I've dated a couple of girls and sometimes I just don't feel any chemistry between use straight away and I've ended the relationship.. so I'm wondering if there's no chemistry at first is it worth sticking with the relationships in the future ?
It can happen - did to me with the College GF - we just casually dated for about 2 months - not doing anything more than chaste kissing - then one day we kind of looked at each other and ended up in bed
Of course. You have to build up to it. But if you're just looking to get your rocks off then its not going to happen.
no I wasn't trying to get my rocks of I real liked the girl I just didn't feel that spark I just wonder if I throw it away to soon
Could be - sometimes it takes a while to realize that there is/might be a spark
Maybe it's not too late - nice dinner, some talk...
We are people. People are far from straight forward. I don't mean we are devious, but just naturally harder to figure out than we seem to think. So that means that you can be with someone a long time before you discovery you have chemistry. But the opposite is also possible: you can be with someone a long time and find that you really are not as into each other as you thought. In this culture, we are into instant gratification---often even when things by nature take time. So it takes some risk-taking to wait to see if there are sparks between you, and so on. But I personally don't mind the risk or the wait, because I try to have fun in other ways until I do find out.
Sure ,one of you be shy or uncomfortable at first
Not unless there's some complexity to both parties that they fall in love with later.
Otherwise, you'll have a quaint coupling. Just going with the word passion. Can you grow to love someone and there was no chemistry at first, yes, takes time though.
Passion with no initial chemistry seems unlikely to me. Love, yes, but passion? Not so sure.
My wife and I started out as "just friends" but the chemistry was clearly there even if we didn't see it. Others apparently did. When I finally had my eyes opened, passion ensued. Boy did it ever.
And I suspect that that is what happens a lot when passion just blooms. The initial chemistry was there but it was subtle and took time to build so it is didn't get noticed, esp. by those immersed in it. That's why it seems like you suddenly have passion out of nothing, when really it's passion bursting forth where it's been quietly simmering for a while.
That's my hypothesis, at least.
So you dumped the entire relationship because there was no chemistry? What if you would have been great friends. Perhaps being lovers is not in the cards but wonderful friendships can be found where love fails to blossom.
Not sure I buy passion if there's no chemistry at all. Not sure how that'd work at all.
There's either chemistry or not.
I've had close female friends where there's been chemistry or sexual tension and that eventually led to intimacy (mostly casual).
I don't think I've ever grown into chemistry, passion, or lust with someone when they was never any of that initially.
But passion doesn't always mean romantic or sexual love. You can be passionate about someone, but not in a SO form.
Well, I think the key phase is, 'at first'. There can always be chemistry, but sometimes you just have to find it somewhere. Even if you have no chemistry at all, you can still be passionate. You can learn.
Sometimes chemistry can be less overt and not hit you until years later.
Yes of course. Sometimes you have hot chemistry at first and it is lust. Then there is the slow burn and suddenly it is there.
In my opinion... nope.
As others have said, you can grow to appreciate them and maybe even love them in a 'comfortable way' - but passion needs that bit of spark and if you've spent some time with them (ie. a couple of dates) and it's not there, I wouldn't bother, unless you're just looking for one of those 'safe relationships'. Problem is, inevitably you will come across someone that you do have an immediate spark with and that will be difficult to resist and turn away from.
Chemistry? Passion? Pfft! Once you're done with all that nonsense, all that awaits is marriage and the sweet release of death.
Seriously, you can bounce around from one hot piece of ass to the next, riding the wave of passion as long as you can, but sooner or later, it fades. If you follow that to its absurd, yet logical conclusion, you'll end up like Hugh Hefner. I know, not bad, right?
If you stick with the same person, you either end up deeply in love in this safe comfort zone, or shackled to some bipolar nutjob who keeps wrecking your stuff. The goal obviously being the former.
It takes time to truly know someone, sometimes months, sometimes longer. It's only then that you really know if you're meant to be with each other. And that's often after you've done away with the fairytale of chemistry and whatnot. Sounds hot, I know. But there's always date nights and cowboy hats to keep things interesting.
My latest story is a racy little piece about what happens when someone cute from work invites you over to watch Netflix and Chill. Nope...that chemistry thing is there or not...which leads to desires to learn more about that person or not. Hard to get passionate with someone you really don't give a chance to.
I believe it is possible, but I believe also that everything happens for a reason. Maybe you and the other girls you dated were at the right place but at the wrong time, maybe you will meet each other someday when you are both better people and then the relationship would be much easier for both you, or maybe they really werent the one for you.
I'm sure he'll know who he is when he reads this hehehe... After FINALLY giving him a chance he turns out to be really fantastic and I can see a great friendship blooming. 
I didnt act on it though.. Lots of reason. But I can tell me and him in a relationship could be a passionate one 
...WHAT SHE SAID...I totally agree with Doll's comments. Once again ... she is 'spot on' with her remarks. Life can also smother you when the spark ... and subsequent flame in the relationship ... has been extinguished. 
