What are your thoughts when it comes to your phone (and even your email on your computer) and its contents?? What about the contents of your partners phone?? What if you suspected them of cheating and they just spend way too much time texting people and you didn't know who it was?? Would you go as far to check who on earth they were messaging, and what if they did it to you?? I'm of the opinion that if you have nothing to hide, you should not have a problem with someone going through your phone. My ex used to do it all the time, yet she was a text addict. Yeah, I wanted to know (and I had a far idea of who) who it was she was sending all these texts too, but I could not bring myself to looking and invading her privacy, until I got a bill and the numbers where there. Anyway, tell us what you think and what you have done or has been done to you.
I was actually thinking of this topic earlier.I am actually guilty of iooking at an exes messages on phone.I did it because I had my suspicions that he was still seeing his last girlfriend behind my back. At the time we lived quite a long distance from each other. I was proved right and we broke up not long after.
This is such a terrific question! I actually agree with you totally when you say that if you have nothing to hide from your partner, then why would you mind? If you need to hide something from your partner, why is he or she your partner?
My only true heartbreak was with someone to whom I gave explicit trust and should not have. It wasn't entirely his fault (I wasn't the best partner I could have been, and there were a lot of forces working against us that sort of doomed the relationship anyhow), but I NEVER expected him to cheat. It was the only time I've ever been cheated on, and it killed me. For his part, he was really good at hiding it but, in hindsight, I've wondered what signs may have been there that I missed simply because I trusted him so much.
My husband is a true gentleman and will always ask before going into my purse or getting on my computer, phone, or whatever. I always tell him, "Go ahead! I have nothing to hide." but he still asks out of respect. We DO have an open marriage, though, so I don't have to hide anything. If he's interested, he'll just ask.
For my part, I'm not at all afraid of or against looking for evidence if I suspect something. That's the lesson of being cheated on. Don't use my trust against me. A man ought to be honored that I trust him so deeply, so using that trust to facilitate sneaky, nefarious activity is disgusting. If my intuition tells me he's doing something hinky, I don't have any problems verifying it by invading his "privacy". If we're a couple, he should have nothing to hide. I'm certainly far from perfect, but f he doesn't want me, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. I wouldn't waste my time again mourning a man who cannot appreciate what he had.
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I'm a loner, Dottie. A Rebel...
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I think if your partner knows in advance that you're the nosy type or is doing something that they shouldn't be doing, they'll just erase the messages and numbers from the devise anyway. So what's the point? You either trust your partner or you don't. If you don't, are you willing to live that way?
