm becoming better at ignoring. When all else fails, one can always set their status to invisible for the time being.

I can’t think of a good tagline so this will have to do. Suggest a better one for me?

6 Nov 2019

the weather or the "B" word