Just a few minutes ago i got out of a 7 month relationship with a guy that i though i loved. He was there for me when i broke up with my last bf, he listened, did certain nice things for me, respected me. He didnt have a job, and wasnt trying to get one. he said he loved me and wanted to be with me, but after a while i realized i was paying for everything, and then when we'd go out he'd expect me to pay for him, then when he got money he'd spend it all on himself. he didnt have a car so i was always driving, giving up my time to be with him. i would do everything to make him happy. he wasnt really interested in actually having a job because he had his "hustle" and that was enough. BUT....he never had any money. he would tell me he loved me then a week later he'd tell me he doesnt know what he wants, he would keep calling me and saying certain things until i just got sick of it. i told him either he wants me or not. but then i realized, its not about what HE wants, its about what I deserve and Sarah deserves better than what he has to give. but i still love him....im scared im going to take him back....is he worth trying to keep around to see if things change???
Sounds like a lazy bum for sure you do deserve someone better than that
Good luck
I agree with Nicola. A relationship should include an equality of sharing. Not a one way street an easy street for him.
You deserve a better faith and you will not find one hanging on to that looser. Listen to your little voices they are telling you, what you already
feel and know . You are in a dead end with this guy
You was being used...accept it and move on ...
well this is great cuz i just found out he was fucking cheating on me
asshole.....
Then he is definitely not worth keeping around you can do way better than that
Can we terminate with extreme predujice
" Ghost" - Ditto, to all that's been said.
Relationships are not 50 - 50.
To me, it's give till it hurts. When it hurts to give, then it's wrong.
Good luck
Bat
You might consider getting tested for STDs as well. He might have left you with a little parting gift.
At the very least you were able to get out before it was too late, be thankful and enjoy this hard lesson! You will be great if you keep your head up with a positive attitude!
How did you find out Sarah, did he tell you?
i actually found out he cheated on me with his baby's mama on thanksgiving because i contacted his ex and we have been talking for 4 hours about him and the stupid things he does. i called him and asked him if he did and he didnt deny it, i asked him if he used protection because if he didnt i need to go get checked for any std's and how could he be so thoughtless as to do that to me after all we've been through. i have decided to give him a second chance because i really do love him and yeah he messed up but everyone deserves at least a second chance but after that im cutting him off entirely if he fucks me over again. i gave him about a million ultimatums. i told him i wouldnt be taking him back if it werent for the fact that when i left he was trying to get a job and buckling down and getting serious about life. but i also told him i aint paying for nothiung and dont even try asking. he's going to get his missouri drivers licence and i did see him trying to get a job, putting in applications and whatnot but its hard to get a job nowadays . and some other ones
i told him to put in forth a bit more effort but if it seems like he's slacking in anything I'm gone and if he tries to contact me I'm going to put a restraining order on him that way i dont have to worry about him trying to get ahold of me in any way.
and it turns out me and his ex are going to be good friends
A leopard doesn't change his spots.
I hope not to read your post in the mirrored future..... be wise
"The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget."
I forgot what he said already.
yes it was a very good quote, and apple thanks, that sucks that you went through what you went through. im sorry.
will keep you all updated
