why can't I get an orgasm...

16 Jul 2008

.. why can't I seem to get an orgasm everyone describes?
I seem to pleasure my man when we do it.. but why can't I get the same pleasure ?
am I abnormal =(
is it because of some degree of insecurity (we broke up and back together again) or because of thinking too much about getting pleasured ? or he just isn't the one?
oh my gosh!
dilemma !
HELP?

16 Jul 2008

Quote by youngasiansensation
.. why can't I seem to get an orgasm everyone describes?

Where are you getting your description from Hon?

16 Jul 2008

from everywhere !
lol
especially from lush =(
it makes me feel insecured =/
I never really seen like,.. im satisfied

16 Jul 2008

Quote by youngasiansensation
from everywhere !
lol
especially from lush =(
it makes me feel insecured =/
I never really seen like,.. im satisfied

You have to realise that most stories on lush, and other sex story sites are a little, shall we say, exaggerated.

Most women don't have mind shattering orgasms every time they have sex from my experience. It takes time and experience to get all the buttons pushed properly. Just relax and enjoy the moments, until you realise what it is that turns you on, which areas give you the most stimulation etc.

16 Jul 2008

lol..
I used to have orgasms ..
and we've done it enough times to realise what I like,..
I don't know.. it feels like when we have sex..
he thinks about doing it better than my ex (whom I lost it with.. and lost his to me).
I felt that was the dumbest mistake ever but I did. and now I found my boyfriend of almost 2 years and and he recently just told me I took his innocence from him.
so I feel like,.. he's having sex with me,. not making love with me,. get my draft?
ugh! I hate this stupid feeling
e

16 Jul 2008

I think you think too much in bed.

30 Jul 2008

Quote by mrplow
Most women don't have mind shattering orgasms every time they have sex from my experience.

Ummm....some do... L16

But mrplow is right...most women do not...and I would agree with chef....you're thinking too much and therefore, enjoying too little. Relax and have fun!

If you (or your partner) are concentrating too much on "Is it good enough? Is it better than so-and-so?" then you are probably never going to have a satisfying relationship...including the sexlife portion...

Not all sex needs to be romantic to be considered "making love" btw...it's about being in tune with each other's needs and desires...enjoying the journey instead of racing to the finish line...

Good luck to you!

~~Tech

Private Show - A man and his wife ditch a public performance in favor of a private one in this microfiction piece.

Perfectly Imperfect - where love and sex collide and a man knows his wife better than she knows herself.

The Naughty Babysitter - Part Three - Katie gives up control of her body.

Boardrooms & Boudoirs Part Fourteen - Chapters 53-56 - Grace deals with feeling out of sorts.

30 Jul 2008

you need to relax and stop thinking so much. Overthinking anything is no good