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lilnaughtymermaid
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 2:28:51 AM

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help How do you make being analed not hurt as much?

I did it with a guy and he went in just once and i was about to break down into tears! how do i make it not be as painful?
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natural38j
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 5:07:31 AM

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plenty of lubriation and he could work up to it gently, you need to really relax your instinct will be to tighten up.

its great when you relax
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Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 7:38:03 AM

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Lots of lube and take it really really slow.... Start with one finger, then 2 and so on... In any event it will hurt for the first few minutes. If he goes slowly or just doesnt move at all until you get used to the feeling it will be g-r-e-a-t.... You can try having a drink first to help you relax too.
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Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 7:55:31 AM

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1. make sure you do not have any other problems down there. Like hemorrhoids.
2. Do you want it? Try out what works for you on your own.
I prefer a constant slow push when getting something in there. Always working slowly until I'm comfortable and need more. (If it suddenly hurts really bad I do not withdraw fast cause that usually makes it worse.)

Try out on yourself and share what you've learned with your guy so that he doesn't do it in a way you do not like it.

lottatush
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 11:29:47 AM

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Use plenty of lube, just when you think you've applied enough, put a little more. Also go slow, let them work you until you relax with fingers. You can also try masturbating analy to see what you like. Once you're relaxed it can be really good.
TheDevilsWeakness
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 11:37:50 AM

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You need to know your limits before letting a guy back there. Try fingers, or a vibe, or a dildo first.
You should also want to do this because YOU want to do this. Don't try anal if you're being pressured into it by a guy.
If he really wants it that bad make him try it first, then he'll know what your going through and will be A LOT gentler.
If your still going to try anal, try lying on your side in the spooning position with him. Its the least painful position I've found so far.
And I can't say this enough... LUBE... Lots and Lots of LUBE
The only other thing I can think of is... you need to trust your partner
Anal sex is fantastic when done properly and by a partner thats careful with you...
Remember to relax and have fun and enjoy yourself... its not for everyone but I've always loved it

Nikki703
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 1:29:47 PM

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All the suggestions made above are great. The key thing is LUBE. And start off with fingers or a small vibe to get used to the feeling of having your ass penetrated. You can do this yourself of have your partner do it. And I have always found that having him work on my pussy first always got me more relaxed.

Also make sure he goes slow. Push it in a little, relax and get used to how it feels, then go a little further. There will always be a little pain the first time but once you are comfortable with the whole act it passes and becomes amazing.

But as has already been said, make sure you are doing it because you want to do it. I think anal sex is wonderful but that doesnt mean everyone has to do it. We are all different.

There have been several threads about anal in the forum. You should go back and read them to find more helpful suggestions.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!!
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 1:45:19 PM

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TheDevilsWeakness wrote:
try lying on your side in the spooning position with him. Its the least painful position I've found so far.


Another good one for beginners is laying on your stomach with your hips slightly tilted/raised and your legs between his.

Nikki703
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 2:01:14 PM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
TheDevilsWeakness wrote:
try lying on your side in the spooning position with him. Its the least painful position I've found so far.


Another good one for beginners is laying on your stomach with your hips slightly tilted/raised and your legs between his.


This is really good with a pillow or two under your stomach.
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Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 3:26:47 PM

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your ass is for waste to come out, no wonder it hurts so much when your trying to stuff a willy up there!

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TheDevilsWeakness
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 4:31:47 PM

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anonymous1526 wrote:
your ass is for waste to come out, no wonder it hurts so much when your trying to stuff a willy up there!


And your mouth is used for speaking, eating and drinking... but guys CONTINUE to try to put their "willy's" in there... I'm waiting for one of them to try my ear next

Lfunny

Nikki703
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 4:54:19 PM

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anonymous1526 wrote:
your ass is for waste to come out, no wonder it hurts so much when your trying to stuff a willy up there!


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PrettyMom
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 9:30:37 PM

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Who says that waste is all your ass was meant for? all our other orifices are multi purpose. I think if it wasn't meant to be used for sex the parts wouldn't fit, so who's to say it isn't designed for built in birth control. Having a dick shoved in it isn't all a pussy is for either and menstrual waste comes from there too.

I do think you should be doing it on your own before letting someone else try. The shower is a good place to experiment. Personally I think I'd like using a plug during sex, so that might be a good alternative to help get used to it. If I ever ask my husband to try it I'll make use of the position suggestions too.


lilnaughtymermaid
Posted: Saturday, October 08, 2011 9:16:46 AM

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Thank you so much for all of the suggestions! I'll def try the lube! You guys are awesome!!
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Posted: Thursday, January 12, 2012 3:05:13 AM

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like everyone else said, plenty of lube, a guy who knows what he's doing, slowly relaxing yourself and starting with fingers or small toys and practice
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Posted: Thursday, January 12, 2012 3:13:21 AM

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I have to be incredibly turned on and completely relaxed. Take your time and use lots of lube, be slow and gentle but you will experience some discomfort at first.
You have to open up slowly so start by using fingers instead of trying to go straight to cock.
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Posted: Thursday, January 12, 2012 3:26:06 AM

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For me it's not the fact it goes in. I don't mind. It's the movement of going in and out especially as my significant other is rather well endowed and he gets bigger. Even when I'm relaxed and well lubed it is still painful.

So any suggestions guys?

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Posted: Thursday, January 12, 2012 3:58:41 AM

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The one tip I can give is not just using lube but where you use it. Make sure you or your guy carefully works it into you, not just on the surface. This will have the added advantage of helping you get loose. I find a heating lube best.
Also before he starts be sure he is lubed too. Coat his head and shaft, stroke it in with your hand like you would during a hand job.
As said above you must be relaxed. He should use fingers first maybe even a thin dildo.
Last suggestion would be to let him try shortly after you cum through oral or toy use. That will get you hot and ready as you will ever be.
pretty_little_homo69
Posted: Sunday, February 05, 2012 12:09:09 PM

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This is a problem for me because in my head, I do fancy being fucked hard and fast but in the real world, that would plain hurt.

Ditto everyone else who said that it is really important to stay relaxed. Otherwise, the asshole simply won't give way. Gandalf himself actually appears and shouts "you shall not pass" ...True story.

Seriously though, since I'm often in the S&M game I have to get myself in the mood before hand and 'prep' my asshole. I have a but plug (which I highly recommend to anyone who wants to get started with anal sex) and play with myself before my partner arrives so that when he does, he can go straight into ripping my clothes of and pounding me. Butt plugs are great because their conical so you can slowly work your way up. Second, you can go at your own pace without worrying if your partner is getting bored or anxious. That's a HUGE bonus.



Dancing_Doll
Posted: Sunday, February 05, 2012 1:50:44 PM

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Sirene_Jaune wrote:
For me it's not the fact it goes in. I don't mind. It's the movement of going in and out especially as my significant other is rather well endowed and he gets bigger. Even when I'm relaxed and well lubed it is still painful.

So any suggestions guys?


For me, if a guy is on the very well-endowed side, anal probably isn't going to be on the menu.

I'd try it once - slowly with lots of lube - but I really think some guys are not meant to be inside an asshole. Those types are usually far and few between though, and mostly hang out on the internet, where we all know that legions of men with anaconda-sized dicks apparently reside.

I guess there are those 'buttplug trainers' that graduate up in size if it's that important, but if you're relaxed, deeply lubed and still unable to enjoy it after the first few minutes, I think it's just something to chalk up to the fact that an ass isn't a 'one-size-fits-all' orifice.


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only have anal with men with smaller penises? No, that's a serious suggestion - i think some men are just too big for some of us smaller girls to be comfortable with anal unless we've had a lot of experience with it.

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Posted: Monday, February 06, 2012 7:05:03 AM

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The best lube I've used was Astroglide. It's very thick and stays lubricated a long time
Nikki703
Posted: Monday, February 06, 2012 7:43:33 AM

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sprite wrote:
only have anal with men with smaller penises? No, that's a serious suggestion - i think some men are just too big for some of us smaller girls to be comfortable with anal unless we've had a lot of experience with it.


So True!! Real life isnt a porn movie where an anal virgin easily takes a 10" monster in her ass. It just doesnt work that way.
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Posted: Monday, February 06, 2012 9:31:14 AM

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Thanks to all the ladies who offered their knowledge. I've always wanted to try anal sex with mrs P. She seems willing to give it a go, but the one time I thought we were ready to give it a go, she asked me to not hurt her. I was scared off until I read this thread. Thank you so much for being open and honest.
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Posted: Monday, February 06, 2012 1:31:26 PM

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You have to have total trust in your lover, and relax, relax, relax !! To this, add a bit of lube and it's heaven-sent sex. An intense feeling of physical closeness.
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Posted: Monday, February 06, 2012 1:39:24 PM

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I am sure most of us had some level of discomfort with this activity the first time or three. All of the Sister above have made good comments, on which I do not think I have to expand.

But even if you accept some level of discomfort for that guy, most likely you will find the day when Anal is just as much for you as it is for him. Maybe more so.
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Posted: Monday, February 06, 2012 4:05:55 PM

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papochulo wrote:
The best lube I've used was Astroglide. It's very thick and stays lubricated a long time


True... the right lube is important, especially with a more well-endowed guy.

There are also special 'anal-lubes' out there too for anyone that is interested. They are usually thicker and messier but might be worth trying if regular lube seems too watery or insignificant.

FYI from Wikipedia:
Anal-specific Lubricants
Many lubricants are safe for anal sex, but there are products that are specifically marketed or designed to enhance enjoyment of anal sex. Often, this is simply a thicker gel rather than a liquid. This thicker consistency is preferred because it helps the lubricant stay in place. Some lubricants contain benzocaine, an anesthetic. However, the use of any numbing agent for anal penetration is not recommended as a lack of sensation makes accidental injury more likely. In addition, benzocaine can cause an allergic reaction in those with an allergy to PABA (4-Aminobenzoic acid). Some lubricants are conveniently packaged for ease of application. Many of these products such as Astroglide Shooters have been pulled from the market recently due to FDA Medical Device Requirements. Products containing benzocaine can numb all body parts with which they come in contact.

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Posted: Monday, February 06, 2012 4:14:30 PM

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anonymous1526 wrote:
your ass is for waste to come out, no wonder it hurts so much when your trying to stuff a willy up there!


I assume that you only have sex when you're trying to conceive then?
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TheDevilsWeakness wrote:


And your mouth is used for speaking, eating and drinking... but guys CONTINUE to try to put their "willy's" in there... I'm waiting for one of them to try my ear next

Lfunny


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swollen wrote:
You have to have total trust in your lover, and relax, relax, relax !! To this, add a bit of lube and it's heaven-sent sex. An intense feeling of physical closeness.


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